Our bodies always know
 

Our bodies always know when we're doing the right stuff :D. They appreciate it by feeling great :carrot:

Now we just have to get our darn :devil: brains in line!

Dagmar

The emotional component of diet
 

I'm getting used to dealing with the physical component of dieting. I'm just a little bit hungry in the late afternoon and before bed now and I'm choosing snacks :angel: that are strictly under the 100 calorie limit I've set.

It's the emotional part that still derails me :eek:. I thought all the stress and anxiety throughout the holidays would end Jan. 1.

This thing with my dad threw me right off :fr:. And it will be an ongoing thing until he dies (he's 82) which could be 10 years from now. I'm also now dreading the showdown when he wants to mortgage his house, has to go into a nursing home, etc. I will get called every name in the book.

I think I have to search for a book/DVD/something that addresses coping with stress and anxiety. I appreciate the support I get here but nobody likes a whiner (:(least of all ME!!)

Dagmar :tired:

Dagmar - sounds like you have a lot of stress on you with your dad right now. I realize that is an understatement. Just wondering if you have siblings to help share the load or are you an only? Hang in there!

Have a good day everyone... I need to!

Dagmar -- Hang in there girl! I agree you do need help, could you get some help from a counselor even if your dad doesn't go talking to someone about it would help, I think, a lot...

Nothing much to report here yet, I'm off today... I'm going to the gym with DS, the a Dr's appt at 10:30 then give blood at 3:15... Later girls...

Dagmar: of course I dont know the whole situation with your dad. It sounds like a really really hard place to be. There are two things I thought of when reading your post. One thing we know is that stress creates and emotional and physical response, I find stress puts me in my weakest state. I used to have serious health problems from stress and have also realized that I eat as a way to cope with stress. I am dealing with this. But for myself, I have cut out a lot of the sources of my stress. Life is too stressful sometimes. I believe that people should be the best they can be, but if this relationship with your father is creating so much stress on you that you can't live your life to the fullest, I would hate to see someone suffer so much. Also, my mother is an alcoholic, I used to take it personally, I would get upset about it, all the stuff that comes with being a child of an alcoholic. I have been working on our relationship for years. I am not ready to cut her out because that actually doesnt make me happy. However I am quite honest with her and we do have rules to our relationship. for instance, she is not allowed to call me if she is drinking. If she does, I have the right to hang up on her. THis is something that I had to allow myself over time. I cant let her problem ruin my day or my life. I was just thinking maybe you could give some extra thought as to how this relationship with your father could be a little easier on you. Like I said, I dont know the whole story of course. But you should be the most important person in your life. Is it possible to have a lawyer handle this stuff and the communication about it or some 3rd party? 10 years is a long time. I don't claim to be anything but a friend, I just hate to see you under so much stress.

Ilene, how quickly after you give blood do you get back to the gym? Last time I gave blood, I tried to return to the gym 3 days later and nearly fainted. I had to stop working out. Now I'm a bit scared about doing it again if I want to work out regularly.

I have some serious allergies? today. I think the melting of all the snow has caused them. I think it is allergies, otherwise I'm sick again. Does anyone else find they are feeling really stuffy and have a sore throat? Just wondering..

bikinidreader I can't quite cut my dad out of my life as I'm the only relative he has in Canada. He also is leaving me his house here, if he still has it when he kicks, and I really think I deserve it after all the years spent serving him and putting up with his verbal abuse.

That said, I do limit myself to 10 minutes on the phone or 15 minutes in person with him. That's about when I start to clench my fists and get ready to scream.

I know exactly where you are re your mother. Same situation with me. She was so bad that, when she was accidentally killed, I was quite relieved. She kept trying to enlist me as her drinking buddy and ally against my dad.

The raving drunk and the psycho bully. My decision to not have children was a very conscious one. No way I wanted to pass this gene pool on to some helpless infant.

Sorry ladies, no more whining from me. I'm dealing with this in ways other than overeating and I'm starting to feel quite empowered.

Dagmar

Bikini Dreader - I'm usually at the gym the next day... I've never fainted or anything serious like that... Sometimes, it's happened once or twice in the 25 times I've given, that I will feel tired for a couple of days, but it's never stopped me from going to the gym... Tonight I feel a bit tired but I'm not sure if it's because of giving blood or because I ran today and sprained my heal/ankle while running...I sure hope it doesn't last too long...

I did no exercise yesterday. I still feel like garbage but I dont know what it is. I'm pretty sensitive to big air pressure changes so I'm pretty sure that combined with allergies is the cause. I'm going to the gym tonight to do a step class. I hope I can do the whole thing. I'm goign to try!

Have a great day everyone.

DH made me do it!
 

I should reread my posts more often. Back OP this weekend - see "planning and chat". I will deal with this situation with my dad in ways that don't involve overeating/bad food choices.

Dagmar :cool:

This week hasn't been that great food and exercise wise... I haven't even weighed myself for fear of being way up in poundage ... Since running Tuesday and spraining my foot I haven't run or exercised because of the pain. Then I've come down with a chest cold and cough now it's in my head...

But today DH and I have gone out for a nice walk at least it's something...

:wave:

You've had a really hard week physically Ilene :hug:. The walk with your DH is a big thing considering how you're feeling. Hope next week is better!

Dagmar :dizzy: