How did you all meet your significant others? I'm 32 and would really like to find someone special (some of you may have seen my crush post below, I haven't ruled that out yet but I still think its unlikely and whatever will be will be). I'd like to more actively seek someone out.
Here's the thing - I've tried online dating - A LOT. And it just hasn't worked out. I also live in a geographic region (AZ) that seems to be pretty fat phobic. I had no trouble finding dates when I lived in NYC. The problem with online dating, is that I am so much more awesome in person than a profile can convey. And people online are more superficial (including myself - it becomes almost like window shopping). I definitely have a personality that can help compensate for not being conventionally hot - so online puts me at a disadvantage in many ways.
So what else can I do? How can I meet someone? Any advice is appreciated. And, I'd love to hear your stories of how you met your special someone!
I met mine at my work place, at a company BBQ, I didn't have 25 cents for cheese for my burger so he bought me a slice We didn't start dating until a few months after that though! He doesn't work with me anymore, part of me misses it, part of me is glad!!
I met my exhusband by asking him to dance. I was 17 at the time, he was 21 and I was overweight then. It was good for a while but the last couple years before the divorce were terrible and I gained up to 344 lbs. Was married from age 19 to 25, divorced for almost a year now. During my divorce last year I met my ex BF at an air show, another ex bf I met at Best Buy, ex BF after that I met thru online dating and current love of my life I met thru online dating. For myself I need to end up in a larger city after graduation so I have not actively looked for a SO in my town and put in my profile my situation and that I'm very open to relocating. He knows that I'm actively working to lose weight (currently 312) and loves me for me. No matter what size. I do think it's harder for us larger girls but not by any means impossible.
Last edited by stunningsparkle; 02-25-2013 at 02:01 PM.
I met my love on OKCupid after quite a few crazy dates.
Have you tried Meetup.com? It is not a dating site, but a good place to meet others with like interests.
I have to say, though, that I was asked out quite a few times when I was contra-dancing regularly. I was already in a committed relationship by then, but it was nice to get asked out by normal men around my age (40).
I managed a commercial department and had switched stores on the day my hubby started. I was his boss and older than him, only a few years but at the time it seemed like I was cradle robbing, especially being his boss. We worked together a month before we hung out and the rest is history. We had to hide our relationship so it was pretty funny how everyone knew he had the hots for me and thought he was too scared to do anything about it, they even called him gay.
He was so sweet, respectful and cute so I said to myself " he will be mine"
I met my gf through a blog-type site. Actually I signed up for it to complain about my ex (who I'd met on a different blogging site. i sound nuts, oh well). We talked as friends for like a year and then wound up in a relationship. It's funny because neither time I've been in a relationship with someone I met online has been through a dating site or an actual effort to meet a romantic partner online. It just happened. (I've dated online too from dating sites, but never ended up with any of them)
We went to a very tiny college - but more applicable for you, we had mutual friends and started hanging out together along with our friends.
I'm rather perplexed observing my own friends - a lot are into online dating but IMO there are plenty of attractive single men and women in our greater social circles. Of course I wouldn't want to meddle to the level of setting anyone up, but I'm just not sure why all these great people aren't getting together. Not brave enough to risk expressing interest, or not open enough to exploring dating an acquaintance?
I met DH at a Mensa convention at a late night card game. I lived in Ohio; he lived in St Louis; we met in Chicago. We didn't see each other again for 9 months and then ran into each other again at an event in St Paul, MN. We've been together ever since.
I met my first husband through a magazine personal ad (it was before on-line).
Goth rave lol I don't know if that'll help you but just replace 'goth rave' with 'party with your scene' yea. But I don't know if meeting someone at a drunken party is all that good really, I just got lucky.
Work, my husband was actually married when we first met and we didn't live in the same state let alone city. Then we worked together in the same building, then he left the company, then he came back to the company, then he was going through a divorce and we became closer friends after that (I had just gone through a difficult breakup so we commiserated). Then we started dating, after about 5 years after we initially met. And we've been together for nearly 8 years.
I'm rather perplexed observing my own friends - a lot are into online dating but IMO there are plenty of attractive single men and women in our greater social circles. Of course I wouldn't want to meddle to the level of setting anyone up, but I'm just not sure why all these great people aren't getting together. Not brave enough to risk expressing interest, or not open enough to exploring dating an acquaintance?
I would hate to muck up an existing social dynamic. Dating within my group of friends feels like incest - but friends of friends is different of course.
Right now there's a lot of inter-sexing/dating in my local crew of 10-12 people. It feels like walking on eggshells to be around them, some people know things while others don't, when there are fights it's AWKWARD for everyone!
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Goth rave lol I don't know if that'll help you but just replace 'goth rave' with 'party with your scene' yea. But I don't know if meeting someone at a drunken party is all that good really, I just got lucky.
My husband and I went to high school together but we didn't actually talk at all. I got his email address from a friend of mine that had taken him to prom and we chatted on MSN messenger for about a year before finally meeting up! We've been together for 8 years, married for 3.
How Did you All Meet your Significant Others?
We didn't start dating until a few months after that though! He doesn't work with me anymore, part of me misses it, part of me is glad!!
i sound nuts, oh well). We talked as friends for like a year and then wound up in a relationship. It's funny because neither time I've been in a relationship with someone I met online has been through a dating site or an actual effort to meet a romantic partner online. It just happened. (I've dated online too from dating sites, but never ended up with any of them)
