I'm counting calories, but I want to also know how many fat grams do you aim stay between? What is your average?

You'll get lots of different answers for this one! I like to stay under 20% of calories. I say I like because I don't always manage. Today that is 39 gms. Yesterday was only 26 gms.

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I can't ever seem to get it below the 30 grams I set for myself. calories are okay. Carbs seem really high considering many are low carb. Personally I don't subscribe to REALLY low or no carbs, but I don't want too many either. Have no idea on proteins.

Just look at the things you're eating and watch what has fat in it. Look to other foods you like and see what changes you can make. A lot of this is trail and error.
And keep asking questions that's another way we learn.