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I'm home and happy. Last week was better-the food was better and probably they will get a different hotel. It's never going to be the same. Coming home in the middle sure helped. Maybe Brad can come out next time. He has some big jobs right now. I correct the MA teacher test and they bring teachers from all over the state to a central place=Hadley MA. It is the most gorgeous area. Last night we went to a dairy farm for a sandwich and home made ice cream.AS for sex-it's important to both of us but if there was something physically wrong , we have so much else in our relationship. The worst thing would be when one partner had totally different needs than the other. Worse than that-none !!I have been through that and it affects your image of yourself as a woman. You constantly feel rejected.Well enough about that. I am getting revived and Brad will be home soon. Mima

I hear you all and totally agree.....Dh brought it up and told me since I have been having pain lately and doing it makes the pain untolorable at times he told me no sex no marriage!!!! I was shocked and I told him to leave me then cause when I am hurting that bad and know it will make me worse he is not going to touch me! (he actually thought about it!!!!!!!!!Divorce I mean..I thought that was terrible!) After all, I put up with his problems and viagra is not the answer......... I think it is just the Fibro but will ask the doc in a few weeks when I get my yearly pap! I just do not want to go to a bounch of other docs and have a zillion painful tests run to be told there is nothing wrong but the fibro! This pelvic pain sucks! :mad:

serenity..you have this too??????????????????????

Meme..can't wait to see the pictures:)

Yappy....that was a beautiful picture!

Joanne..the flowers are just so so, the insects are really bad this year too! Mya rms are hurting from spraying. I have some pictures but couldn't et them to post.

I had a 10 point dessert the last two days but counted it and planned for it..just wanted something rich! It was not even homemade but sounded so good and it was!

My pain is still pretty bad overall right now but I have been doing body electric with Margarett Richards on PBS at 2pm for 20 minutes a day, might be why I hurt:strong: :sp: :strong:

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Candice-GO TO THE DOCTOR NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Everyone tell her that!!!!!!!!!That is not good-didn't realize you had it so bad. It could even be something else-I get stomache pain from diverticulosis but it still needs to be treated. Don't wait til your next appt. Go now!!!!! With love Mima

How awful for you, Candace. Bad enough to have the pain but lack of understanding is another pain in itself.

The houseboat sounds positively luxurious, Meme. And it seems like you're really refreshed from the trip.

Glad things were better this week, Mima. (Esp. the food part = bad food ruins everything but of course I'd like a nice place to stay too.)

Dramatic - that's what I'd say the pain can be, Joanne. And very embarassing sometimes. Had one particularly bad one years ago. My son had just become engaged and we went to DC to take both our kids and our now kids in law to a very nice place to celebrate.
Of course we sat a long time. When I got up I could not stand on my left foot. Had to hang on son and dh to get out, once outside restaurant (in huge lobby type area - still posh) I took my shoes off to see if it would help me walk, it didn't. Both fellows dragged me to car. As soon as we pulled out, the joint unlocked and I was fine as if nothing had happened. This did happen a lot then but never as intensely as that day. Of course I was afraid my dil would take this wrong (like I did it to divert attention from them). And I'm sure my dd was embarassed, don't know what sil thought either - probably that he was going to steer of that drama queen (they weren't yet engaged). I've since had lots of smaller embarassments like stumbling when the knee gives out, etc. Still cannot get up gracefully once I sit for a while. Occasionally walking like I'm drunk till I get my sealegs after I get up. It sounds like you know now that you are ready to have the surgery done. It does take time to get used to the idea, doesn't it?

Should I start searching for Ally? I think I'll start at the outlets or maybe she's taking a chocolate bath in the Spa at the Hotel Hershey.

Have a good one, ladies. Weather here still so fine, dh is off to the golf course and I've got to get some gifties wrapped. And of course, more than a few chores to do. Bleah! And I used to like doing that stuff.

Oh Guys I am so sorry. :o
I have just been sort of out of it for a week. I did do Hershey last Mon, Tues Wed and by Saturday I was on the couch and out for the count.
I am just getting some energy back.
I am also doing digestive enzymes and Immune Pro. I suspect this "cleaning out" is also causing some energy loss.
I will read all your old posts soon so I can catch up.
The trip was .......... wierd. Too much driving. In the end,the kids on the trip did not want Hershey Park. It was too hot. They wanted the pool at the hotel. That was fine, but it is expensive there. In reality, I could drive ten miles and have the same experience right here. We went to the Chocolate World Tour and bought candy.....but again, way too long a drive to just do that.
Plus my friend likes me along cause I am negotiable. That is me...the Giver. BUT, in the past few years I have examined that. We talked about what happens when you don't speak up for yourself. Well, this year I was determined to do that. It caused big ISSUES. Silences. Annoyance. Finally at the end of the trip, I blew. Said that I paid for half and drove too. I need to think that I have choices and options. I am not just a puppet. SO the trip back home was.....uncomfortable. Have to remember this before we plan the next one.
Hard to travel with people if some just refuse to budge. Have to eat here and watch this on TV and get up at this time.....
I think I should travel alone!!!!
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Wow, what a lot to talk about.

