So I have a friend named Collin. Collin just got of a relationship a month ago I believe. So I've been helping him get over that. Anyway, I let it slip that I liked him. Okay, maybe not slipped. I was extremely open about it. I'm NEVER open about liking people. But I got a vibe that he liked me too, you know? So I just put my feelings out there. Sunday, he was all flirty and stuff. But yesterday, he has been REALLY reclusive. He even canceled our date. Now, he says he has job interviews this week and that's all fine and good, but why is he avoiding me? I tried to ask him about it, but he never gave me an answer...
Give him a few days of space before you bring it up to him. People tend to get flighty and weird when real emotions get involved. It's sort of just a product of our culture. After that, I would try and arrange another date, and if he makes an excuse, I'd either let the topic go and leave the ball in his court, or ask him directly, depending on how "in to" this guy you are.
Maybe he got cold feet. It's really hard to know without knowing him. I wouldn't pressure him though as that might drive him away completely.
Maybe he thought he went too far with the flirting.
I would just act casual as if nothing happened and then at some stage see if you can arrange to go somewhere for a drink or to eat and then when you have his attention then you can bring it up.
I agree with giving him some space. He just got out of a relationship, do you have any information on why that relationship ended? I think this would be an important clue as to what his intentions toward you are. If, for instance, his girlfriend cheated on him, he's definitely not ready to get emotionally involved just yet, if he cheated on his girlfriend, he clearly just wants to have fun and wasn't that keen on being committed in the first place.
Anyway, for now just let him be, let him contact you if he's still interested, play a little hard to get, act like you don't really care if he's into you or not, while still hinting that you like him.
Yeah...so I caved. I FB'd him saying "hi" and then he just logged off. So i'm just gonna drop this for now. I'll try again next week or something. /: I just wish he wasn't so confusing. During the entire course of his break up last month, he was into me like nobody's business. I hadn't spoken to him for a while so I texted him Saturday and it was grand. He was flirty and everything. Monday rolls around and he shuts me out for no reason that I know of. I feel like I'm just wasting my time. Space or no space.
You have done nothing wrong -- you were a supportive friend when it was time to be a supportive friend. When you thought it was time to let him know you like him, you put it out there.
Whatever is going on in his life is whatever is going on in his life, and you have no commitments there... so move on.
He snoozes, he loses. It has nothing to do with you.
Some people just cannot handle a straight up gal. But on YOUR end, being a straight up gal actually makes life a LOT easier -- weeds out the namby pamby people who can't talk about emotion early so you can get on to the gems that might actually be a runner quicker in your dating life.
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