Well. There's no question that you are allowed to access the situation and get in touch with how you feel as often as you want. I think the more you think about it and write things out then the more able you'll come to your own decision.

I seem to share lots of the feelings you have been talking about. I get irritated a great deal. I look at all the bad things rather than all the tremendous things that my man LIKES to do for me. Maybe you could think about all the great things he does do and it could put everything in perspective.

If you can't get it in perspective then maybe you need to answer why that is too.

My ex was a disaster and I nearly married him becuase I figured the old "Once we get married things will be different!" I had a break down at the crate and barrel and realized no it wouldn't be. He was it. If I went through the marriage then he'd be who I was marrying. You can't change him any more than he can change you. If he's a slob he'll always be a slob....but he might have something fantastic to off set that.

My boyfriend (fiance) now is sort of forgetful and not very detail oriented like me. BUT, he rubs my feet every night, cooks me dinner, makes my lunch, mows the lawn and takes care of outside, is generous and kind.

I have to say....All that totally outweighs his negatives.

No one is perfect. But, some people are perfect for each other.