Aw - bless you all for being so supportive :hug: I was actually annoyed with myself for being as put out about it as I have been. I know she was just being a :moo: but she's not normally quite that rude (she can be a little abrupt) so I figured she was just being honest. My clothes are a lot looser and my waist has dropped 3 inches overall so obviously something's happened. A friend of mine has actually just rung because she heard about it on the grapevine. She said had I not noticed that :moo: has packed on a few pounds this year? Now that she's mentioned it...........:p

I've just realised that I've lost a third of my excess weight. Sod :moo: - I'm going to do a happy dance :broc: :broc: :broc:

Liz - :welcome3:

Allison - glad you're back. I think at one point you were away at the same time as Susan B which shouldn't be allowed! All that was needed was for Ilene to disappear at the same time and it'd be like "um, now what"?

Ilene- always thrilled to hear that things are good on planet Ilene. Keep it up :D

Blue - glad you're feeling better but don't overdo it 'cause you don't want to stay sick.

Heavens - I can't believe that's the time! Better go to bed.

:lol: this made me laugh, although when you're living it, :coach: IT'S NOT FREAKIN' FUNNY... I remember them all too well and don't miss those days at all... BUT they zoom by sooooooo fast and next thing you know they're teenagers and :devil:s in disquise!! Enjoy girls, ENJOY, as crazy as it may sound...!!

mamajones -- I also remember rushing my kids to hospital emerge for umpteen falls, strep throat, etc...... :faint: It isn't fun at all, and quite daunting at times ... To be able to get the "fancy" smilies you need to post in the "Go Advanced" right beside the "Post Quick Reply" when you reply to a post...

:cp: :bravo: ... Obviously that co-worker is BLIND ...

Technonot - Quotes???
 

:?: How would I just put part of a quote in my reply? I figured out how to access the whole post as a quote but am stymied as to how to use just part of a post.

One of you mentioned listening to her body in order to figure out what to eat. Well, my body (inner voice, what have you) always whispers "Chocolate, chocolate, choocoolaate!!!" :devil:
Dagmar

Doughnut- nothing I can add that everyone else hasn't, obvious envy.

My SO actually did comment on how I was looking, I almost fell over, I had an old pair of jeans on and he said "looking good" told me that anyone who hadn't seen me in awhile would notice a big change. Felt so good to hear and isn't that who we really want to hear it from.


Pretty good today, made it to the gym. YAY FOR ME!! Had toast for breakfast, salad, banana and yogurt for lunch, and veggies with cheese, sardines and rice for dinner. I think I over ate at dinner, but I had a long day of moving around.

It's so hard to keep up with you guys and the posting, I read one post and think I want to comment on that, then move to the next, and I by the time I go to post I forget what I was gonna say!

Welcome Liz!! Hope your son feels better.

Hikerchick- I hear you with the kids, I only have one and no time, can't imagine more!

Barbara- Glad to hear your doing better, take care of yourself.

Ennay- 24 hours of zero reponsibility, sounds like heaven!! Too bad the world would fall apart as we know it!

Dagmar, I just delete the part of the post I don't want... Also just above the message posting box there is an icon which looks like a thing in a cartoon when someone talks ( lol: I have NO idea what they are called, can you tell ...) Just click on that and you get these [ QUOTE] blah, blah blah [/QUOTE ] marks just add what you want in the middled ... You'll learn all kinds of tricks in no time don't you worry :D

Hey there feathers!

Doughnut, I must echo the rest of the group, that comment was just ridiculously rude and highly suspect. If it was actually true, and one was a decent person, one does not mention negative things like this to casual co-workers. Clearly she's jealous because she's gained weight..and a very bad and rude sport about it. Can we say "biatch"? :lol:

As for me, I'm STILL plateauing between 140 and 141.5. I cannot seem to get past 140 and by now I should have been, according to my *I thought* trusty calorie deficit chart, around 138. Ahhhh, now that I look at it its not such a big deal but it means I haven't lost in about 2 weeks. But you girls can relate to my wining, I'm sure. And I just ate steak, rice-a-roni, some Ritz baked chips, and a grape popsycle. And I'm STILL hungry!

