[arabian princess]

hey im new

and im over weight and its killing me ... i tried everything and but the scale god my worst nightmare i dont get any support back at home whenever i start on something a member of the family ends up ruining it .. it might be by a sarcastic joke or Critising my new food habbit ... i really hate my body iv got a small waist but i need to loss weight from my hips and bottucks i got alot of cellulite in my hips and bottucks would it dissapear if i lost the weight and its driving me crazy .... im an emotional eater and when im depressed and when i crave on food it depresses me more i gained 10 kg from last summer my dad was in the hospital and he had a brain stroke and i ended up comforting myself by food and now i dont know how to start losing it

im on turbo jam excercise but i dont like to stick to her deit program id rather eat in small protions


im 67kg and i want to reach 50kg


wish me luck

how long would it take me to reach my goal ...

[HeatherAngel]

Okay, first of all - take a deep breath and let it out... feel better? This is a wonderful place to be.

Now - let's look at this rationally: first of all, congratulations for deciding to change your life - you CAN do this... absolutely!! Read through the goal and mini-goal posts - very inspiring for low moments!!

Well done on getting in the exercise, that is SO important! Well done so far, girl!

Are you really 'depressed'? Are you actually suffering from clinical depression, possibly on medication, or is this a phrase you use to refer to 'feeling down' when all willpower wants to run away and leave you raiding the fridge? We have an excellent support thread for depression; if this is something you suffer from, please join us there

Now I'd like to give you some powerful advice: "i dont get any support back at home whenever i start on something a member of the family ends up ruining it .. it might be by a sarcastic joke or Critising my new food habbit ..." NO! Let me say this again - NO! !!! NO ONE can sabotage your weight loss EXCEPT YOU. Yes, their words may hurt and upset you, but honey - YOU are in charge of what goes in your mouth, NO ONE ELSE. Read this paragraph again - go on. Because it wasn't until I realised this myself, and stopped blaming everyone else for me being fat, and started being responsible for my OWN life and actions, that I was able to lose weight.

You CAN do this - but you have to make a commitment to yourself, and ignore what others say... it is so very easy to use other people's words as a 'reason' to fail. DON'T! Just do what YOU need to do - FOR YOU.

Keep posting here so that we get to know you - it's good to see you here

Heather

[bargoo]

I have also found that the less you say about dieting, wanting to lose weight, etc. to those who criticize or are sarcastic, the better. It just seems that when we announce that we are dieting, there are people who just can't resist making unwanted comments. I just act like I don't feel like mashed potatoes, ice cream , cake, pie or whatever today.That keeps the diet police quiet.

[salsa sarah]

Dear Arabian Princess

I know what your going through. In the past I did the Adkins diet and lost 50lbs. The whole time my former best friend would tees me and tell me uuuuuum this ice cream/pizza/donut (anything she was eating that I wasnt) is soooo good. Then she would say That I was conceded. You see, what happens is people get used to you how you are. They get used to having some one around who dosent like themselves. And Sadly they look at you to feel better about themselves. So guess what happens when you go on a diet? they get worried. they dont want a stong confident friend around. They want a fat self hating stepping stone in there daily life. So they start picing on you trying to get you to stop your diet. But you have to keep going. Expect people to be intimidated by this and try to move past there jealous comments. You can do this ,you can do this ,YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
Just take a deep breath and say it for you and no one els because YOU deserve it

[arabian princess]

thank u all i swear u truely lift spirit heather angel what u said is true its the thing i tried avoiding to hear its not really their fault its my own i copied pasted what u wrote above on post note in my laptop so itll remind me whenever im down

bargoo i never had that in mind its such a good idea the least i show im not on a deit the better thanks

salsa sara wow 5o lbs u showed be proud of urself real u going through all that temptation u actaully made it really inspired me ...


thanks guys now i seriously beleive i can do it

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