It seems i see a lot of posts about how SO's arent too helpful or they sabotage, critisize, etc... i dont seem to see as many about wonderful SO's, so i thought i would start one.
first off, my husband is by No means a saint.. he is male after all lmao jk.. anyhow, he snores, forgets to pick up his clothes off the floor sometimes, cant multitask worth a crap etc lol... but... he has some of the most wonderful qualities in the world...
when we snuggle at night and watch tv, he strokes my belly telling me how soft my skin is, and how much he loves me.. he never mentions my belly is big as all get out, or it has stretch marks alllll over it ..
He loves chocolate.. and i buy it for him all the time.. but he Never eats it in the house.. he takes it to work with him, and eats it during lunch.. i have never asked him to, he did it on his own..
he never asks what i spend money on.. as long as he has lunches for work, cigarettes, and chocolate the rest he doesnt care about.. he says its his job to earn it, and mine to spend it lol... lucky for him i dont take advantage of that one lol..
im 43 and he is 33.. when i mention im OLD, he says something like.. ' you arent getting older baby..youre getting better'... he can make me laugh when im sad. he calls me every day on his lunch hour just to tell me he loves me.. when i told him i wanted to lose weight he said it was up to me, that he loves me as i am, but he would like me to be healthy and be around for years and years... he has never said a word to me if i 'cheat' on my calories for the day..
the biggest thing is i know im loved... not just think it.. or hope it.. i Know it... took me till i was 38 to find him, but we have been married 4 years this sept and we are very happy..
any other wonderful sig others we can hear about?? time for some 'good' stories lol
Okay - I love, love, love my hubby!
He is the best. Kind, very considerate, thoughtful, funny, super smart, doesn't get angry much. Thanks to his mom and being raised with 2 sisters, he always puts the toilet seat down, is fairly neat, cooks and cleans. Funny - I thought I would never find anyone that would have all of those qualities, but I did (very lucky, I know). I have the utmost trust in him (which is a big deal for me).
We are equal partners in all respects. There was never any issue of my keeping my last name when we married (family was another story). I am super independent and he is never threatened by that, nor does he try to stifle it. He is supportive of me, no matter what my crazy ideas are, although he does give me some good perspective on why something might not be a good idea . Sometimes I listen...
We've been married for almost 13 years, never had kids and I love seeing him every day!
Okay.... I am embarrassed about my gushing :blush:
He's considerate of what he brings into his apartment. He always calls before going food shopping to see if I want something specific around to have. He wants to make sure I'm comfortable. He makes me feel good about myself and always wants me to succeed and to be my best me.
We have fun together. We truly enjoy eachothers company, and we love to plan little adventures together. At the same time, I love just being in the same room with him.
If I need to get something done, it seems as though his first question is always "How can I help?"
My husband is my best friend and soul mate in every way Cheesy huh?
I've been with him since our sophomore year in high school...so about 14 years! I have no real complaints about him. He's supportive, sweet, funny, easy to talk to, and really hot! Not to mention that he cleans up after himself when he is home (he travels a lot) hehe He's stood strong when I was coping with losing everything in Katrina (we were in FL fixing to move back home to New Orleans...he's a military brat).
I love him so much and I feel really lucky to have stumbled across him! <3<3
Last edited by TJFitnessDiva; 08-28-2008 at 09:58 AM.
Okay so were not married but my S.O is the BEST. He always kisses me goodnight and gives me a kiss every morning before he leaves for work even though i grunt and turn away cause im sleepy. He cooks (well tries really hard) and cleans. He does all the yard work and fixes my car and never complains that im being a girly girl cause i dont want to get dirty. He has been very supportive about me losing and working out. Sometimes he tries to feed me icecream and pizza too much, but thats innocent. Never once has he told me i was fat or that i needed to lose. And if i didnt lose anymore he would still love me as much as he did when i was a size 10. Im young, but i know that it was meant to be and that one day we will get married and start a family together and even if i gain it all back plus 100 he will still love me
The good~he's caring, has relatively no temper, helps a lot around the house (calls himself Hop-Sing when he does the laundry, LOL), fixes things, keeps the cars running well, handles things that I'd rather not deal with, etc.
The bad~he snores, he doesn't do dishes (unless I ask--why can't he "see" that the dishwasher door is open and load the dish himself?).
And the ugly~he's overweight (by about 20-30 pounds) and doesn't seem to really want to do anything about it. He drinks more than he should which contributes to the problem. He seems a bit jealous/defensive that I joined the gym without him (even though I practically begged him to join with me for the past year).
Oh, I'm very blessed. I met my husband my freshman year in college and we became good friends. I dated one of his roommates and had a different one of his roommates propose to me even though I never even dated him. My dh was great to go to and gripe about that guy! I was dating another guy when it suddenly hit me I was going to marry my dh. I broke up with the other guy that day, poor thing, I didn't see till the next day that he'd proposed to me by writing a sign in a tunnel (it gets filthy and people just "clean" bits of it as an easily removed form of graffiti). He moved back to China, but we kept in contact a little and parted friends. Anyhoo...so I had to wait till my husband realized we were going to get married. He's a bit slower on decision making than I am.
We've been married almost 11 years now (come November anyway). He is fantastic. I've had serious health problems for years now which were only just discovered to be epilepsy and some brain deterioration. He's never complained when I haven't felt up to doing ANYTHING. He cooks, cleans, does the laundry, etc.. Heck, the other day for some reason I was not able to fall asleep till about 5:30 in the morning. He stayed home and worked from home, watching the boys, till I got up at 11:00!!! No complaints, just knew that I would need SOME sleep (the boys generally wake up around 6:00 or 6:30).
I can't complain. He's incredibly quiet, and rarely says "I love you", but I knew he was that way when I married him. You don't marry someone hoping to change them, you have to take them for what they are. We've never really had a fight the whole time we've been married. When we were dating I tried my hardest to make him mad at me because I wanted to see how he'd react (yelling, throw something, walk off...whatever). I couldn't make him mad. He's so very even keeled. Sure, it meant that when I woke him up to tell him I was pregnant with our first he said "that's nice", rolled over and went back to sleep. I don't care though, I couldn't be happier.
I've been married 10 years and we've had our ups and downs. My husband is extremely patient with me and the kids. He is a hard worker and provides enough money for our family. He tells me daily that he loves me and is always very affectionate. He loves to take me anywhere. He has many friends that absolutely don't want their wives on the golf course with them, but he always asks me to come with him and play. He has been working hard with me to remodel our home. A big plus, he is great looking and has a very firm, fit body. He does do a lot of cooking on the grill. He always cleans the bathrooms and does mop the floors quite often. He has stuck with me through thick and thin. He has always been right there with me through my numerous surgeries and hospitalizations.
On the down side, he has had a problem with gambling in the past . (but has went through counseling and for now it isn't a problem ). He smokes and I wish he'd quit. He drinks more beer than he should.
He makes me laugh every day.
Tells me he loves me and kisses me more than once a day.
Loves me just the way I am, but tries his best to be supportive of my weight loss goals.
Has the greatest sense of humour...we get along really well due to our love of sarcasm! hehehe
He's going to make a great father.
He's very caring, friendly and generous.
May be a bit TMI, but he's the best sex of my life! LMAO
Nobody's perfect...so he does have some bad habits:
Can be a bit lazy...ie. addicted to Xbox LOL
Snores like crazy!
Has an ice cream addiction He's not overweight by any means, but I wish he would stop bringing it into the house!
Can't cook worth a damn, but he's a great handyman when it comes to house stuff! LOL
I'm not married yet, but my fiance (will be my husband in 44 days!) is definitely my soul mate and my best friend. We are very dissimilar and have very different tastes in music, food, etc. I run hot, he runs cold. He loves the beach, I love... not being at the beach, etc. I wake up early, he sleeps in. And yet, we're completely and totally soulmates. I never thought I'd honestly feel like I found my soulmate (I kind of never even believed such a thing exists!). I wasn't waiting for a soulmate, and I don't think providence brought us together, but I found him and he's amazing.
But not perfect -- he's SO untidy, for one, and he's got a let less energy than I do (I can't take naps during the day if I'm not sick, he naps almost everyday). He can't multi-task to save his life and at times it seems like he literally can focus attention on only 1 issue/stimulus at a time.