Kylie, I've worked out with personal trainers here and there when they've trained me for free after I guess enjoying chatting with me at the gym. :lol: That hasn't happened in about 4 years or so but that's OK. :rofl: Anyway, if you can afford it its definitely worth it for people to learn proper form and a bunch of different exercises. Its true that you will work harder with a trainer, but here in NYC it costs around $70 or more an hour so I'd rather spend it on my manicure, pedicure and massage with change leftover.

ennay and hikerchick, it seems like having an extra child makes all the difference. My 10 month old is really easy. Bless her heart, the little dear just fell asleep in her play yard. I'm still debating but its quite chill with one right now. I was thinking about adopting 2 slightly older children in a couple of years. Am I fooling myself into thinking older kids are easier?

Hey everyone,
My week was hard too and last night, when I finally got the willpower to go swimming at 8:30 at night, we weren't allowed to go in because some stupid kid had pooped in the pool. Needless to say, I was not a happy camper. I still wanted to go swimming, but not in that water!

suerose

:yes: :yes: .....

Too bad about your swim suerose :( Maybe tomorrow?

:rofl: maybe for about a week at age 9?

Seriously it just becomes a different kind of hard as you go along

I miss my girl since she got married and moved three hours away. It's left me in a house full of men .... sigh. Yes, they are men now. Some days it's like having 2 or 3 husbands ... bless their pointed little heads!

And that biatch? She'd probably dress like a tart if she'd lost as much weight as you have. Stay cool, be above that, success is fabulous revenge.

Where's Sweettalker Carey?

:rofl:

And ditto about your :moo: doughnut! I'd say flaunt it BIG TIME in her direction! :devil:

Well I'm doing really well today (it's 9:20am) after a little slip yesterday. My body doesn't like a ton of crackers for "lunch" Eeeeeeeeee who'dda thought it??? :lol: :rolleyes: So at the moment I'm aiming for 3-ish squares a day. :D I've just had scrambled eggs with cheese for brekky :T :hun: I might even still be hungry, but we'll see when I've sorted out my e-mails and stuff and after a cuppa :coffee:

I'm off to the gym after work, rather than lunchtime because I am meeting up with the boys to go and see a silly martial arts movie and eat pizza :rolleyes: :jeno: Why does it always have to be junk with boys :jeno: :dunno:

:carrot: Pizza doesn't have to be junk food. My sweetie and I usually have a vegetarian pizza with whole wheat thin crust and ask them to just put 1/2 the regular amount of cheese on it. Maybe your friends would be willing to adjust their pizza tastes a bit to better fit in with your diet?

Dagmar

I'm not bothered about the cheese and pepperoni and all that stuff. It's just Pizza Hut rather than a nicer pizza place. Bah! :tantrum: It's not even nice pizza, it's just junk pizza!

Technonot Part 2
 

:?: So I've figured out the quotes (thank you Ilene), the smilies, and changed my tracker (1 lb. lost - YAAY!!). I've been trying to put a photo of the real Mudpie under my user name. My user CP shows the photo as my "current image" but I can't get it to show up on my profile. ??? Is there a help link I can access, rather than bothering all of you whenever I run into one of these problems?

:dizzy: Dagmar

Yes, I did get the idea of the "good" kid from my friend's little 9 year old daughter who likes to spend weekends with me. She's such a little dear, I've just never met such a sweet child in my life. Was hoping the future "adoptees" will be just like her :lol:.

I really blew it yesterday evening. As I last advised, I had already eaten quite reasonably and should have just stopped. As it was, I ended up with a few more portions of Ritz baked chips and I'm estimating a total of 650 calories? I know, they sounded harmless right? "baked" and all! Snort. Its hard to estimate portion sizes though but there were 9 in the bag and the bag seemed rather empty. I"m guessing around 5 but who knows for sure.

Total ended up at 2238 calories for the day, with no exercise. Yippee :(

Better today! ;)

Hey all
Mami- I know how you feel, I have a three year old and have been debating another one for awhile, it's tough. I would have to agree that it's just a different kind of hard, but won't it be nice when they can get up in the morning and make their own breakfast!

Dagmar- Congrats on your loss!

I lost another 2lbs, I'm not sure how I am losing so much, I haven't seen 135 in a long time. To think I might actually see t he 20's one day. Do you think it's possible that I am losing because I am actually working now? There is a lot of movement at a daycare, not to mention the travelling of picking up my daughter. Well, I'm not complaining!

