UPDATE ~ the Geriatric Mental Health worker came today and we had a long discussion. He and a social worker are trying to sort things out -- so we are praying that she can have some influence even though our file has been sent up to the Sudbury office since we actually live in the north. So maybe our prayers will help her when the financial trusteeship petition is actually processed which could take anywhere from a few to several weeks.
The GMH worker did his research just as I did, and found the same things as well. Some good things have come out of this for future clients at least. He said this is the first time a situation like this has come up, which was kind of funny becuz I had asked that question myself, "surely this isn't the first time this has come up?" But it is ... go figure.
We did get lots of help from the social services, the activity services, the home support services for the future, and some respite, etc. So while we did get a lot of the help we had been looking for; we got a little more than we bargained for. I guess the biggest glitch is giving us a manual or pamphlet on what the group (CCAC) is all about -- sharing what they can do for us; plus honestly & fully explaining what the assessment process entails (leaving nothing out); and they should involve the close family members better than they did in our case.
He hopes all this will change in the future -- well, it will for him at least. This is a new group with new members, so that may have played a factor too. The new co-ordinator has been informed and they are supposed to make sure that they do things differently in the future. The other thing is to make sure they talk to the family to make sure they have all the facts right. It is hard to make the correct decisions on someone's behalf if you only have part of the puzzle -- leaving several dozen pieces out, you can't finish the job right.
Plus if some of the pieces are missing entirely, i.e. like the facts, and the truth -- relying on assumption & insinuation & opinion, and the mixed-up and confused thoughts of an ill client ... you will never finish the puzzle at all. It is much wiser to work with the family than take such an aggressive & adversarial stance against them; that only puts their backs up and who can blame them.
They admit some steps were missed; like bringing someone in to talk about the financial aspects personally, but IMO that should have been done at the beginning, not as an after everything ran amuck kind of thing. Taking such a drastic step without talking to the family was a huge error, and has caused a lot of stress & trouble; will take a lot of time & effort to fix; and cost a lot of money for the family & the government, all of which could have been avoided.
If the GMHW and SW are successful, maybe all that can be thwarted in one full sweep; that's what we are hoping & praying for anyways. Now, if my blood pressure doesn't go up this week from all the stress, that would be a blessing too -- but, our GOD is able ...
THANKS FOR YOUR PRAYERS EVERYONE -- I'll keep you posted ...
EDIT2ADD ~ I heard an interesting video today with, believe it or not, the infamous Alice Cooper. As some of you may not know, he is a Christian and has been for a good part of his life -- admitting that he was the epitome of the prodigal son. He said something very profound -- that he always tells people "Don't think that when you become a Christian, your life will be easier becuz it won't; actually, it will be harder" and he goes on to explain why. When you tell people you are a Christian, they watch you like a hawk; they judge how you live and talk; sometimes you are teased & mocked; and you better not make a mistake or they'll say you are a hypocrite (not Alice's words -- these are mine). We have problems just like everyone else does, and sometimes it seems like we have even more. It isn't that GOD offers us a charmed life -- no, no. He just offers to help us through the difficult times; and they will come, just as we have seen. He just wants us to trust him no matter what. Living the Christian life ain't for sissies, that's for sure ... good thing we have JESUS on our side!
If you want to hear the whole message, google "Surprise -- Alice Cooper is a Christian" on Youtube. I know I was supposed to hear that message today. Oh, here it is; I found it again ...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3q7ycY9hbk PS: while I am not a big fan of his music or theatrics, I just found this little tidbit interesting; and this was kind of an answer to a question that I had thrown into the air this past week. GOD does answer us and will use the most unlikely sources sometimes.