Fiance Disappears
 

EDIT ~ EDIT~ This ran 1 year ago ~ Monday will be the 1 year anniversary of my daughter's wedding to my :p son in law :p. Some of you may remember me going through this tough time :( in my life ;) All my worries came true....she married :p him :p. He is on his third job since they married...she still has the same one and has completed her Master's...I think he golfed and played tennis this year.....oh....and slept in!

BRINGING IT BACK FOR THE MEMORIES....mine ;)


NOT REALLY! BUT BOY DO I WISH!;)

The fiance happens to belong to my daughter. They will be getting married next Saturday unless I can think of a way to stop it! :devil:

I have been trying to get this kid out of my life for over 6 years now, actually 11 years but 6 since they became a "couple :p" He isn't a bad guy, probably pretty good marriage material...FOR SOMEONE ELSES DAUGHTER! :mad:

To put it simply...he has just taken precious moments of my daughter's time away from me! And I don't feel like standing for it anymore! :nono:

It all started when she was 11 years old. She went with me to drop off her brother at his first tennis match....see where I am going with this? She went with ME!. Anyway, when we went back to pick him up she says "Daddy, I think I would like to try that." The next day I take her up to the courts and sign her up. My first BIG mistake.

Seems that there was this little 13 year old up there that was the coaches "pet". Seems the little :p P.I.M.B. was up there every day since it was his P.E., being home schooled and all and he lived only a few blocks from the courts.

Before I knew it, I would hear "Daddy, my coach is so cute :love:" I'm like "WHAT!" :mad: "Your coach is almost my age!" "No, daddy! Coach Zac." Seems that Coach Tom had coach :p Zac :p take care of the beginners, being the coaches pet and all.

Fast forward a few years later....OK....about 6 years later, after many times of me telling her "He's too old for you" when she would bring his name up. I am sitting in my recliner which looks right onto the street. I see the little :p drive by, then again and again....JUMPING! out of my chair I holler at my daughter "AMANDA..yelling again GET DOWN HERE NOW!" As she is coming down the stairs from her bedroom I ask (in my mean :mad: voice) "Do you like this coach Zac?" "Noooo...daddy, why?" with a little hesitation in her voice. "GOOD! I just wondered because he is doing drive-bys" (Guys totally know what this is but we try to keep it a secret from the girls...it is when a guy, or usually a group of guys, likes a girl...they cruise by her house about a billion times...looking out of the corner of their eyes...being cool :cool: and all, hoping beyond hope that she will be outside ) She asks, "Daddy, what's a drive-by?" Seeing how she doesn't like him (2nd mistake...I believed her) I explain it to her...how he has a crush on her, but that's cool since she doesn't like him, just be nice. Within 2 minutes she had on her " I need to wash my car clothes." Dang-it!

No problem, she is heading 200 miles north for college and he is going to finish his degree at a college 50 miles south of us...that is a 250 mile spread...very comfortable for a dad! After she dates :p for the summer I tell her "Ya know sweetie, with you going to college and Zac going to another college, it might be a good idea to not get too serious with each other." Her reply..."Daddy what if it's too late? What if we already are serious?" :faint:

Since this is getting long I won't bore you with more details but fast forward again ~ She ends up a year later at another college...yeah...you guessed it...his...:p . She does well there, plays doubles on the nationally ranked top 10 tennis team for 3 years NAIA level, is an academic All-American, graduates Magna Cum Laude with Honors, interns for a NAVY research company, which she is still with, that pays her way through grad school as she works on her Masters. Just think what she could have done without :p in her life...and just ME!

So, about a year ago :p shows up at my door with a ring and asks my permission to marry my daughter. HA! I just told him what I always do, "Get out of my house and never come back!"

The :p NEVER listens to me! Keeps coming back....dumb!

He thinks just because he has treated her like a queen for 11 years that he has "rights"! Give me a break! :dizzy:

I have tried everything to stop this marriage from happening. I tell them both when the pastor (which happens to be my daughter's uncle) says "Who gives this woman?" that I am going to say "Nobody does!"

When he used to come to the door to pick her up I would just open it, see who it was, then close it. He just started walking in without knocking...did I mention he is rude?

I even promised her a car if she walks out on the :p that stole my daughter's heart from me.

I am a week away...have run out of ideas...I got nutin'

CAN YOU HELP ME?

Wow. I am sorry you are upset. Your daughter sounds like a very lucky and happy young woman to have love from you as a father and him as a husband.

LOL@EZ!!!

That is the best post I have read in a VERY long time! Thanks - I needed that... makes me want to phone my Dad... I think I will...

