[SandysABigBootyMomma]

Hello everyone! I'm Sandy. I just stumbled onto this site while researching diets. I've read quite a few of the posts and felt an amazing connection to most of the people who are on here. I figured I would join and hopefully gain alot of valuable help and insight with my own struggle.

So, here's my story... I'm 34 and have been "fluffy" most of my life. I've went thru periods of being at a healthy weight, and sometimes underweight, but I ALWAYS find my way back to "pleasantly plump". Maybe it's genetics, or my lack of caring until now, but I am REALLY ready to do this. I'm tired of being fat!
I now have a son, Lex, who is about to turn 11 months old. I love him more than anything on this earth, so I want to be around when he grows up. I gained alot of weight during pregnancy and within 2 months of his birth, I dropped it. I decided eventually I didn't want to go back to work. I am now a stay-at-home mom and have gained it all back, plus more. I didn't realize until right after the holidays of how much I've gained. It's quite a humbling moment when you realize your "fat" clothes are getting a little tight!

As for what got me here to this point besides the obvious? I finally reached my breaking point last night. My fiancee who is the love of my life and I don't think would ever do anything to intentionally hurt my feelings actually made a fat joke at my expense. Granted, it was only us there, but it hurt nonetheless. I cried, and he tried to apologize, but it was done. In an attempt to remedy his mistake, he began to hug me and kiss me and tell me how beautiful I am to him. It ended up with him trying to initiate some "make-up loving". Without getting too graphic, let's just say that it was during this I realized how uncomfortable lovemaking can be when your stomach is so obviously THERE and in the way.

Well, that's me in a nutshell. I love food. I hate exercising. If it wasn't for this big body, I'd be pretty darn content with my life. I'm 5'3" and at about 200 right now. I want to try to lose about 70-75 lbs by my 35th birthday in October. I don't know how realistic that goal is, but I can try, right? Then I have to work on quitting smoking as well. One thing at a time though.
I'm hoping to make friends and get advice from anyone that has advice to give. I don't know which diet I will go with yet, but I'm still trying to decide which would be best. I'm leaning toward Jenny Craig and NutriSystem (those ads can reel you in, huh?), but who knows?!!

Nice to meet you all!
Sandy
P.S. Where did everyone get those cute little tickers in their signatures?

[grapefruitisgrody]

Hi Sandy! I'm new here, too.

I'm actually originally from Macomb county and DH is from down near Dearborn Hts. Anyway, I wanted to say that we tried Nutrisystem and it was pretty expensive and the food (in my opinion) was not good. Yes, there was "portion control" to be learned.... but it was not something I could stick with for a long time.

I had a son who lived from March 4-12 last year -- he was born 17 weeks prematurely. He would probably be about your little guy's age. Give that little guy a hug when he wakes up in the morning.

Good luck! We can do it!

[ennay]

Sandy

We have forums for both Jenny Craig and Nutrisystem so you can get opinions from those who are trying them, and we have forums for just about everything! Many of us pieced together our own "diet" out of pieces of what worked and didnt for us.

My little boy is 15 months...ack 16 months!!!

Grapefruit, I am so sorry to hear about your baby

Sandy - after you have been here awhile you can get a ticker to add to your sig. It isnt available along with posting links and some other anti-spam stuff for awhile.

[SandysABigBootyMomma]

Grapefruit,
Thank you for the warm welcome! It's nice to have a "neighbor" who's going through the same struggles with weight loss. I hope that we can keep in touch throughout our journey.
My heart goes out to you regarding your loss. I experienced 4 miscarriages before having my son. In 2003, I had a son that was born at 22 weeks and lived for 1.5 hours. He was too tiny to survive, but he tried. It was heartwrenching. A year later, I had a daughter who was stillborn at 24 weeks. After those last two losses, I never wanted to try again. I never wanted to go through that pain again. I thought if I did, I would end up in a mental institution or worse.
But I became pregnant again. My son was born March 15, 2007 and he was 7 weeks early. I was scared throughout my entire pregnancy, but we made it.
The pain of my losses has never completely gone away, but it does fade in time. And I have total faith that I will see them all again someday. But for now, they are my little angels watching over me and their little brother. That's comforting for me.
You're in my prayers!
~Sandy~

[SandysABigBootyMomma]

Thank you so much Ennay!
I appreciate your help! I will definitely be checking out those forums. Do you know if there is one for this Medifast plan as well? Never heard of it til now.
I guess I need to sit down and see what's all on here to familiarize myself with it! I would love to find out more about how stay-at-home mom's fit exercise into their lives and find the motivation to start!
Your little boy is a cutiepie! Is that your little girl in your avatar? She's a very pretty girl! How blessed you are!
~Sandy~

[grapefruitisgrody]

[ellis]

Oh, my goodness. I just came in to welcome you, Sandy, but I'm sending out hugs for you and Grapefruit. I'm so sorry about your babies.

And welcome, Sandy. I see you found the Medifast forum. Best wishes to you! Your story is very familiar to many of us.