Dana

Good morning! Finishing up breakfast before I go drag my little dudes out of bed. Today is a trip to the gym, grocery store, & kids karate class among other things. All the while I'm trying to get my house spic-&-span, laundry 100% done & packed as we are going to the beach Sat!! Yeah! Yesterday, ate perfect even though my am 40 min walk & pm 35 min walk were more leisurly than anything...aahhh, can't slack, even for one day, can you? I'm up .2 lb Expected to at least stay the same as I ate perfect.

Well, good day to you all! Off too the gym!

Technohot!
 

:cool: Whoohoo! I got the photo sorted out. Sorry, rarely do I figure out computer stuff for myself so doing this was a real treat. Now if only I could solve the diet puzzle . . .

Dagmar :dancer:

Wow, it's been a very active board this week! I ate such a virtuous dinner last night (stir-fried brown rice w/egg white and tofu, broccoflower, onion, mushroom); then sent DH out to the store to buy me a KitKat bar when he took an evening walk. What can I say, I just really needed a KitKat bar! I'm not usually a chocolate craver (I'm a hummus/feta cheese/tabouli/salty food type). It was small, tasty and worth the calories.

Today I have a parent-teacher conference w/DD's teacher (4th grade). The year has been OK, but generally boring, for her. She has close friends at the school and it's an easy walk from our house. In a different world we might consider a small private school but we are not exactly in a financial position to do that. I fantasize that I could teach at one (I'm a middle school teacher), and then we'd get a break on tuition. Well, one never knows.

Kickboxing class tonight--one of my favorites! The instructor is great, full of energy and lots of fun.

Take care, everyone.

Golly! I don't sign on for a few hours and there are 2+ pages to read!!! Gotta love all the posts.

And yeah, :o I did blush! I never saw myself as anything special, but I DO notice when SusanB is away!!! It does get quiet at those times.

Who asked if older kids were easier? Wow, DD is 16. You know teenagers--they know everything and they don't hesitate to tell you how wrong adults are! Right now, DD has failed English and she doesn't seem to think it is a problem.....she wants to be a music teacher. I don't know of any college that will admit someone into EDUCATION after they've failed English!! But to her it's no big deal. Yikes. I still have a 12 year old son that I'll have to deal with soon.

I've got to run--I'll post more from work. Everyone have a wonderful day!!

I notice when folks are missing but am always surprised when folks miss me. It's nice tho'.

Oh well, Allison and Ilene, we'll have to skip the :smoking: :cheers: drunken road trip to Mexico I guess.

I've been to the dentist (with my little white pill) and I'm so sloooow.:dizzy: I'll need a nap before work.:yawn:

Okay, we'll skip the trip!!! Either of ya want to join me in Vegas? We're going for a wedding in May....just a couple of days, though.

So how are the teeth coming along? How many more visits do you have to "look forward to"? Good luck with that (I remember you saying how hard it is for you to go).

Well, here I am at work. Ilene, you remember when we discussed that I didn't work so much at work?!?! Well, that all changed! One of the girls in the office quit and in order to cut down on expenses a bit, I volunteered to take over her job as well as do my own. Wow. She did a lot more than I realized! I am often up to my eyeballs with things to do and I haven't even learned it all yet. Then another employee got sick yesterday and I had to take her to urgent care. Fun....sitting there for almost 2 hours because I couldn't just leave her there. She's better and is coming in this afternoon.

Ennay, you were discussing vacations and how wonderful it would be to have 24 hours "off" without having to pay for it with double work before or after. That really made me think. The last vacation we went on (last summer) we were gone for 10 days or so in our motor home. I don't think I got any time off!!! First there is the two days or so of planning and packing and shopping. I have to stock the motorhome with food and drink for the whole trip (or at least most of it), make the reservations at all the RV parks along the way, make sure we have enough towels, etc. and make sure everyone packs the appropriate clothes. Once we leave, I do get some time to relax and read from time to time, but at every meal I'm back to Mom time fixing dinner! 10 days later, we return home and it all starts again--unpacking, washing all that laundry and shopping again because we're home again and the fridge is empty. It's making me tired just THINKING about a vacation!

Well, so much for my break! Gotta get back to work.

I haven't read the pages before I will have to read them tonight.
I binged REALLY bad last night. I was up all night sick. I think it was from nerves(I am so nervous about getting teeth pulled) but today I am doing better. i had a bag of mini eggs dark chocolate and now my tummy hurts so i think the binge is behind me. I am picking myself up and starting fresh today.

so far today I have had

B~ 1 cup rice krispies, .2 cup strawberries and .5 cup of 2% milk
S~ 1/3 cup french vanilla yogurt with .25 cup of stawberries and 1/4 cup of oatmeal
L~an egg with onion and cheese and a bag of mini eggs
for supper plan on
.5 pork loin chop with salad and vinigrette dressing
afternoon snack I will probably have an apple.

so far cals equal 928 I will also have an evening snack considering how much i ate yesterday i don't think going under today will mater but I figure if I have some cereal or oatmeal this eveing I will be fine.

