[EZMONEY]

I say before you make any rash decisions try...

notice I said try...

to have an ADULT group meeting between all of you...making known to in-laws what it is to be about beforehand...

share your concerns in positive and loving ways...

then go from there.

Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't...

you just might get lucky.

[pockets]

It seems like you need to have a sit down with your boyfriend. He doesn't have to decide between you and his mother, but there needs to be more boundaries. Can you imagine how she would be if you do get married and have children? You have to ask yourself: Is this a deal breaker? Can you live with her or without him?

I have very strong German roots, so I know this is very cultural. His mother sounds a lot like my maternal grandmother. My parents were very lucky to live 800+ miles away from my grandparents. Even then my grandmother was the biggest rift in my parents marriage.

[astrophe]

I dream of marrying my boyfriend - then I remember his over-intrusive parents and think "NO WAY in **** am I going to spend my life with him and his parents!"

Sounds like it is a deal breaker for you then. Is it?

A.

[zenor77]

Originally Posted by pockets

I have very strong German roots, so I know this is very cultural. His mother sounds a lot like my maternal grandmother. My parents were very lucky to live 800+ miles away from my grandparents. Even then my grandmother was the biggest rift in my parents marriage.

How funny. I could have written this, but didn't think about it when I originally posted.