Hello. I had computer problems on the trip, so I couldn't check in. Tim and I are both doing ok. I still am in disbelief over everything. The Emmaus weekend was helpful. I think it was good for some healing even though it was so soon. I am worried (upset at myself?) because I haven't cried much lately. It seems like I should be in constant tears. I cry some, and my heart aches, but the tears don't seem to flow like I think they should. Sounds silly, doesn't it?

anne, you mentioned the chiro. I went the Thurs. before the Emmaus weekend, and I go back this Friday. One of the team members is a reflexologist. She gave me a treatment on Sat. night. It was great. I have never had that done before. She knew that I needed it, and it did help. Also, in Michigan, there was a place offering chair massages. I debated about it, and Tim and his gf talked me into doing it. The man doing them could feel my tension, so I told him what had been going on. He worked on my back, neck, and head for 30 minutes, and only charged me for 15. Nice guy!

Mima, one of the schools here was converted into apartments. Bob's brother's widow and one of his cousins have apartments in it. They are so nice! The Grand Canyon trip sounds wonderful! I've never been there, and I've never done Amtrak. What kind of dog does Dennis have?

Joanne, glad to hear you are getting some rain. That's too bad that your g-son won't be coming.

Candice, it sounds like you are getting so much accomplished! Good for you!!

Tim has been great. His gf went with us to Michigan. It was nice. At times I felt like the extra wheel, but I guess I'll have to get used to that. We stopped at her brother's house on the way home yesterday. They live in southern Michigan. That was the first that Tim and I had met the brother, sil, and the new baby! She is precious! I sat and held her for the longest time while she slept. Very comforting.
It was funny because Tim was a nervous wreck about meeting them. His stomach was hurting and he felt like he was going to throw up. Once he met them, he was fine. Very nice couple.

He is taking his gf home today. 3 hour drive. Not sure if he is coming back tonight or if he will stay at her house tonight and come home tomorrow. I have to get some laundry done and write thank you notes. I did some before we left, and I had planned to take them with me to Michigan to get more done. I'm glad that I didn't though.

That's all for now. I missed having contact with you guys!!!

Tammy, there are 5 stages to grief and the first is sort of denial or shock. The crying will come when you don't expect it. But it will be healing-take it one day at a time. Your biggest help will be God but next is the fact that you have friends. There were so many times I was the only single person but no one minded. Of course, I missed being a couple. Love ya,
Suzanne called and said that Jim is being sent to Afghanistan-not my favorite place. We agreed that we would just have to pray more.
The dog is a Lab mix. He was tying her out front and she wrecked my garden, Now she is relegated to the back. He terrorized our neighbor's cats and we got a phone call. Now she can't run loose. She got away from us and we waited an hour before we could get her back-we let her in at night. Does anyone want a dog.
Today is Brad's bd and we went out to eat last night. I am bringing a cake to church and Brett and Angela are going to stop in. They used to go to our church so I am thinking people will be glad to see them.
It's raining and going to be 10 degrees cooler this week. Yeah.
I am sorry about your stomache Joanne. Hope you get some relief-I take Bentyl for the pain-4$ at Walmart. Works good.
I think I am getting some hot flashes again from the decrease in med which was not a mistake-he wanted me on the lower dose. I would imagine I will adjust.
Where is Meme-hope you are ok. Mima

When does Jim leave for Afghanistan? We'll keep him in our prayers.

I made a major decision today. I am getting another dachsund. The woman at the doggy hotel where we used to take Kramer had told Bob in January about people she knows who have them, but he told her that at that time, we weren't interested yet. I emailed her the other day, and the mother dog is ready for puppies any day. I called the owner, and she said that after the puppies arrive, she'll call me a couple weeks after and I can come and I get first pick! Oh my! I know it will be a responsibility, but I think it will be good for me especially after Tim goes back to school.

I also made a decision about Georgia. I am going! I have been on the phone and have emailed them today. They are working to find a unit for me that is pet friendly and one that I can afford. They had a mini-suite which is a good price, but it only has a dorm sized refrigerator, a microwave, and a toaster. I might want to keep ICE CREAM there, and I wouldn't be able to with the little refrigerator. I have my priorities in order, don't I????? So now I'm checking into a 1-bedroom like bob and I had in February. It was nice, and it will be plenty for just me. Tim has plans already to come down a couple of times. He will come down during his spring break in March, and then we'll drive home together.

Hope you are all doing well. My house is still a mess, but it is looking better in spots. I actually can see the top of all of my bed now. The suitcase is off of it as well as clothes. I even made the bed this morning! That's the first time in over 2 weeks.

I talked to a woman earlier about coming in and doing the cleaning that we had talked about. She will start a week from Thursday. It will be so helpful because as you know, there are days when just moving hurts.