To quote mu DDs~ Oh no she didn't!!!! Lokk at this way she is just green with envy...:hug:

I have 10,9,4 and 2 1/2 years old and believe me they do not get easier believe it or not they get louder with a whole new set of problems(and no naps lol)

Other peoples kids are usually better behaved then yours they usually do not talk back.lol

sorry for all the post but I wanted to respond to some and I would never remember all of them by the end.

I thought my dd was getting easier...really. And I do think that either kid on their own isnt too bad. The problem is when you have them together all the stuff you thought was easy turns out not to be because of the juggling. So older is easier in someways, harder in others, but MORE THAN ONE is definitely harder.

Allison - I honestly think I am sick now because of the "vacation" over spring break a month ago. I was so freaking exhausted when we got home and woke up monday and looked around at the unpacking and laundry and everything and just started screaming.

Hey Allison ... I think I have four more appointments and then we're going to talk about implants. I have two embarassing gaps. But I get to take a little break because my new benefits kick in in June :)
It is hard. I heard a woman throught the office wall who could have used a little white pill. And I'd just as soon go back to bed then go to work soon. I'm such a pitiful weenie.

I thought I was the only one who forgot everything by the end of reading 2 pages of posts ... I have to make notes sometimes :o

Don't get overworked Allison ;0 ... (sarcasm, me? noooo?) :rofl:

Susan -- This too shall pass soon enough :hug: ... I am not looking forward for my DD to moving away either, I'll miss her sooo much the little :devil: ....

Whitllin -- I WAS definitely blushing but flattered all at the same time :^:

Mami Other kids are definitely nicer than your own ... but if the other kid stayed long enough to get comfortable, don't you worry their true colours would show through... All in all though, I NEVER EVER regret having kids, although there are days I wonder why I did :dizzy: , does that make sense?

Today I spent 4 hours in the hospital with my dad for a colonoscopy, oh my but it was a long day, I'm tired... I didn't exercise and I won't :p ....

TTFN :wave:

This has been a busy week for my family. My dad had surgery on Monday, which was supposed to be on an outpatient basis. He ended up staying in the hospital until this afternoon. He's a bit . . . okay, quite a bit sore, but is in decent spirits. And since the hospital is only about a quarter of a mile from where I live I walked there to visit him. Which was nice.

And then yesterday I got my hopes up when I weighed myself. It said that I had lost 2 lbs, unfortunately when I weighed myself this morning I gained those 2 lbs back. It was nice while it lasted. However, I did get in my 64 onces of water for the day, which is rare.

As for the kids part, I don't have any of my own and to be honest at this time I don't want any. I have a 14 year old nephew and a set of 12 year old twins (another nephew and a niece) and they are a handful. And I don't remember who said it, but I agree that kids are easier to handle when there's only one. Besides those three I deal with about 250 plus adult children at work. And sometimes they are as bad as the real kids.

One last thing, Doughnut . . . don't listen to that woman. She's just jealous that you look great and she doesn't. ;)

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I always say that they get easier after the second one. I'd'a had a bunch if I'd been any good at. The little beggars just didn't wanna come out.

Thanks Whitlin ... I never thought of it that way. Me? Brave? hmmm

I'm proud of you gals who take care of your parents. There is not much sadder than a lonely old person.

Aaarrrggghhhhh!!!
 

:stress: :barf: :barf: :barf:

I binged last night - 2 Snickers bars and 4 great big cookies. Why?? Because, since my cat is feeling much better it's my dad's turn to get sick.

My dad and I have never gotten along well but I'm the only child so, since he is 82 now, he expects me to drop everything whenever he has a small health crisis. I have a major thing starting at work today so I can't drop everything.

He is going to make me feel guilty for choosing work over him and I eat when I feel guilty. I'm stressed enough with having to leave my cat for 16 days.

There. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm going to go throw away the other 2 snickers bars and 4 cookies and get back OP today.
Dagmar

Got my flower bed cleaned out yeasterday now the kids can't wait to get the new soil and flowers in there they are gonna help pick them out and plant them.

