[mom2cole]

Here is the thing, my cousin is getting married on Sept 16 and I haven't seen a lot of my extended family for two years. At that time I was around 185 pounds, I am now at 153. I found this dress that I just love at Eddie Bauer earlier this summer and didn't buy it since it was $100. I was looking on ebay and found it new for $20 in a size 8, it would fit me and I really want it to wear but I thought wearing white to a wedding is a no, no. What do you think??

[DeafinlySmart]

I wouldn't.

[kaplods]

It's not as hard and fast a rule as it used to be, but alot of people still see it as "competing with the bride." I also wouldn't.

[angel-eyes]

hmmm, not only is it a rule not to wear white to a wedding, but usually not to wear white past labour day. Congratulations on your weightloss, but I"m sure you could find something else.

[susanb1960]

I think the white after labor day went out a few years back! But I wouldn't wear white either...let the bride have her day.

Have fun though!!

[Misti in Seattle]

I would wear white after Labor Day... but not to a wedding. But buy the dress anyway for that price and wear it for other special occasions!

[lilybelle]

I consider it a faux pas to wear white to someone else's wedding. We had a family wedding for my step-daughter in July with over 250 people attending. The mother of the bride wore a totally white gown. I cringed, and thought it was pretty crappy. It wasn't that she couldn't afford a different dress, she bought this one new for the wedding.

According to all the fashion mag's it is OK to wear white after labor day now, but I still don't do it.

[healthyme05]

Eeek. Fight the urge!!! Stay away from the dress (at the wedding anyway). The bride might be offended and others might think it's inappropriate.

But CONGRATS on the weight loss...I'm sure you'll find another fabulous dress in your slimmer new size!

[freiamaya]

No to the white for the wedding. Let the bride shine!
Have fun!

[fiddler]

I agree that you shouldn't wear it to the wedding. But if you love the dress, buy it anyway and save it for a different occasion. Congrats on the weight loss!

[LIL'JJ]

Congrats on being able to find the dress for such a good deal but I too wouldnt wear it to a wedding. Look on the bright side....you get to go shop for another fabulous dress to show off the new you! Good Luck !-JJ

[LiLLy19]

I have done it before.
I didnt even think about it being a competition with the bride or anything like that.
It was 1 month ago, I wore white and when I saw my (now ex) bfs brother he said "whoa you're wearing white to a wedding!" and my (now ex) bf said "yeh becareful not to steal the show"

so I guess its not a good thing to do.
But i really didnt think twice about it

[techwife]

Lilly19...how amazing the MEN noticed.

I'd skip on white...and black. Anything else is fine.

[finn]

If you love the dress so much why not buy it and dye it another colour for the wedding? you then get to wear the fabulous dress and not clash with the bride - everyone wins :-)

[Linds81]

As PP have said... wearing white to a wedding, when you are not the bride is a no no. However that being said, why don't you go ahead and buy the dress!! You've done a great job losing weight, why don't you just buy the dress as a YAY ME reward? Just a thought?