If you post something on facebook it is not private and of course you invite comments from others. That is the nature of the beast, wanting to be public in a social forum. Because people find something offensive does not mean they are jealous it means they find something offensive. The term does not offend me but really is just silly to me and makes no sense. But a common term used at WW.
Yes you have the right to free speech as does everyone else.

I'd just explain that it wasn't an attack on her and apologize even if you're not sorry. Keep the peace and sh!t like that.

Your friend is obviously super insecure about how she looks and has gone out of her way to take any mention of weight whatsoever as a personal attack on her fat.

One thing that I've learned from being on the internet (mostly forums-I don't facebook) is that there's going to be someone that you're going to offend. And there's going to be someone who offends you. You can't please everybody.

One of my favorite Dr. Suess quotes:
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Thanks to everyone who posted! I did explain to her that the skinny thing wasn't about anorexia to me, and I did it the most truthful and yet polite way I could.

I think she felt bad about what she did, because she posted something telling everyone that she's been acting like a basket case lately. if it is or if it isn't, I'm still going to take it as an apology.

And I have a confession to make. I have been reading the muscle mass percentage of my body instead of the fat percentage one. They've been blinking in the same spot, so I guess I see the "F" at first, then I see the "M" number when I look over. I'm actually at 24.7%! I'm glad that some of you asked, or I may have not noticed it for months. :D

definitely that was an apology, facebook style, lol.

and thank HEAVENS you noticed the error - can you imagine if you'd tried to bring your BF down another 10% and it's still telling you you're overfat!??

Originally Posted by Moonsai:
I feel as if I have no free speech in relation to dieting anymore. I felt like deleting my Facebook account after that.

I felt this way after a run-in with one of my hubby's cousins on Facebook. It does feel like you have no free speech because you will get blasted for anything that irritates anyone on your list. In my case I was frustrated and posted that I was having some problems and it was like having 2 kids instead of one (insinuating that my hubby had been acting childish). Well his cousin who has met me only 2x sent me this long diatribe message about how I should take my problems to him and not post them on facebook and how it won't help anything by posting on FB etc etc. Then she posted a photo on her own facebook of a little kid with the caption "Face it, don't facebook it!"

It was so ridiculous. That's the second run-in I had with her, the first being where I'd posted my opinion of something and she again laid into me and forced her opinion on me.

Now on FB I'm really careful about what I say and I have so many special groups and levels of privacy. I really want to delete the thing, it's been nothing but a bother anyway.

And I don't think your pillow graphic seemed at all offensive. Of course I had no idea it was an anorexia slogan. I took it to mean that it feels better to be healthy and thin than it does to eat a cookie and feel like poop.

I love that phrase. It doesn't only refer to anorexia. I used to have it posted so if I was craving something off-plan, I'd remember that it wasn't worth it. That cookie, which would be a momentary pleasure doesn't taste nearly as good as skinny feels. Gee, people need to not take everything as a personal attack.

HATERS SUCK. But they will always exist. No one can win the public approval of everyone else. Facebook is a perfect example, as is any other forum like this.

Suck it up. Be proud of your accomplishments and promote yourself however you deem necessary.

But think... twice.

in a way, i kinda like being me - if i haven't offended at least 3 ppl a day, then something is seriously wrong.

trolls hate it when you rise to the bait and then pull them into the deep waters of reasoned argument.