Meme - So glad you had a good vacation. That is probably just what the Dr. ordered. Now, back to the grind.

Candice - I know you made a typo - gee you typed 'yappy' instead of 'happy' - mistake right?:lol: Now, about this problem you have. You NEED to go to the DR. NOW!!!!!!! Is that emphatic enough for you? What in the world are you waiting for? What if it is NOT FM. It could be anything, and you owe it to yourself and your marriage to find out. Your hubby was a jerk to say what he did. Marriage is a lot more than sex!!! It is about helping each other through tough times, and LOVE!!!! I am sure that he has hurt you very much with this attitude.

Mima - Bet your glad your home. Nice to work, but gee, it is nice to be home - especially when you have just been married such a short time.

Knee pain is something else!! I don't know about you, but whatever is hurting is the pain of the moment:lol: I know that my left knee used to lock all the time. I would be going one way and my knee was not coming along. Very painful. Then my right knee started and that pain was something else. I couldn't lay down or sit down - sort of had to keep moving. Up all night, had several different kinds of pain killers, and finally, the chiro. told me it was coming from a disk in the lower back. He did some work on that, and put the TENS machine on my lower back and my ankle, and volia the pain started to go away. So he was right. The Dr. just kept giving me painkillers and they sure didn't do the trick.

Ally - So glad you are back. I must have missed something, because I didn't realize you were gone away! Lost in Chocolate heaven - what a disaster. Sometimes it is just better to travel alone. When hubby and I go someplace, we just do what we want to do. Mostly, we have the same likes and dislikes, so we get along just fine; however, when we go with another couple, we do have to compromise and do a little of what each couple wants to do. If you go with someone who is unwilling to compromise, then you have a terrible time.

Serenity - where are you?

Ally...I do...travel alone that is. Every now and then I'll let hubby go if he's paying all the bills! :lol: I have 5 nights planned at Spring Hills Suites in Asheville, NC next month...ALONE! Indoor pool and the suite has bedroom living and kitchen combined, huge bath, 2 phones and 2 TVs...hubby says I don't need all that space just for me but I told him I was paying for it and it was none of anyone else's business! But...in October we are supposed to go to Gulf Shore, AL...he's going because he's paying! I'd much rather be by myself!

Anagram...I have that same foot pain. My Dr. is wanting me to go to a foot Dr. but I'm afraid it'll just be the same old same old thing! You go, you have tests done, they don't do anything about it and you have all that crap to do and all that time and money spent for nothing. Did you ever figure out why your foot hurt? Mine hurts in the big bone around on the outside of the ankle and then across the top, too. I've had surgery on both knees so I know what you mean about walking like you're drunk. Sometimes I go to someone's house and mess up by sitting in a low chair or couch and I have to have hubby get me up when we leave. I have to play the piano in church and he'll poke me in the side when the preacher is getting close to finishing and whisper, "Pop you knee"! :lol: If I don't straighten my legs out and pop my knees before I get up I can't walk.

Candice...I think Anne is right. It could be something besides the fibro. You need to tell the Dr. that treats your fibro what the problem is and see if he thinks it is fibro or could be something else. Better a wasted trip to the Dr. than finding out it is cancer or something else and it's too late to do anything about it! Besides, if you go to the Dr. he/she can probably help you with the sex situation and then at least your hubby can't say you aren't doing anything about it! Tell him just saying 'no sex no marriage' isn't 'Christian'!!! Besides...he doesn't even believe in divorce...does he??? We don't!!! Guess that's why I say what ever I want to my hubby and don't worry about it...I know he won't leave me!!! :lol: :lol:

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Candice- As I said before,solve this problem... You must love your hubby a lot. If mine said something like that I would tell him how to take care of his problem... Go to your doctor and lay it in his/her lap. Take your hubby with you..That might help a lot. I make mine go with me when he doesn't understand.
Meme It was good that you went away for awhile..It probably did you a lot a good.
Annagram.. Sometimes other people don't realize the amount of pain we have .. I told my Doctor once her had no clue unless he was in the same position.
Happy..That lake looks like a really nice place to go.
Ally..I could not go to a place that makes chocalote. I am so addicted. I don't like to travel with too many people. I am going to Az. in Oct. with my sister. I wonder if we will be talking when we come back:lol:
Mima.. I hope yopur working conditions get better. Your Brad must be really understanding for you to be away part of the week. My hubby would not..
Hey Serenity.. Bye,Joanne

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Time for a new thread I think. This shows we are on to page 4. My, my, my. Thought I just started a new this week. Hmm, maybe Candice didn't do a typo - maybe she is right. I should change my name to yappycanuk:lol: