Liz321 - He isn't and that isn't a fair statement, He is being honest with how he sees and feels, he is a great guy and a wonderful father. It is now no gentle task to try and get him to think about it differently.

PrestonsMama - I am doing Sonoma and loving the recipies. You should check us out there. there are south beachers, sugerbusters and WW gals there, all loving it and checking it out. THe Book just came out Jan 1 and is very heathly, with portion control. I found with WW when I was there, I was constantly thinking about food. How much of this, and if I wanted pasta or something high points, I would starve myself all day. Was not great for me. :)

Totally Can Relate
 

I feel your pain girl. I have the SAME problem! I was talking with another girl on here who says her husband is always telling her how beautiful she is, so does my fiance, which I think does not help me lose weight. I'm losing now for MYSELF, not for him. I used to be in awesome shape 3-4 years ago. I dated a bunch of jerks and decided that if someone was going to love me, they better love me fat if I got fat or else they were not worth the time. I think my gaining weight has partly been a subconscious way of testing my fiance to see if he'll leave me. Well he's not leaving me but now I'm stuck with a body I can't stand, and a face that doesn't quite match! lol Keep your chin up!

Ahhh Tinkerbell, you are so sweet! :)

Canada
 

Totally Neck-ed...I noticed it reads Canada under your name... What part r u from?

Fellow Canadian:D

I am in Alberta. And where are you in Sask?

Yeah, so my Dear Hubby went to Hockey and told the guys he was in the dog house. I heard from my other girlfriend whose husband also plays hockey. Apparently he is feeling bad about the remark. I have noticed lately he is trying harder to be more understanding. So all is not lost. Now I just have to work on my friends and family!

hi neighbor
 

Hi neighbor...Yep, I'm in Saskatchewan..
I have relatives in Alberta.. Some in Calgary and some in Sherwood Park (near Edmonton)

So glad to see your hubby realized the unintended sting. I'm sure he ment well as do all hubbies, but they really just don't relay the message well..;)
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.. but some times I think they're all on Uranus...:D

Thanks!!

You said you didn't want to rip on hubby, and called him nearly perfect, but I have to say he's nearly a perfect (censored...rhymes with "crass") Sorry, but there's no excuse for telling you you're fat and lazy. My husband, of nearly 23 yrs, has never, ever said a mean thing about my physical appearance. I'm soooo grateful for that. Kindness and consideration go a long way in praying for a long-term, happy marriage!

oops, now I read your latest comment....hope all continues to improve! It sure is easier to keep on one's "program" when you're happy!

Maggie, Too funny.

He never once came out and said I was fat.. for the record. But I know he thinks it, and that doesn't really make me feel good as I was always "trim" in my younger years. It is actually embarrassing.

I hate running into people from the past. They say.. "Oh.. you had 3 kids" "You are married now" its funny the things people say to me.. blah blah , blah, but it really is embarrassing to know you let yourself go. If I had tried a little harder, ate less, did more, watched myself... I wouldn't have half the issues I am faced with now. Dare you to dispute it, but it does all stem from being overweight and how people look at you. Unfair or not, it is the way it is.

[QUOTE=liz321]Beauty comes from the inside.........he sounds uglier than any overweight person has ever appeared to me.

:bravo:

Totally Neck-ed - I think it's awesome that you are so supportive of your husband and that you love him so much. I just think that you deserve the same kind of respect. Yes, it's good that he's being honest. However, there are ways to be honest and loving at the same time. He could say "I think you're beautiful and I love the way you take care of our family, I just wish you'd take care of you too" or something to that effect. He could get the way he is feeling across without being offensive and hurting you. Would you say anything like that to him? Would you tell him his eyes were beautiful but his balding head "sucks?" I doubt it... Anyway, regardless of what happens I'm so sorry you're doing through this. Good luck :hug:

I'm glad too that he turned a corner. Best of luck to you guys!

Happydaisy - THanks for that. It means alot. I will see what I can do... it is a process as we all know~
Hugs!~

Originally Posted by Hunskie:
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.. but some times I think they're all on Uranus...:D

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