I was constantly teased for being a 20 year old virgin that had never even held hands with a guy. But there was so much more to life than boring kiddy-pseudo adult- relationships and following society's rules. Even my own family called me spinster and tight-*** (go figure :( ).

I didn't feel though as if I was "waiting to start living". No way! I started Uni, I joined fencing tournaments, I sung in the opera choir... I did many amazing things and had a sense of accomplishment.

The ONLY thing I missed was sharing to be honest. Yeah I know it sounds weird as sharing equals sacrifice to some, but sharing experiences and life makes it somehow lovelier to me.

I reluctantly accepted to go on a date with a guy and I had all the best intentions and integrity in the world. Yet I was dumpted 4 days later because I didn't want to be physical with him until we knew each-other better. I don't blaim him, he just wanted a quick f**k and I had been too inexperienced to realise that. It was very sad for me and I felt as if there aren't people who want serious relationships in the world :D

Then I met my fiance. We met at a acting club and developed a cheerful friendship with some underlying desire. Three months later I asked him out and I haven't regreted it ever since. There existed a man exactly how I wanted him and we both changed to suit eachother as best as possible. I love changing because it is a sign that I am young yet. Only old people (in mind or body) want to stay exactly as they are.

I won't give any general advice. I sadly do not know you that well and my personal experienses aren't enough to reveal some universal truth. But I thought perhaps that sharing my story can add to that universal truth a little bit.

Never take an opinion that only came from a single person. It is statistically improbable that it will be significant enough :) Good luck on finding what you want!

I think it is just human nature to be negative and focus on what we don't have, what we think "most" people have instead of counting our blessings. Let's see, being single, no car, little money, getting older by the day, three kids I only hear from when they want something.....
Or look how great I have it, my tiny place that is easy to keep warm/cool, the opportunity to be back in school at this age, abilities physical, intellectual, musical, etc, when there are people who will never even know what it's like to be able to walk, hear, see, mothers who can't feed their children, people living in war zones their entire lives, some countries that are so poor that people battle over territory at the dump, people with terminally ill children, etc etc etc.
I am so fortunate and grateful for all I have, for all the comforts, opportunities, for this life I have been blessed with.

someone told me once....the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, but it has a septic tank too...

My new motto.

Interesting convos going on here...I agree with many people though...

Single life sucks, until you realized that you are better off with someone that is better suitted for you. Don't waste time in a bad relationship. Doing things you don't want to do. Being with someone that treats you poorly.

But when you want to date again, you must put yourself out there and find the right person.

All the single ladies! All the single ladies!

yeah I agree- single life really does suck! The crazy thing is I see cute guys and I think, I'd like to make a move but I'm too scared because I am fat!

I hate being overweight and single. :(

So true. When things get me down I realize one thing: How lucky I was to have been born in the United States; In a modern, free country. I have little to complain about.

I love your story! Almost the same as mine. I was lonely though while single. I wanted a boyfriend, but refused to compramise my moral values, so alone I stayed. Once I met my husband, everything fell into place and I was happy I stayed true. I felt that my waiting paid off. I think though that meeting him happened once I was actually happy with being single. I had accepted that I might be single for the rest of my life, and started to find a lot of good there. I'm not sure if there is a connection in that, but it helped me. :hug:

I've never been in a relationship, so I can't offer any insite into one. What I can say is that I have many friends that are incapable of functioning outside of a relationship. Enjoy the time being single, open yourself up to the possibilities of meeting new people and have some fun. :)

Such great insite from everyone!

I've been divorced for 3.5 years. I've had dates and boyfriends, blah blah blah, but no one "ideal". Not even the current one. I just keep him around for sex. LOL - JUST KIDDING! I love him, but he's still not "the ONE".

IMO, it has nothing, NOTHING, to do with fitness vs fatness. My larger friends are more desired, it seems. Maybe I need to clean up my personality. haha!

No, what I really think it is, is a larger person is "safe", takes comfort in comfortable things and enjoys what most people do - the comfort of food and the luxury of lounging. I'm sorry if that stereotype is just that, a stereotype, but that's kind of my point. When you look at someone, you judge by what you see if you want to do the same things you think they do. For most, I would think it would be more fun to sit at a movie and eat pop corn, then to ride 50 miles on bikes.

I have such a problem finding a companion who will keep up with me.

I feel like my post may be offensive, and I really hope that everyone can read it for what it's worth. Please don't consider your weight as the "problem" finding a relationship. I just don't think that's so.

It's a timing thing, and a pickiness thing. OP, decide what you want in a relationship and don't settle for less, unless you settle for great sex.

JUST KIDDING again! LOL

Meh, Single > Marriage

I've come to realize over the years of growing up and dating that I don't need anyone or have to deal with anyone else's bull**** but my own. I don't have to turn to my husband or living with boyfriend if I can go do something. I don't have to rush home from hanging out with girlfriends just so I can get quality time in with someone I live with. I don't have rules, I don't have set times. When I go out I go out! When and if I wanted to pack up and move someplace else and enjoy it I can without having to worry about anyone else but myself. I'm also sure as **** not going to go on dating sites anymore just to find myself a "boyfriend" or potential "husband" because none of those guys are good enough for me to begin with. I enjoy being single and trust me 95% of my friends are in relationships and I look at their relationships and think I'm glad I'm not dealing with that ****. LOL

So I disagree single life does not suck, it actually rocks!