REFUSE to be 40 AND fat...I can only lie about one!!

  • Hi all;
    Found this site totally by acident...kismet??? I am new to this site but not new to trying to lose weight. I have lost and gained the same 30 lbs for years now and each time it is getting harder to lose. I usually do the Weight watchers thing but found the last go around the level of Honest support wasn't sincere, and thats what I need. The husband person says he loves me no matter how heavy I am but I wish I could. I am a few months away from my 4oth birthday and feel like I am running out of time to get onboard to a healthier lifestyle. I am a cancer survivor who went through menopause early due to the chemo drugs and have been spinning my wheels and eating emotionally(....why cant I run on the tread mill emotionally?? why is it always stuffing down the feelings with cookies!!??) I need to learn some new habits and surround myself with people who know how I feel and can help each other make some changes.
    I hope we can help each other...lord knows I need all the help I can get!! ha ha!
  • Hi Ms. British Columbia!

    I am in the same boat (almost). I have known of this site for couple of years but just signed up and started posting last week or so. I just turned 40 myself less than 2 weeks ago. Actually, I look at your weight and height and wish that were me. I am nearly 200 and 5'1". I know it is not much help but it could be worse. Some of us need to lose a lot more. But this is about helping YOU. Since I haven't quite found it within myself to do what I need to do, I don't feel qualified to tell you specifics. Although, I do know enough about losing weight that I could be a guru. I just don't do it. For me, a self-esteem problem and maybe deeper....

    Anyway, you just have to reach down and pick yourself up! I tell myself now, "I REFUSE TO DO THIS TO MYSELF ANY LONGER!" The only way to be healthy and happy is to actually do the work it requires. It won't be easy, but you have to DECIDE. So, the very first thing is to really DECIDE that you want to change. Then, follow through with it. Find out which "plan" is best for you. For me, I am going to just scale way back on everything but not let myself be hungry. I have been drinking water all weekend (which I hate) but it is not so bad. I have also found that I am not as hungry when I drink the water. I have been on so many "restrictive" diets that I refuse to cut out any one food group (such as carbs). For me, it is going to be everything in moderation. Also, you have to MOVE. Exercise is key and I hate it. I am dealing with some injuries right now so it makes it especially difficult.

    Bottom line: YOU CAN DO IT ONCE YOU MAKE THE DECISION.

    Sorry to ramble.

    Blessings to you on your journey.
  • I am almost 39........I feel your pain........40 is scary in many ways.But it is what it is.I know many hot 40 year olds.It is possible!?!?
  • Hello, and welcome to the site!

    I am 42, and started reclaiming my body a year ago and just a few lbs heavier than what you are now. It is doable. I finally decided that it is up to me to change my lifestyle in order to reclaim my body; no one else is going to do it for me. It has to be for me, by me, and I believe that I am worth it.

    You can do this too, one step at a time, one eating habit at a time, one more new movement at a time...you can do it too. You have thirty pounds to remove, completely doable in a year at a weight loss of less than 1 lb per week. Set some goals, read up on how to do what you desire, make some plans and put them into action. See yourself thin, think yourself thin...believe in you 'cause you can do it, it is up to you.


    Lou
  • Welcome to 3FC. I have posted here many times about losing the same 30lbs. over and over. Each time I would gain it back and then some. I am currently at the 30 lbs loss point and with the tools and support I have I KNOW that this time I will get over that hurdle.

    I know you are not 40 yet but we have a great group over at the 40 somethings support area and I know you will fit right in. Come join us!!!
  • Welcome to 3FC! Surf around and settle in! We have subforums based on age, eating plan, exercise and more. I'm glad you're here!
  • I think you are awesome and inspiring. I wish you well.
  • I could have typed your post!!!!!!! Best of luck on your journey