My parents are in the process of a divorce now after 30 years of marriage. It's been a freaking nightmare. It's horrible, awful and terrible. My mother is a total mess and I'm worried about her not only emotionally but physically at this point as well. My dad is pretty miserable too but he won't do anything to change that.

I personally am not much of a supporter of divorce. I'm pretty firm in my idea that divorce should rarely ever be an option. I married a man who comes from a family where no one ever gets divorced and he feels the same.

I'm sorry about your parents. It's a horrible situation to be in, and possibly worse when it's those you care about rather than yourself, as you can feel pretty disempowered and useless.

You're very lucky then. To be married to such a man, I mean. My first husband (whom I met when I was young and stupid, as well as overweight, poor self esteem and thinking I wouldn't find anyone else who wanted me) was verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and my children, and slept with other women for the last 5 years of our marriage, as well as regularly seeing prostitutes. Apparently it was because I was stupid and lazy.

I stuck it out for 12 years (15 if you count the 3 before we were married) but then got the guts to get out. Divorce should never be the first option, but I for one am very glad that it is a relatively easy one. If it were more difficult I would probably still be with him, my children would be a mess, and I would never have met and married the most wonderful man in the world.