Thanks, everyone, and yes, our Christmas went wonderfully. What my 'hub' said to him didn't go in one ear and out the other, though. Even on Christmas he came up to me and said, "Mommy, when daddy told me I wasn't getting any presents, he was just kidding!"

So he didn't forget. That boy forgets nothing. Not that I expected him to, you don't forget something like that overnight. It's possible he never WILL forget it. But I just mean that because he holds onto just about everything said to him (he still brings up things said to him 2 years ago) that I'm even more worried about the things daddy says. Because my son doesn't forget.

As for counseling for dad, I don't know. I've brought it up to him before but he's one of those men who never wants to discuss anything and flies off the handle and walks out of the room.

And that's usually the end of that.

I also agree with alinnell. This WILL catch up to him one day.

Again, thank you for all of the replies. I'm hoping I can get things sorted out.

I just keep thinking of your little boy....he almost sounds relieved to resolve in his mind that "daddy was only kidding". Kids are amazing aren't they....very forgiving.

But speaking as an adult child, there will come a day when your son WON'T forgive him. And then his father will be filled with regret. That is why I STRONGLY encourage counseling. I know your "h" does not want to regret his behavior towards his son one day. HE CAN STOP IT--IF HE CHOOSES.

Linda, stay strong, sister!!