Weeeeeeeeeeeeeee, **** YA, go have FUN kayaking & enjoy yourselves, why not get to know each other while sharing a hobby on an outdoor adventure, how ideal! :) just CHILLAX & don't have expectations and just roll with it and see, who knows this may be a start of a beautiful relationship for you....

I also say that if it sounds interesting to you that you should go. It isn't a long term commitment, just some kayaking and conversation. It might lead to something else, it might not. If nothing else, it gets you a nice afternoon on the river. :)

Now, I would suggest not going just the two of you as you just met him, maybe see if there are others in the meetup group who would like to go? I tend to be pretty cautious on being alone with new people, male or female.

He may not be too old. My eldest is 18, I am 36. LOL Add another 5 years to her and I will be 41.

Glad to hear you are having fun re entering the dating world!

Originally Posted by Chubbykins:
I didn't say that. It is their opinion that they would be happier if they had someone, not my opinion imposed on their problems :)

I am sorry, Chubbykins; I did not interpret your post correctly & did not understand from it that it was the women's own opinion that they were miserable & nervous because they didn't have a man.

Hmm. Sounds like Girlspeak for: "Man, I'm just not getting laid enough."

I thought about this last night. When a woman gets to be my age, the choices are men who have never been married, men who are divorced or men who are widowed. We all have our baggage. I have no problem with men from any of those categories and I feel like I'd be hypocritcal if I did. I am, after all, a divorced woman myself.

I think I might say yes. I'm away right now and he knows it, so I have the leisure of sitting on this decision for a few days, just as if I don't have computer access. I'm using that to my advantage. When I have the opportunity I plan to run this one by my best friend who can act as a better filter than I! LOL!

But yeah...just a day kayaking? Why not? No dinner inovled and therefore no expectations.

Eliana, sounds like a plan. When you meet up with him let him know where you are coming from.

Let him know that whatever you two do, it needs to be with no expectations other then companionship and getting to know each other.

If things take off from there, great. If not, no biggie.

Sounds great to me, have fun! When I was freshly divorced, I was in no way ready for anything serious, but I sooo missed having someone to "do stuff with" (not THAT "stuff" - get your minds out of the gutter).

Just be honest with him and honest with yourself and don't let yourself get pulled along faster than you want to.

Being a male my thoughts are "would a man his age really want young children since his are older?"

I also think it is too quick to meet one on one....when the group setting is already there for "learning more" about each other in a comfortable setting...

I say go for it. When I was newly divorced a business man came int my office and handed his business card to one of my coworkers saying to give it to me.On the card he had written "Have dinner with me and make it soon". I did and we went to a lovely restaurant for dinner and then dancing. It was a nice evening but we really didn't click and I didn't go out with him again but no harm was done. I would do it again.just make sure you stay in public places and get to know each other before you decide to go back to his place.

So, I was going to post something along the lines of "If you're worried or unsure about his intentions and whether it's a date or not..." but then I realized that's just my personal tendency to over-complicate :dizzy:

Hope you go kayaking and I hope you have a great time :)

Originally Posted by EZMONEY:
Being a male my thoughts are "would a man his age really want young children since his are older?"

That is a good question that would have to be answered if it gets serious.

It is possible though. My step father was 10 years older than my mother and his only daughter was grown and in college when they got married. I was 14.

The upside is I got his "extra" car and never had to pay for it. ;) I came to see him more as a father to me than my biological. Not saying this will/should happen but it doesn't have to be all "You're not my Daddy!" Springer style. :D

I hope you go, it doesn't need to be anymore than an afternoon out on the lake.
It's not going to be a big deal unless you make it one IMO.

I think the important thing is you're taking steps TO get out there, you may not be ready to officially declare you are ready to date and there's nothing wrong with that.
You're meeting new people, making some new friends . . . good for you!

Originally Posted by saef:
I am sorry, Chubbykins; I did not interpret your post correctly & did not understand from it that it was the women's own opinion that they were miserable & nervous because they didn't have a man.

Hmm. Sounds like Girlspeak for: "Man, I'm just not getting laid enough."

No worries Saef :D
My ability to convey messages correctly through english isn't always what it should be, it being my second language and all.
And by the way they aren't all women. Some male members of my family feel lonely too. It isn't of course their only source of misery, but from personal experience I understand it when they say all troubles are easier if you have someone by your side.

Wow - a very interesting thread. I'm laughing thinking about what the reponses would be on a thread posted by the gentleman.

I see why there is so much stress in this country LOL.

You had lunch. I'm guessing from the tone of your original post that the two of you clicked on some level. It seems both of you enjoyed the time you spent together.

Don't complicate it. Two people who enjoy doing the same kind of activities getting together to do one of those activities. I've never been convinced that men and women can't just be friends.

Just think he may have posted: "Met a nice lady who likes to go kayaking. Want to ask her to join me on an outing but what if she thinks I'm hitting on her?"

Go. Have fun. Don't project. Live in the moment.

(Take this post with a grain of salt cause it's tainted by me watching the last two episodes of Ruby and her dealing with issues with men.)