Heather :D

PS - You have a great sense of humour - I always enjoy your posts!

Congrats, EZ!!!

If only you could see me doubled over in laughter. This is to funny I was having a horrible day up until I read your post. This sounds like something out of a movie. You should be voted Dad of the year. There are not many fathers out there anymore with you level of concern for your daughter. Kind of makes me a little jealous.

Hmmmmm, and my daughter just started mentioning a cute boy 2 years her senior.....

I think I'm going to go install locks on her door and windows! Catch ya'll later!

(she's 9)

OMG - I love your post!!! That reminds me of how my Dad reacted.... but actually I think you may be handling it better... LOL I am so glad I am going to my Dad's for the weekend - I think I am going to have to get him to read your post.

Congratulations!!!

I hear Mexico is lovely this time of the year ;)

OMG!! I'm reading your words but hearing my husband's voice. :rofl: Lord help that boy that steals his little girl's heart.

Congratulations!

P.S. - I didn't know the "drive-by" meant "crush". I thought "drive-by" meant "stalker". :lol: Maybe that's why I was over 30 before I got married. :dunno:

I am a DODGER fan ~ he is a Padre fan ~ I am a RAIDER fan ~ he is a Charger fan


I KNOW I love her...I think he just wants to finally "win" something!

Thanks MIDWIFE...did you "catch" any on MOTHER's DAY? ;)

LOL! That is awesome! Congrats to your daughter and the :p, and congrats to you for being such a wonderful father. There are many daughters out there who do not know what it feels like to have a dad who wants to spend more time with his daughter.

Just a couple of more reasons why he :p isn't worth my daughter:

#1 ~ Proposed to her on an Alaskan cruise....****-ooo...she could have been sea sick!....loooser!

#2 ~ Brings her pink roses every year for her birthday and any occasion he can think of because they are her favorite...HA! So PREDICTABLE!! ...loooser!

#3 ~ Is making me wear a somewhat matching TUX! Wait til he sees me in it :D ...loooser!

I'll think of more but Angie says the DODGER game is on...gotta go!

:rofl::rofl::rofl:

Goodness you are funny! I have four kids 16 to 9 (2 girls) and am fearful - hopeful? - that my husband will respond to suitors as you have! :D Good luck on the wedding and just think of the grandbabies you can spoil....:s:

Boy, I just stumbled on this thread and I am so glad I did! This is the funniest one ever. You really should print that first post and frame it for her. FUNNY!

I'm laughing now.... but I have a 13 year old girl who has ignored all of my advice regarding the boys who have caught her eye. I probably won't be laughing for long.........

Gary, LOL, think of it as "I'm not losing a daughter, I'm gaining a son". Much easier said than done. LOL.

I have a 24 yr. old SD that is in all kinds of trouble. I'd glady take that fiance off your hands if you'd send him here to marry this SD. He sounds like great father material and there would be 2 loving little boys to help him adjust to fatherhood. LOL. I'll even send pic's if you want me to. LOL. (Just of the boys of course, as the mom is due with baby boy #3 anyday). Her relocation would be considered completely acceptable. LOL.

Lol, congratulations on the upcoming marriage of your DD.

HEY! Are you :lol: with me or at me?

Actually I already have a (grandbaby) hope chest filled with stuff. I should probably stop beggin though for one....my grandkid could end up looking like his " :p father :p

Sounds like your good days are behind you...I will keep you in my prayers ;)

Thanks, Lilybelle...just keep rubbing it in ;)

LOL, Gary my son watched me type that post and he was ROFL. We got quite a kick out of this. But, the offer still stands. SD does need a husband and a father for all the kids. (She hasn't quite caught onto the concept of Birth control yet).

Big bonus, DH loves to play golf, so he'd fit right in with that fiance'.

We don't give out our address, but just tell me where he's at and I'll pack her up and send her to you guys. LOL. I've had a lot of practice with packing, so she can be there in a jiffy.

With 3 diaper bags and her luggage, do you have to pay for the entire backseat in the Greyhound?

Glad I could brighten your DS's day...laughing at my pain...are all hillbillies like that? ;)

Well, Gary, I was out of town when you posted this--attending a WEDDING!!!

Here's one way to stop the pending nuptials (this is a true story about the wedding I attended in Vegas).

Have the groom drive the bride to the bank to get some money for the marriage license. She'll be so flustered that she'll withdraw $500 and then leave her purse at the bank. The happy couple obliviously drives away and the blushing bride really starts to blush when she realizes that her purse is not in the car. The groom will turn around and return to the bank where it will be discovered that the purse is missing. Yup. The $500 is gone......along with all her ID. Did I mention that the couple is from California and we're in Nevada for the wedding? The happy couple returns to the car and drives to the marriage license office and they are turned away because the bride has no ID. Now, fast forward to the actual wedding for which many, many guests have driven or flown in to witness. The reception is planned, the food is being prepared, the flowers are in place and the member of the clergy now refuses to do the ceremony because there is no license. At this point, I'm not sure where they got this clergy person, but they did go through with the ceremony and the reception and only a very few of us knew that it was a farce. I guess they'll honeymoon, come home and get ID's and get the license and be "remarried" by a justice of the peace.....

Now I wonder which wedding anniversary they'll celebrate?

BTW, these aren't young, dumb kids. The husband is in the Navy and the wife has a degree in elementary education but works as an escrow officer. They're both over 30.

Gary - at least you aren't my dad. He has two kids...both daughters...getting married within 3 months of eachother. Two weddings, two toasts, and two fiances, with less than 100 days to recover in between.

Gary, LOL, when this SD had her very first date, DH was sitting there cleaning his guns when the young man arrived. They were going to a dance at the high school and DH drove them in his patrol car and walked inside with them. LOL. SD recounts this story to this day. I say he should never have stopped patrolling her dates. LOL

Truthfully though, SD and her husband are separated and awaiting the birth of this third baby to be able to get a divorce.

Allison, I had to laugh at your story. Very similar story as what happened when we went with SD and her then fiance' to Eureka Springs, AR to get married. She didn't have her driver's license and therefore couldn't get a marriage license. DH came up with the bright idea of calling the local police station that she worked at as a dispatcher and having them fax a copy of her drivers' license. Well, it worked. Looking back on it, we should have all just turned around and came home. Things might have turned out very differently in her life if DH hadn't intervened for her. It really was an Omen. As was the fact that her car broke down and she was late for her hair appt. and then when she got back to the hotel, it was storming and the electricity was out while we all got ready in the dark. Her own mother did not even make it to the ceremony. To top it all off, her marriage license came back wrong with her still listed as her maiden name.

Gary, that's not fair. You said "I already have a step-daughter", well, I have 4 of them, so we could at least share.

Sounds like a legitimate mistake made in all the stress and confusion of the day! Go NAVY!

Oh Sweetie...he will NEVER recover! What you girls are doing to him is punishable :mad: by law in my opinion! That is just way too much for a dad to go through! It is hard for me with 2 weddings in 6 months and one being my son...two girls...NO WAY!! You should be ashamed of yourselves! ;)

I want to be fair about this Lilybelle, so how 'bout I send my SD to you for say...oh...10 years...then you can send me one for a couple of years...I'll send her back...then take another :shrug:

Gary - I went first! Not my fault my sister scheduled for 3 months to the day after me....

Oh Sweetie! You know you are one of my favorites! But if I EVER get ahold of your sister :mad: for what she has done to your poor ol' pops...look-out! ;)

This is what the :p shoved in my freezer...forcing me to get rid of my frozen pizzas...RUDE~RUDE~RUDE...HE even used MY BBQ to cook them on! He has no shame...:nono:

Oh...and as you can see...my daughter's salmon is MUCH larger...:p can't even fish!

Luckily the brat has such a -nice- guy as you to model after, right?

I'm sure with you in the family, he'll pick up quick...

OK Gary, when do you want her? I'm ready to trade. Just send your SD here, I can't promise I'll want to trade back. LOL.

Wow, those are really big fish. I'm sure that tastes way better than frozen pizza.

Well, actually it did...BUT...MY daughter's fish tasted waaayyyy better! ;) :p Zac's :p was a little on the "sour" side.

Had dinner at a restaraunt last night with the :p, and 12 other people in my family, for my sister's birthday. He acts like he's already ONE of the FAMILY...he's been doing that for 6 years...rude ~ plain rude!

Even worse news...MY daughter is ACTUALLY considering changing her LAST name...which is MY last name...to his...un~freakin:fr: believable!

I am laughing so hard. i have a way to break them up. You take him to a strip club and set him up with a lap dance. take lots of pics and show your daughter. or higher a stripper for an impromto bachelor party. or you can tell your daughter that you really like this guy. daughters seem to go for guys that their parents hate, if you like him, maybe she will leave him. good luck

The winner of the hour of course! hahaha

Sorry, I shouldn't be so hard on KC..they're actually throwing a couple more Ws out there.

I think we've got Cleveland, the M's and the O's upcoming.

How 'bout them Dodgahs?