hi Boosha!
I've been a member here for quite a while, but I rarely post. Two jobs, two teenage daughters, and full time school keep me more than occupied.
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was more than just chubby, I fell into the morbid obesity range. There is a strange parallel that comes along with obesity (or even just being overweight). On one hand people stare, gawk, make comments under their breath etc... On the other hand people ignore or overlook obesity in general. It's as if they DO see us, but to acknowledge that we exist would mean facing down the idea that they, too, could someday become us - or perhaps already are, and they are unwilling to face their own faults.
There is also the (very inaccurate) "lazy" or "unkempt" stigma that comes with excess weight, which makes it more difficult to be considered for a job - in any market - not just NYC. I live in Southern California - The perfectly tanned, well manicured, blonde bombshell capital of the world and I am a freckle-faced, ghostly-pale, breastless, redhead who also happens to be formerly morbidly obese (now I'm a size 4). I stuck out like a sore thumb (IMO) and I STILL got overlooked.
~Now that we've gotten the pity party out of the way~
WELCOME!
The fact that you are here and you are seeking a healthier lifestyle and wanting to improve yourself is a huge step in the right direction. In my weight loss journey and even during maintainence I have noticed that the more I improve myself the more people take notice. It will take time - and lots of it. Not everyone is going to rush in with hoorahs for losing a pound or two. What you will see is a change in yourself. There will be a shift in feeling self pity to feeling self worth which will ultimately reflect on the people you meet in your day-to-day life.
Stay focused on loving yourself - people WILL notice
Jane