I go visit the place on Tuesday. It's $500/mth. I'd be sharing the kitchen and the bathroom. I told my Dad I wanted to move out but he didn't expect me to move out before December. He abused me when I was 17 so I figure I don't owe him anything. My mom doesn't believe me, so screw her too.
Going out on your own has its challenges, but the rewards are great too. I think everyone's relationship with their parents improves once they move out! Although in your case, the relationship may not improve, given the circumstances, but you'll be way better off, even if it's hard. You have room to become *you,* instead of a reaction to your parents.
He abused me when I was 17 so I figure I don't owe him anything. My mom doesn't believe me, so screw her too.
I completely understand how you feel - my step dad sexually abused me from the time I was 8 - 16 while my mom turned a blind eye. I tried keeping it at secret, but I ended up having a meltdown at school at 17 and thats how it got out. The police got involved... and they figured that I was just a rebellious teen who liked to drink and do drugs, which was what my step-dad said and had my mom go along with. I never touched the crap, I was a good Christian girl - my only nights out were to youth group, church outings etc.
My mom turned my entire family against me and I ended up moving out - THEN I got rebellious. Never drank or did drugs, but I did end up getting pregnant and dropped out of school - I turned my own life around after my daughter was born. Went back to school, went to college and I now work, got married and have my own wonderful family.
Don't do what I did, keep strong You made the right choice for moving out. Have you thought of counselling?
Last edited by tamaralynn; 04-28-2008 at 08:23 AM.
I go visit the place on Tuesday. It's $500/mth. I'd be sharing the kitchen and the bathroom. I told my Dad I wanted to move out but he didn't expect me to move out before December. He abused me when I was 17 so I figure I don't owe him anything. My mom doesn't believe me, so screw her too.
congrats on moving out! gaining independance is awesome!
where are you moving to that it's only $500/month? i grew up in southern PG... now i'm in VA.
Good luck and congratulations on asserting yourself. When I was 18 I got a job and rented a room, had a room mate and shared a bathroom with the rest of the house. It wasn't that bad. I had a job and my own place and was able to pay for it myself.It was a great feeling of independence.
Congratulations and good luck! Sorry to hear that your relationship with both parents isn't too good.
tamaralynn-your situation sounds so much like mine with my mom and her live in boyfriend after my parents got divorced. I however didn't wind up pregnant by some stroke of luck I guess.
I am moving to hyattsville, md. Thanks to everyone for their well wishes. I am seeing a therapist and though we've talked about the abuse, it still haunts me.
Unfortunately abuse is something that will stay with you forever - I figure that you need to get out and make sure you make some good memories to outweigh the bad
Moving out on May 1
You made the right choice for moving out. Have you thought of counselling?