Good morning. It doesn't sound like that suite would work with just a microwave. Or mini fridge. I am sure you will find people around there. I used to go to FL alone and I met such nice people-one of them introduced us to our church there.
Went to chiro yesterday and he gave me acupuncture in my knees-very good. And ultrasound in my back. No more handling the dog-he pulls and it hurts me.
I guess I thought you might get a dog-they are wonderful company. And it makes you walk-good thing it's small.
We are going on a daytrip but the weather is not so good-scattered storms everyday/
Jim can't tell us when he's going-privileged info.
Be good-Mima

Mima, when we were at Jekyll in February, we attended the Methodist Church there. We had also been there on Christmas Day the year before. Bob and I both loved it. I know that they have a new pastor who just started this summer, so I hope it will be as nice as before. The congregation was so friendly, and most of them are winter time visitors like we were.

I've never had acupuncture. A friend suggested it ages ago, but I've never done it. This morning my back between the shoulder blades is hurting so bad. I don't think that I've done anything to cause it. Maybe it's just stress.

Have a good time on your daytrip even with the storms.
I didn't even think about Jim not being able to tell you. I should have known that.

I POSTED LAST NIGHT BUT DON'T SEE IT!:eek:

Heading home now I think....met with the shelf lady again and sprayed for beetles on the bushes. Got the electrician coming back sometime this week.
spent several days cleaning upafter the carpet people..what a mess it made, didn't know it left a white powder all over stuff.

Tammy sounds like you are doing ok, staying busy helps I'm sure. My sona nd his girlfriend have a daschaund named daisey, long red haried and cute!

Mima..hope your back is better..I used to get accupucture but insureance would not pay and it was expensive....

HI happy and meme.......:):):)

My chiropractor does acupuncture so it's all part of the session with him.
Our day trip was ok-place not as nice as before and Brad is not a person that likes those kind of places but it was good to get away. Even had some frozen yogurt-took 2 lactaid.
Suzanne is having a hard time now that Jim is leaving Kuwait-I told her to find a support group for Army wives-his base actually has one in Ct. That and prayer are probably 2 things that help the most.
Tammy-there are support groups for widows but i would think it's too soon yet-Yeah for the church in GA-they probably have good stuff going on while you enjoy that gorgeous weather.
Candice-how far is your new house from the other. And when will this be over-sure sounds like you are making progress.
Don't know if I am going to Aunties-have stuff to do before we go away for the whole weekend and 2 weeks of work. Bye for now Mima-ps we got gas 20 cents cheaper than last time.

Good morning. Quiet on this board.

Tammy - I think you are still in a bit of shock! Once that goes, I am pretty sure the floodgates will open. Probably when you least expect it. I am glad that you and Tim are moving forward. A dog sounds like a good idea for you. Just take your time. All these decisions don't have to made this week!!! Definitley, a freezer is necessary. You can't eat ALL the ice cream in one sitting:D

Mima - best to leave the dog, if he is pulling you. The retrievers are such a friendly bunch of animals. Too bad he dug up your flowers, but he is a dog, and I guess whoever put him out there is the one to blame. I don't know if you said, but where are you going for the weekend! I hope the weather is good.

Candice - why is this taking so long. You have been planning this move for a LONG time. I couldn't stand this. If I know I am having to go, then I want to be done with it. Hope it doesn't drag on and on for you. I see you are still the NIGHTOWL!

Joanne - where are you? and Meme? What has happened to you? I hope you are both doing well.

I have been working too much. I am more like a part-time instead of a casual! I just worked 3 days in a row, and today I get to pay the price. I am sooooo tired. I don't do well without a break between the days I work. It has FINALLY gotten to be summer here. The humidity is very low, to non-existent, and I am feeling the rewards of that. A lot of the pain went with it:carrot: I think I am good until the end of the month and maybe longer. Time will tell. It has been the rainiest summer I have ever seen. Since May, it has been awful and the pain has been as bad.

I hope that you all have a great day.

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Hello Everybody... I am here every day although I don't post every day.. The long hot summer is here and I don't much then.. Grocery store W/M and ofcourse Tops. I think I am going to try and find another Meeting closer to home. There is also some unrest starting in the group and I don't care to be around that..My sister who has been a leader for 9 years has resigned.. She doesn't need the upset . Her health is too bad..It seems there is always one bad apple in a bunch..
Big dogs do like to dig.. I think all dogs do. Christie trys now and then to dig a hole in the floor.
Yes ,We all have to have our icecream.. My one failure next to good bread..
I try not to buy too much delie bread.. I will eat all of it in one day..
Bye for now... Joanne

Joanne..I love bread too..doughnuts too! and cookies and ........oh you know;)

Mima....do you have one of those leashes that let the dog run? Can't remember what they are called? Our pup is a non digger..nice.