Morning- ish all. dd's cough is awful so no preschool or gym today. Doctor instead. sigh

Getting a little nervous about meeting my mom's day goal...this one might be close.

Been doing my planning and after mom's day I'll have my birthday goal --I was hoping to be at initial goal (since I dont really know what my goal should be) by my birthday, but I dont think that is realistic at this point. I think I have left "pound a week" land far behind. And then 4th of July goal, and then no matter where I am I will be in maintenance until after my marathon. I learned that lesson already...dont try to lose when the mileage gets high. Something usually gives and its usually your energy.

I felt it even a bit today, I went over yesterday because I was just ravenously hungry and this morning's run was a piece of cake. So much more energy despite lack of sleep. Usually by ~3 miles I am starving.

OMG this was so my dad and me. Hugs:hug: it is the hardest thing. You feel guilty for resenting having to take care of him, but at the same time....that dredges up all the old stuff.

My dad had a heart "issue" when my 1st child was 4 months old. I hadnt seen him for ~8 years before that and probably only once or twice in the previous 5 years. He was not able to care for himself anymore so we moved him out to Oregon to an assisted living facility and it was really hard. He wanted me to wait on him hand and foot and spend all day with him every day. He got mad everytime I made him take the assisted living transportation for shopping or doctors appointments. He got mad everytime I left because dd needed her nap desperately. He got mad if we didnt have him over for dinner every night (and he HAD to eat at 5 pm for his medication and dh didnt get home until 6:30) and he got mad if we didnt let him stay over night when we did have him over (tried that ONCE - dd was still getting up every 3 hours, it turns out so was my dad and he wanted me to sit with him until he fell back to sleep each time.)

I finally got some spine after dd stopped gaining weight from the stress - poor thing was being strapped in a carseat all day long shuttling him from doctor to doctor to errand.

But I never got over the guilt OR the resentment. I think (hope) it would have been different if we had any kind of relationship before that. But just coming in after years of nothing preceded by some borderline abusive years.

Anyway...that was a long ugly post...just to say I really understand how stressful it is when there is also relationship issues.

I think I'm starting to see the light on this illness. Feeling better this morning and I'm sure I'll feel even better this afternoon. Well enough that I'm not going to cancel tomorrow's personal training session (I've cancelled the last two). The good news is that my eating has been right on track, even at the lower calorie number, so I shouldn't have gained and might even still have lost. Hopefully I can keep it up.

Mudpie and Ennay, we have the same problem with my SO's mother. He is her only child and she is the most self-absorbed person I've ever met. She's also a hypochondriac and her most favorite thing to do in the world is to talk about how miserable her life is. Luckily she is not yet at the point where she needs to be in an assisted living facility (she's only 70, still working part-time, and actually in great health, despite what she would have us believe, so that's a long ways away). But she was always calling here with one imagined crisis or another and getting horribly upset at the smallest imagined slight. My SO pretty much refuses to talk to her on the phone anymore, he'll only talk to her via email, and we only see her once a twice a year. We got caller ID just so we could answer our phone again without fearing that it might be her calling (for a long time we screened all our calls with the answering machine). Because my SO just doesn't respond to her manipulation, it took a long time but she's gotten tired of trying it and now doesn't seem to want much to do with us. That's fine with us. We both got over the guilt thing a long time ago, but the resentment is another story (she's not even my mother and the resentment I feel is pretty strong).

It's also really hard when there's not a larger support system, which I guess is part of the problem with being an only child. If my Dad gets sick, he has my step-mom, my sister, her husband, his stepkids, me, and a large extended network of family and friends that would step in to help take care of him. All those people help distribute the burden. When my SO's mom gets sick, it's just he and I. Unfortunately, she is so self-absorbed that she's alienated all her friends and there are none left to help out when she is sick.

Dawnslight, I hope your Dad is recovering well from his surgery.

SusanB, I'm not sure what all you're having done but I hope all the dental work goes well. I hate having people stick their fingers in my mouth, not to mention all that equipment!

They told me to bring my MP3 next time. There's one item that makes a horrendous noise. Send shivers up my spine.
They're filling a few little cavities and replacing some old ones. I mean old ... I think I have a couple that are about 40 y. o.

I salute those taking care of aged parents/relatives, especially when they aren't exactly showing appreciation for all your hard work. Hope you can find small ways to take care of yourself during the ongoing stress.