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For 36 years, I’ve been a mother… & for the first half of those years, I was raising my son at home as a single mother… & for all those first 18 years, I thought I had to act like a mother, subdued, NOT sexy, NOT cute, NOT pretty, NOT exciting, NOT daring or bold, NOT valuable for anything else, NOT youthful, NOT fashionable, among a lot of other NOTs… in other words, frumpy & boring… & that was okay then, while he was living at home & maybe while he was in college… but what kept me from snapping out of it once he got married & was out on his own?.. I was in a rut… The Motherhood Rut…
Now, how do I get out of the Rut & become a youthful, active, positive person?.. a YAPP!.. nowadays, I find myself in a constant conflict between the mother I've been all these years & the exciting, sexy, daring, pretty woman I want to be, the one I know I can be… I don’t have any desire to go out bar-hopping, but there must be some other way…
Anybody?..
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Ah yes the motherhood rut. Having kids really changes us doesn't it? I often think about that carefree person that I used to be, and think what happened to her? I never cared what people thought, I lived in the moment and had a lot of fun. And now, I am just not that creative to make my own fun anymore. I used to love to just run around with my friends all day and all night, most of the time just driving around doing nothing, but it seemed so fun at the time. Now it just seems like a waste of time, I could be cleaning or fixing or cooking or working. I struggled whether or not to do this diet. I thought it was too selfish to spend that kind of money on me. Luckily my husband convinced me to do it. Originally Posted by Aunt Sheshie
Since I don't have a shrink, I'm gonna lay this on you, my wonderful IP friends... I trust y'all more than I would a shrink anyway... so here goes...For 36 years, I’ve been a mother… & for the first half of those years, I was raising my son at home as a single mother… & for all those first 18 years, I thought I had to act like a mother, subdued, NOT sexy, NOT cute, NOT pretty, NOT exciting, NOT daring or bold, NOT valuable for anything else, NOT youthful, NOT fashionable, among a lot of other NOTs… in other words, frumpy & boring… & that was okay then, while he was living at home & maybe while he was in college… but what kept me from snapping out of it once he got married & was out on his own?.. I was in a rut… The Motherhood Rut…
Now, how do I get out of the Rut & become a youthful, active, positive person?.. a YAPP!.. nowadays, I find myself in a constant conflict between the mother I've been all these years & the exciting, sexy, daring, pretty woman I want to be, the one I know I can be… I don’t have any desire to go out bar-hopping, but there must be some other way…
Anybody?..
hugs
What about taking some classes? I have met some wonderful people taking classes. I love to learn new things, and I like to know how things work, and how to do things. If my kids were grown, I would take classes all the time. Other than college classes, you could take dance classes or knitting or painting/art classes.
when I started to lose weight, I took up belly dancing classes... WHAT A WORK OUT...and had my belly button pierced...and a 'lipstick kiss' tattoo on the back of my right shoulder... in soft pink. Manicures / pedicures are a great idea too 
I must confess that I have been buying bras at the Dollar Plus store (for about $2.49 each) and underwear at Costco for years now! 