Happy.....we are remodleing and didn't want to move untill finished, one thing lead to another and we are redoing the whole house with additions inside and out. The kitchen will not be done when we move in a few weeks..bummer. The men make a hudge mess and take their time showing up! More workers on Monday..........

Weather affects me too..hate hot humid and icey cold!

Hi Tam and Meme.

I am totally off dog duty-Brad takes her out. We have had the rainiest summer also. Today and tomorrow are going to be nice.
This weekend is a Mission conference not far away-sleepimg at home. We go every year and help support 2 families-one is going to be there this weekend and they are sooooo nice. And next week and the week after is 10 days work which sometimes goes down to 8-not sad about that.
So of course, I must have all my clothes washed and ironed!! Gotta get some new underwear-I wear it out bleaching it. I think I will stop that.
I agree-tammy. don't rush decisions. Big ones that is.
I guess remodeling can be harder than building-=I did it -3 places in the last 8 years-Well-one was basically decorating which I love!!!!
Bye for now-Mima

Well, I have had several total meltdowns this week. I knew it would happen sooner or later. Last night I couldn't sleep, so I just cried. I keep talking to Bob, and I tell him that I hope that I'm doing things the way he would have wanted things done. I also told him that he better be looking out for me!!!

Anne, it makes me hurt thinking about working 3 days in a row. With the rain, you have to be hurting.

Joanne, that's too bad about TOPS! I agree that Eleni (I'm assuming it is her) doesn't need that. Neither do you! Do you want me to come down and straighten those people out????? Ice cream and bread, huh? When we were in Michigan, Tim and I were into the ice cream, and his gf was a bread fiend!

My decisions this week were about getting the puppy (They were born last night by the way!!), going to Jekyll (no pain when I'm there!!), getting a tempurpedic mattress (Bob and I were planning to get a new mattress when he could get out and shop which never happened), and I am getting new bedroom furniture. What we have we bought in 1991, and it is just inexpensive stuff. We had talked about replacing it when we moved here, and just put it off. When I decided on the mattress, I decided on a queen instead of a king, and found new furniture (on sale!). The price I am paying for it (headboard, nightstand, chest, dresser with mirror) is about the same that we paid in 1991. Amazing! Tim will take our old stuff. What he has been using (and I am keeping for his room for when he moves out sooner that I want) was my grandmother's furniture. She passed away in 1964, so it has been around a while.

I started back to my aerobics classes this week. I had considered not going back, but that wouldn't be good for me. I need to stay busy, and I need to get out and not just sit in the house.

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Tammy- The meltdowns were bound to come. that too will pass. Give yourself time..Stay busy. The aerobics classes are good. I wish sometimes I could take them. My oa is just too bad..I don't do pain well. I do walk a min.of 40+ minutes a day.
Sounds good about the new bedroom set..I like a queen bed too.
Our kids moving out is a given.. I cried for weeks after our son moved.. I didn't know what I was crying about till a friend told me what was the matter with me..I used to cry every time we went to north Fl to see our daughter when we were starting home..I didn't let her see me . It was after we were heading down her drive to the road..Staying busy is what helped me.
Candice- I use a retractable leash for Christie.. I have to be real carefule. She has run around my legs several times a thrown me down..I do like to give her some freedom when I can.. Our daughter put a fenced in area for her in the back yard. Yeah, we put her out there and she sits at the gate waiting for me to come get her.. There is a leach law her and lats of traffic so she can't be lose to run..
Mima- Sounds like your tenent has it made.. Brad takes his dog out? Have a nice time at your conference.
Hello Happy,Meme
Joanne

Joanne, we have a leash law here too, but people let theiripets out to potty without one. Do you have to scoop the poop too? I hate that, we wait untill their are several in our yard before we scoop. WE have a retractable too, DH hates it so he uses the regular one. Yes I have been wrapped around too:)

Mima....you can come help me decorate..I hate it! Give me some tips please.... Have a good conference.

Tammy, well I guess you are normal, I wondered when it would hit, I cry all the time over everthing, used to cry everytime I left my mom's or my son at school..just me. Glad you got a bedroom set, we have to do that too and our son is taking ours that was a wedding gift 32 yrs ago. A puppy will bring you lots of comfort on those lonely days. Do you have a name picked out?

HI happy, Meme..if you are still out there;)

I like a queen size bed. A Methodist Pastor is speaking at the conference. Our friends weren't there! We might hook up with them when they are in the area. They are home for 6 months from Turkey.
I started packing yesterday and I LEFT MY BATHING SUIT IN FL. Couldn't find one around here so I have to shop in Hadley. That's one of the things I was looking forward too-2 pools at the hotel.
Tammy-I couldn't sleep for a month after my husband died. It will come and it will go but it's all healing and it taked time.
Tenant is going to the dump and mow the lawn . He appreciates that we help him.
Bye for now Mima