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punkrocksong 06-06-2013 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Wannabeskinny (Post 4764578)
Gee, if she's so bent out of shape over you helping her imagine how she would act if you really pissed her off. Worthy of a police report imo.

I didn't really think about that. The women I work with are just bitca's...I'm not worried about them slashing my tires or anything...but if this chick seems like she might be dangerous crazy, then maybe going to HR wouldn't be a terrible idea.

NemesisClaws 06-06-2013 03:15 PM

Ok, first off, I would have totally gone to town on her after she pulled that whole trash can stunt. She would've never tried it again, I can assure you that.

Secondly, I would have appreciated someone helping me out like you did. But unfortunately there are some folks who don't take it well. So my advice would be to find another job or get moved to a department far away from her. In the meantime, make sure you document everything she's doing since it is harassment and report it. I can't believe your boss only "talked" to her. I would've have written her up and put her on report pending any further incidents would have gotten her butt fired. Shame that there's too many such bosses like these nowadays....

franciejones 06-06-2013 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by DazeGypsy (Post 4763688)
This is just venting...

I have been at my current job 2.5 years. Back in January I was moved to a new department. The woman who relives me when my shift is over is about my age. Her and I chatted a little at first when she was coming in and I was leaving.

One day I took a half a vacation day. I had twenty minutes to kill before I had to leave, so I did all the set up stuff she would have to do before starting. I just did it to kill time. Doing that isn't against the rules, in fact my employer encourages it. I made sure all her paperwork was ready and all copies were made, I made sure her station was completely stocked with everything, etc. Well, four hours later when she came in, I guess she was pissed off that I did this. She took it like I was saying she is too incompetent to do her own set up or something.

Every night after that, I had to deal with dirty looks and snotty comments from her.

One night 15 minutes before the end of my shift (our shifts overlap by twenty minutes) I went to the bathroom. When I came back, my coat and my bag were laying in the middle of the floor, with my trash can dumped out on top of them and the can itself setting on top my coat. There was a note taped to the trash can. It said, "Empty your own damn trash, I'm not your Mommy." And then she stood there smirking and staring at me the whole time I cleaned it up. And the sad part is I was going to empty the trash as soon as I came back from the bathroom. If she would have waited two minutes that all could have been avoided.

I went to our supervisor about that. He talked to her.

Shortly after that she was moved out of my department. It had nothing to do with that incident. Her and one other guy were moved because there was an urgent need for two people in another department, and our department was overstaffed.

There is a cardboard covered wall at the back of our area where people in my department write things a lot. I don't know when this started. But it says stuff like "Janet went to the doctor today." and then the date.

Well, a couple weeks ago I got a tattoo. It was one I had wanted for a while and it was kind fo a reward for losing weight. So I put that on the wall. It's been there a couple weeks now. The other night this woman who doesn't like me had to come in and work in my department for a night. The next day (which was yesterday) I discovered what I wrote on the wall was over zealously scribbled out with a black sharpie. And she wrote next to it "Wet t-shirts and bananas!" I have no idea what that means...

I wrote below it "Ok, didn't know I wasn't allowed to write on the wall. SO SORRY, won't do it again, lmao." And I drew a big smiley face next to it as kind of a laugh at how petty and immature this is. I know it was probably not the best way to deal with it. I shouldn't have even given her a reaction. But this is just ridiculous. I haven't done jack to this woman and I really don't know what her problem is.

Someone told me she was cracking on my weight up in the break room. And someone came to my defense and said, "Well, she has lost a lot of weight." And she said, "Yea but she's still an ugly *****."

This all just seems so junior high. We are adults here and it's getting old.

Rant over...

I have a work bully too. It is so stressful and scary. You are not alone. Huggles to you.

Silverfire 06-06-2013 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Wannabeskinny (Post 4764578)
Uhmmm, am I the only one who thinks that this is hostile and dangerous behavior towards the OP? I would be in constant fear if something like that happened to me, I'd be looking for another job, I wouldn't want to be afraid of someone so volatile and aggressive.

Gee, if she's so bent out of shape over you helping her imagine how she would act if you really pissed her off. Worthy of a police report imo.

I don't think a police report is necessary... yet. But the people who said that OP should be documenting and keeping track of any other instances like it is very very good advice. If it keeps happening, then take it up the food chain at work AND file a police report. Toss in a restraining order too if it makes you more comfortable. Just watch your back and be prepared to escalate things to upper management/HR whatever is going to get the best results.

Missy Krissy 06-06-2013 08:47 PM

Yikes! There's only one person that I can think of in my work history that behaved sort of like that... For some reason she just had it in for me! No idea why, I had never done anything to offend or hurt her (to my knowledge).

Keeping your distance from this person is probably best (but as I write this, I understand it isn't always possible). It's good that your supervisor knows about her behavior, but I'm kind of shocked she still has a job after that! Does she treat other people this way too??? She sounds like she's crazy sauce. Good luck!

ddovii 06-08-2013 03:19 PM

Wow, and I was thinking this week that my co-workers sometimes remind me of "mean girls" I went to boarding school with (and they're grown men lol), but they've got nothing on this lady.

I'm sorry you have to work with this person. If it's any consolation, she sure is wrapped up in/obsessed with you. When people hate that hard, I'm sure they make themselves pretty miserable.

BellaLucia 06-08-2013 04:11 PM

DazeGypsy, I feel for you! God Bless u!

pixie3208 06-13-2013 04:41 AM

Wow shes an odd one! Shitty that she treats you that way. Jealous people can be nasty. Who gets mad over someone helping them out?!? You can come do work for me anytime! :)

livelaughlovesunshin 06-13-2013 08:30 PM

What a psycho!
I don't think that you should just smile and ignore it. She has no right to treat you like that. If she can't put on her big girl panties and act mature, then the supervisor/hr needs to know.


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