^^I used to be like this too.

I have since figured out WHY this kept happening.

These kinds of men do the same thing to other women too - but I think sometimes we are so excited at the prospect of a decent date that we ignore the obvious signs.

For example, the texting. You see how many girls here respond that it's baiting? I used to entertain those kinds of texts. After I realized what was happening, I refused to do that anymore. Men like this lose interest very quickly, because they have so little invested. Women who do not tolerate this, do not even get to the point of involvement like some do.

It is literally like they toss out bait for lots of girls and unfortunately those who are not guarded are the ones who get hooked. That's just my own experience.

We say, "why do we attract jerks" - the truth is, all women attract jerks. The question to ask yourself is - "why do we entertain these jerks beyond the first text?"...

I'm happily married now to a wonderful man. Looking back now with a clear mind and in a respectful relationship, I can see all the red flags that were smacking me in the face.

You think those are the two only guys that have lied? Ha! Everybody lies.

Exactly. Because men seen texting and communication way way way differently than we do. Women are capable of believing that the more "communication" there is the more serious this relationship becomes. Men don't actually think this way at all. A man who chooses to text you is actually keeping you at arms length. Texting is no more than a video game for them.

I stand by what I say. If a man wants you, he calls you and he comes and sees you. He doesn't just make an effort, he makes it happen.

That is what I thought too. And besides... getting guys to TALK like we women want them to? Forget it... it won't happen with most of them :rofl: Get a best friend for that. :dance:

Thanks for this! I'm going to be in the dating world soon so I have to remember this too.

Did I say anywhere that those were the only two guys that have lied? HA.