This is an unecessary comment. Not everybody believes in marriage, it's not every woman's ultimate goal. You made a harsh judgement on this woman that she doesn't respect herself. You don't know anything about her, it just sounds like you don't respect her.

I agree with this. I got my doggy before I moved in with my bf and had he told me my doggy couldn't move in as well...I woulda stayed where I was and kept my dog, for sure.

I think there are many of us here at 3FC that don't think the marriage certificate/license is :dizzy: silly :twirly: at all...

but then those that do think it's silly couldn't possibly understand.

I totally agree with you, Wannabeskinny. The comment seems rude and quite unnecessary, in my opinion.


I was married for 8 years and my husband passed in 1999. I now am living with my boyfriend. We don't even discuss marriage yet though we have been in a relationship for going on 7 years (5 long distance and 2 living together). Really all that is needless info :D My point is, I respect myself and I respect my boyfriend and our relationship. The end.

I think the marriage licensing laws are incredibly silly. But au contraire (sp? :)), EZ, I DO understand the argument for it. I just disagree.


Definitely time to get back on topic though, methinks. :nono:


Sounds like training courses would be a good idea. As well as reconsidering all aspects of the relationships involved. Either way you put it, something isn't working.

I must also add from that whole he's not into you thing. If a guy wants you he'll sleep on hot coals to be with you. When a guy wants you he will do absolutely anything to be with you

I have lived with my hubby for 11 years (but we're not really married ;) )] When they pass a law one marriage per person for all people then I might believe in it. When you promise a person's family and your family and God and your government and the say ehh.. i didn't really mean it... then it doesn't get much credibility. I like having MY health insurance and MY credit score and not being responsible when my S.O. feels like maxing out credit cards :P

Holy S! Have you left this guy yet?!

:lol: I agree with fresno. He's a jerk, doesn't want to make the commitment now and using your dogs as an excuse. Drop him like hot coals and move on. You'll find someone who loves dogs or at least can stand them.

Why on earth would he even continue to date you once he found out about the dogs? Did he really think you'd just get rid of them on his request? What else is he going to ask you to change?

Good luck

"Some other man's dogs" ??

No, they are YOUR dogs and part of YOUR life and if he cares for you enough to make a commitment, that will include accepting (if not loving!) the things that are a part of your life.

It isn't being selfish to decide that your dogs are too important to you to ditch for a guy. You're not choosing an animal over a person really. You are choosing to value your choices and lifestyle more than you do a person who doesn't respect those choices or lifestyle.

My husband of 23 years doesn't like dogs. But he knew when we met that I did and I do and so he has lived with them (more or less happily) all the years we have been together. He is kind and gentle with them and doesn't complain about them. Because he loves ME enough to grow in this area. In return I put up with his various hobbies that most women would b**** incessantly about. :)