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I'm friendless as well. Am 21 years old, and don't have a single real friend to go out with or talk to. I've been a socially isolated loner for literally my entire life. I have bad social anxiety and terrible social/conversation skills. I've tried to change things and make friends, but I always, ALWAYS fail at it. It sucks being alone, but at this point I'm just trying to learn to accept my aloneness, even though I hate it. I'm done with continuously trying to make friends and continuously failing and being disappointed. I won't be making friends any time soon (if ever), and I'll just have to accept that.

It is hard to accept. I know I'm a nice person with good traits for a friend (loyal, honest, punctual) but I've come to the conclusion that I must be boring. My "friends" never hesitate to contact me when their lives are going to heck and they need a shoulder to cry on. But as soon as their lives are back on track, they call other people to go out and have fun with.

SweetAsCanBe, this must all be very hard for you.

I too have a toxic friend. Well, semi-toxic. She is not supportive of my weightloss. She tries to sabotage my diet. She never helps me. I need to be more like you and end my relationship.

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Originally Posted by SweetAsCanBe (Post 4666462)

I guess I'm just a bit odd. I never fit in. My last job everyone avoided me cause I didn't have any fun drunk stories. Sorry I'd rather be with my kids than out drinking and driving. I do drink once in a while, maybe once a year, but not much interest.

This stuck out at me. It sounds a bit judgmental. You may not have anything in common with these people but that's not necessarily why you're being avoided. I make small talk with people I have nothing in common with all the time. Sometimes I feel like I'm isolated and avoided because of my weight but if you're putting out the vibe that you don't drink and that you judge people for drinking then it's a no brainer that they will avoid you. Nobody wants to hang out with anyone who is judgemental, sound familiar?

We've all been in a place of loneliness and isolation, I can certainly sympathize. Have you tried joining a book club, or a softball team, or going to a dance class, or just anything that will get you out of the house and interacting with other adults? I have a 2yr old and sometimes all I want is some adult conversation! It's important enough for our sanity to seek it out.