BUT his good qualities far far far outweight the bad -- he's funny and he makes me laugh all the time, everyday, constantly. He rarely gets mad and even when he does, he's never MAD, just sort of annoyed. He NEVER raises his voice or curses at me or anything like that (and my father is a BIG yeller-screamer-curser so finding someone who ISNT feels amazing to me ). We rarely argue or fight, but on the occasions that we do have an argument, we can always both stop being mad and "enraged" long enough to talk about the problem and then even laugh about it. He listens to me and values what I think and what I have to say. He WANTS to spend time with me and genuinely misses me when I'm not around, to the point where if we don't see each other for a few days, he gets a little "blue." I can go on and on about him, but I'll digress and get to the point:
But the thing I love most about him (or one of the things I love most) is that he makes me feel pretty and attractive, even though I don't consider myself all that pretty/attractive. He's not a "chubby chaser" by any means, but he likes women with full hips and breasts with some meat on their bones. He's actually made me accept myself and my size/body a lot -- he lovingly calls me "cicciona" (Italian for "Chubby") and like tickles me and grabs me and it's funny -- I would have thought that would offend me, but it actually makes me laugh and it makes me happy for some reason, bc he LIKES that Im a little chubby, finds it cute and attractive, etc. He's happy that I exercise a lot and eat healthily and I don't think he'd mind if I lost some more weight, but I don't think he'd ever want me to be SKINNY (I wouldn't want to be either, actually).
My husband is opinionated, stubborn, and often insensitve and sometimes even manipulative (though I could say the same of myself). But he has a heart of gold, and tries so darn hard to be helpful and do and be what I want him to (in fact, it kind of drives me crazy... like getting the guy to pick a restaurant or plan an activity, is pure torture). If I hear "I don't care, where/what do you want to go/do, well.. I'd deal with it because I'm going to have to (but I'll want to scream).
I "deal with" his anal and predictable tendencies, and he "deals with," my mood swings and unpredictable nature. I think he got the shorter end of the stick on that one, as he's so predictable I always know what he's thinking, and I'm so unpredictable, that he occasionally DOES have a clue is rather miraculous.
My partner is really, honestly, and truly my best friend.
She has been on this whole weight loss journey with me, as a partner all the way, from start to finish, and has supported me even when I wanted to be more extreme than she did (like going to the gym with me every day after work, even if she didn't want to go, because we only had one car...). She tells me I'm beautiful even when I have a bad self image day. She tells me she loves my cooking and that I make being healthy easy.
More than that, I'm usually kind of solitary...prefer to be by myself than in the company of others...but she is the exception. I can't think of many times since I've met her where I'd rather NOT be with her than have her near me.
She serves as my sounding board, my support system, and my own personal comedian...keeps me laughing even when life is rough. And no one understands, and more than that, LOVES my crazy brain better than her.
My DH is wonderful! He's very understanding of my moodiness, even though he doesn't always know how to react. He's also a very calming force in my life, while I've softened him up a bit emotionally (that comment came from my MIL. )
I didn't ask him to lose weight with me, but he came along for the ride and is working on trying to lose more. He's always loved me regardless of size, but he also understands we need to stay healthy so we're around for awhile.
When I complain about gaining a few lbs, he'll suggest going for a walk and talk about how he needs to lose some too. I've always felt like he's a true partner and that we are in everything together.
Dh was raised by a "progressive" family, so he is very pro-woman and is very supportive in everything I do. He also helps out around the house, doing the dishes, taking care of the litter box, trash, etc. He can cook, although, I do most of the cooking. I've never gotten a complaint. When we moved last, he did an awesome job cleaning the shower too!
Of course, the fact that his family is great doesn't hurt either.
He's always telling me how much he loves me and how sexy I am (regardless of where I've been in my weight loss journey.) He holds my hand when we go places. My best friend says we're one of those couples that grosses people out with their "cuteness".
No one is perfect, but I think my flaws are much more glaring then his. So, I don't feel I have any right to complain. He really is an amazing guy and I'm a very lucky girl.
Do you have a Great S.O??
. Sometimes I listen...
Cheesy huh?
He's not overweight by any means, but I wish he would stop bringing it into the house!
When we moved last, he did an awesome job cleaning the shower too!
