Thanks for stopping by my post. My friend introduced me to this site a couple of days ago and since then…I haven’t been getting much done at work. My issue is support from home. My husband is not supportive at all of my wanting to lose weight. I want to be able to buy cute clothes. I want to be able to sit down and be able to breathe. I want to wake up feeling good. I want to go to places and actually enjoy going. When I bring up that I want to exercise and walk all I get is, “how long is it going to last this time?”. I know I can do this, but I would really like for him to be supportive. What do I say to him when I get responses like that?
If you have commited to making yourself a happier, healthier, thinner person then you should be frank with him. Tell him that this is a lifelong commitment, not some fad that you're going through. Tell him all your reasons and let him know how important this is to you.
I am sorry that he is not supportive and if you can't get him to understand, there is lots of support here for you!
Why does your husband not support you in becoming more healthy and happy? Do it for you anyway. My best friend had a similar problem. Turns out by her changing her eating habits rubbed off on his brown bagged lunches and their night time snacks- he lost 40 pounds. (Without even eally trying! GRRRRRRRRRRRRR). Good luck!
Hi birthdaygrl66! You have come to the right place! You will get the support you need this time, so that not only can you "say" something to your husband in response to his question, but you can "show" him! The key is to read lots and post lots! Everyone here is going to support you! You'll see! Get excited about this for yourself. I know having an unsupportive husband can be discouraging. My husband was like that years ago, but luckily for me, he has completely turned that around. It doesn't mean he's ready to work on his weight yet, but he does encourage me. You cannot let whatever your husband's feelings and issues about your weight loss are stop you from doing it for you! You have one life--yours--so live that journey the way you want to! There are some wonderful challenges that can keep your motivation high on this page: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=159. If any interest you, just jump right in! Good luck! You can do it!
Not sure why is chooses not to support me. When I attempt to question him about it he gives me the silent treatment. He did make me angry enough last night that I walked three miles. I brought up the walking because I thought is would be something we could do together and have fun and get a little exercise.
Then don't question him, or ask him to join you. It could be that that's his problem--maybe he's not mentally ready to make a healthy change in his life yet (like my husband) and by you deciding to make a change, he feels pressured, even though that's not your intention. Let him be who he is--a grown man who can make his own decisions--but you be who you are--a grown woman who wants to make a change in her life so that she can be healthy and happy for many years to come! What a wonderful decision to have made!
I start things all the time and lots of them never get finished. I need to understand that it's not my job to convince people that I can and will do 'something'. They can choose to believe whatever they want. And I will do what I'm going to do.
On the other hand ... I, too, know that I don't finish things very well. But my brain ... I can work on.
Welcome! Surf around and settle in! We have forums based on age, eating plan, exercise and more!
All you can control is your own actions. We need to lose weight for ourselves, and we need to control the steps that get the weight off and keep it off. You can do this!
Up off of the couch and out with the ice cream!
