Originally Posted by juliana77:
Chances are, he isn't going to change. So I think you need to decide if you can live with this situation for the long term. It is a tough situation to be in and I feel really bad for you.

You know that he is capable of pulling his weight financially, but he chooses to live off of your generosity. My ex husband was similar, which is a major part of the reason he is now an ex.

Ditto - down to the ex husband.

You can fall in love with his "potential" but without effort, his potential means nothing.

I just wanted everyone to know, that after hearing what yal have to say, and also some good friends, I'm done with 2nd chances. I'm going to ask him to leave.

And I'm keeping the vehicle.

I paid out my booty for two years to keep him up. Why should I suffer?


Funny side note: I bought my own engagement ring. It's not even real. It has the value of sterling silver...little to nothing.

:hug:

I know breaking up is tough but I hope you come through as fast and drama free as possible!

GL!
A.

Originally Posted by LinZzZloo:
I just wanted everyone to know, that after hearing what yal have to say, and also some good friends, I'm done with 2nd chances. I'm going to ask him to leave.

And I'm keeping the vehicle.

I paid out my booty for two years to keep him up. Why should I suffer?


Funny side note: I bought my own engagement ring. It's not even real. It has the value of sterling silver...little to nothing.

You sound like a smart girl. Remember, your friends know even more than us and only want the best for you. Good luck, I think, you will not regret this especially when you look back in time.

Originally Posted by LinZzZloo:
Funny side note: I bought my own engagement ring. It's not even real. It has the value of sterling silver...little to nothing.

HAHAHA! So did I! He ordered one of those fake diamonds with my credit card... :D

Originally Posted by LinZzZloo:
I just wanted everyone to know, that after hearing what yal have to say, and also some good friends, I'm done with 2nd chances. I'm going to ask him to leave.

And I'm keeping the vehicle.

I paid out my booty for two years to keep him up. Why should I suffer?


Funny side note: I bought my own engagement ring. It's not even real. It has the value of sterling silver...little to nothing.

Oh thank god I do not have to go with wow he's brainwashed you good...because clearly he hasn't since you're able to walk away. :hug: trust me I was in a similar situation not too long ago, except my guy was mentally abusive and psychotic. You are 24, he's a 35 year old child who knocked up some poor woman and now expects someone else to take care of him and his children, which isn't a job for a 24 year old. Never settle for anything less than you deserve and that D-Bag is not someone you deserve! Good luck I hope you actually do this and walk away for good. Ugh boys suck.

:hug: