Now I know I've already lost weight...and I know I don't have much to lose...and I know in the scheme of things it won't take long! But!!

Sometimes I just get so frustrated and angry! I want to be skinny now!!!!! I know im small, people tell me but Im not small enough. Ill be walking down the street, dressed how I like it, and then wham bam, some gorgeous leggy blonde stands next to me, and suddenly I feel like Im 200 pounds and something off the set of charlie and the chocolate factory.

I JUST WANT TO LOOK HOT! AND I WANT TO LOOK HOT NOW!!!!!

Just wondering if anyone else feels the same...I know I should use my frustration as motivation to exercise but gosh! Does anyone else feel the same?

Sarah - I have come to terms that I will never be a some gorgeous leggy blonde. Be happy with yourself and your successes and stop comparing yourself to others. Oh - and it is BEING Hot and not LOOKING hot. It is an attitude!

Just my opinion - Deb

I know exactly how you feel. I just want the weight gone. It's really hard to avoid the temptation of just starving myself to do it.

I know exactly what you mean!

When you get so close to being at your goal weight, you start thinking "hey, I look pretty dang good!!" ...and then come the leggy blondes and it slaps you in the face that you have a lot of work still to go. It really frustrates me for a while too. And then I just have to realize that I'm not 21 anymore and I never will be again.

Another thing I have just had a lightbulb moment about (I know, most of you probably "got" this a long time ago...) is that no matter how skinny I am I will never be a leggy blonde. I am long bodied and short legged. I will never have tiny thighs. No amount of weight loss will change the structure of my body. So I'm trying to really look at things and decipher if they are weight related and therefore something I can do something about or if its just a genetics issue and I'm never going to change it.

That has helped me feel a little better after standing next to those leggy blondes. But believe me, I have a half hour of being pissed at the world first...

Attitude is everything! Hotness is a state of mind- and know that even that leggy blond is probbly doubting herself. I read an interview with Cameron Diaz, where she said how un-feminine she felt growing up as "tall and skinny", without any of the curves that all of the other girls had! Ouch!

Yes, I get frustrated but not for the same reasons that you have maybe because I'm 51 and I don't care to look like the leggy blond anymore, she probably has "skinny-fat" kind of body that I don't consider healthy. Although when I was in my 20s I did think I wanted that... I get frustrated because I just want to look healthier, leaner, more athletic -- yea, like that'll ever really happen at 51 -- I want to just fit easier in my smaller clothes that I used to fit in...

Hot is definitely an attitude...

I do get frustrated. Exercising is not the issue for me, finding the right eating pattern is the issue. I can't seem to budge even a pound and I follow my diet plan exactly.
So, yes, it is frustrating!

Let's stick to it, fellow featherweights!

Yes, all the time! When I was about where you are in your weight loss journey I remember seeing those Yoplait commercials where the woman gets into the bikini at the end and just desperately wishing I could be at that point too!

Even now, when I have a off plan week and have gained back a few pounds, I just wish there was some exteme short-term program I could do to take the weight back off. No matter how hard it was, if I could just lose the weight in the same period of time that I gained it I know I could get through it. But alas, I know that even though I might lose weight on a program like that, I'd just gain it all back the minute I went back to eating my regular diet and I could never sustain an extreme change to my diet. The only way to keep the weight off is to lose it slowly. One week to gain five lbs--two months to lose them again. There's just no way around it and it is frustrating sometimes!

And even though I have finally gotten into my bikini, when I'm at the gym there are definitely women there that are clearly more on top of their eating and their exercise than me and they look fantastic; definitely better than me. I just can't seem to get there (although sometimes I wonder if loose skin is part of my problem) and sometimes it is discouraging.

I am just happy to see the numbers going down on the scale. One day at a time. As long as the number doesn't go up I'm good.

Dagmar, just remember those women may not necessarily be more on top of their eating or exercise... they may just have awesome metabolisms! Though that is sometimes even more frustrating to think about...

Hello all! I'm new to this forum, but not to 3FC's...well not that new! Anyways...just reading your posts...interesting.

Personally, I definately can relate to the feeling of wanting to be thin..slinky..fit & sexy...NOW...NOW...NOW!!! I feel that way all the time! But then I wake up, I do alot of reading on physics, diet/nutrition and I've taken a different kind of approach to this getting fit/thin thing. I see it as a journey. A journey of my mind & body...and of gaining absolute control over every facet of it. When I see those skinny girls (blonde, brunette, whatever), I look at her and say, "hmmm...she's bangin'...BUT...I'll look better than that when I reach my potential! I guess it's more about how you see yourself than others. I just don't look at the fat around my upper thighs/glutes...I look at the natural curvature of my legs and think, "boy...r these legs going to be absolutely "picture worthy" when I lean these suckers out with some squats! You get my drift???

As far as "reshaping" your body against predesposed genetics...you'd better believe it's possible! It's called WEIGHT TRAINING..HARDCORE WEIGHT TRAINING! SQUATS, LUNGES, SUPERSETS....OUCH!!! This is why you see bubble butt'd celebs like Madonna, Britney (poor Brit!), and countless other woman who genetically may have been predesposed to having less of a derrieah (sp?) as let's say...hmmmmm...Beyonce, Naomi Campbell, Bertha Butt...okay..okay..you get my drift! You can re-shape any type body. Granted...it may be harder for some than others...but it can be done!

Soooo...ask yourself...maybe next time you see that skinny blond...how much do I want that lean slinder healthy lookin' bod? Then go hit the gym hard and learn what weight lifting can do for you! Just my thoughts...

BTW, I'm currently squatting my a$$ off for that bod...wasn't gifted genetically with that bubble butt! Joyce