OMG Tammy, I do hope he will be ok. What a terrible shock for you. He will have a fight on his hands, I am afraid. Do they think it is Cirosis of the Liver? Just hang in there! I am sure that you are exhausted.

Mima - Funny about Jessica and her Mom. At least the babies will be the same age. How old is Jessica?? Her Mom is certainly very young.

Meme - nice to see you. You vacation sounds wonderful. Also, hope your daughter is ok.

Joanne - Hope the tummy has settled down again. Have you ever tried to take Immodium when it is acting up?? I find that it helps me.

I was sick yesterday. Went to bed on Monday night and got a case of the chills (fm thing), no fever, this went on for a couple of hours, and then got so hot, but my body temp was only 98.6 (seems lately, it is 96.2 each and every day) so could have been a fever, I guess, even though it was normal. Didn't sleep all night and had a splitting heacache as well. Yesterday, of course, I was so darn draggy. Better today.

Hope all are well.

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Tammy- Prayers are with you... I surely hope that your hubby will get through this... Take care of yourself and keep us posted,as much as you can.It is wonderful your son can be with you..
Happy- Immodium is in my house all the time.It helps sometimes but then it binds me up and I have another problem..
mima- 90$ for shoes? They better work good..I have paid almost as much too..They do last longer...I usually wear N/Balance..
Meme- Nice to see you back.. I hope your daughter is back to normal and doing well..
Have a Good Day...Joanne

Oh Tammy-how awful. Prayers for all of you. It seems sometimes we get a wake up call about our health. Sure hope and pray this is all reversible. Put all of you in God's hands.
Angela sked me to meet her at the hospital to stay with Keith in his carriage while she has an appt. I can't lift him without hurtng my back-I told her she should make her appts later when Brett can stay with him. But I will go today. I am not good with last minute changes to my plans.I do love to see him. I need to get over my resentment about her.
Shoes were nice for walking-they are New Balance.
I hope you feel better Anne.
I have to get ready for a large roup coming tomorrow night. Gotta get peaches for a cobbler.
Bye for now Mima

Tammy ... praying for Bob. Hope he is home and recouperating soon.

Some cooler today. Had a little much needed rain yesterday. Might get a little more tonight. Not holding my breath ... chances are 40%. I don't do well when the weather changes. This time is no different.

Ever heard of Lisa Harper? She is holding a women's conference at one of the larger churches in town next Fri. night and Sat. (21 & 22) Daughter asked me to go with her. They are serving breakfast Sat. morning. Sounds like fun. She has a Bible Study on Hebrews that has a DVD with it that I'd like to have. She's the one who founded the 'Renewing the Heart' conferences that were so big back a few years ago. I went to one of those in Nashville with a women's group once. She's really good. I don't have Praise Team practice next Sat. and hubby was gone most of last Sat. (most of last week, actually) so I should get a turn, huh?

Well, got to get busy. Have a full schedule on the weekend and need to get a head start on it. SS lesson is hairy. Romans ... 5 worksheets on Good vs. Evil. 4 of them are debate sheets. Lovely! I have the 7th and 8th graders now on top of CE job. I've had to enlist some help with that! Plus I'm singing on the Praise Team Sun. Morn. and then playing Sun. night and also doing the special music AND we have choir practice at 5. Co-ordinator of Worship handed me a notebook so full of music that made my head spin last night. It's a good thing I have 3 days and I don't know if that's enough!

Have faith Tammy!!! Remember, "all things work together for good for those who love God!"

Feel better everybody ...

Quick update. Bob was moved out of ICU about 6:30 tonight. He had some food - jello, pudding, apple juice, soup. He is very weak. There hasn't been any vomiting, and there has been no blood in his stool. The nurse said if it continues that way, he may get to come home tomorrow afternoon. That scares me. He is so weak.

I'm sorry I'm not reading and responding to all of your posts. I really need to go to bed.

Well, that's good news. Hope it continues and he does what he needs to do. It's hard to change. If you need support, Al-anon is a good place. Still praying.
I met Angela at the hospital and I stayed 2 hours until he went to sleep =she had all kinds of pre-natal tests. That Keith is so good. My gf told me that I get upset because it reminds me of my mother and all I went trough with her but that I am not the same person and I can set boundaries. I also can confront-she told me that noone could bring their children in but I saw everyone else bringing their children in-not that it would be good because she was in there for an hour. That's why I always feel manipulated but God says we have to help those that "persecute" us, not just the easy ones like my aunt. That's it-I feel persecuted. HaHA
Gotta get ready for marriage group tonight=Brad took the baseboard heat off the wall and now it sits there with no paint or baseboard. I bet it will be like that for a long time. And everything is a mess downstairs and plasterer is coming this morning for the apt.
But we are going away Sun=hope my stomache settles/I know I need an antibiotic. There is a huge event called the Eastern States Exhibition. We will see Brad's sister on Sun-go to a hotel, and go to the BigE on Monday. Bye for now-Mima

Our minister was down to visit Bob the other day. He told Tim and I that he and Bob are going to have a "little chat" when he's better. The minister's dad, brother, and sister were all alcoholics. I think Bob is ready to admit that he is.
I'll be heading to the hospital in a couple hours. Trying to get things done around here in case he gets to come home later today.

I hope all of you have a great weekend. I've skimmed the posts, but I'm not taking time to respond. Just know that you are all wonderful for your support, and I wish you all the best!

Wow how God intervenes. I am a big fan of support groups but when you get God involved, there is hope. Been down that road myself. Not fun.
I am tired from last night but it was great. We talked about forgiveness. And someone shared a story that brought her to tears but had such a great ending. She forgave something just awful because she knew she was forgiven
We are going away tomorrow after we see Brad's sister who isn't doing well-using the trach again.
Be good Tammy-we are praying for al of you. Mima

Well, Bob can't come home today. In fact, the doctor told him at least 3 more days. He is back on an IV, increase in the oxygen, more pain meds. I could have cried. I'm going early tomorrow to talk to the doctor myself.

Tammy, I'm so sorry. But it's better to be safe. If he needs a few more days to heal, he'd better take them. It'll work out, you'll see. He'll be home, and a better man for it, in no time. I'm sure right down to my achy bones that this is just God's wake-up call for him and ... if I'm right ... there isn't a thing you can do about it but pray and stay by his side until he wakes up. The ultimate decision is his and his alone. You know how that is! So, just settle down and wait. You know God's clock doesn't work like ours. Just give Him time to do His stuff. This didn't happen right at this moment ... when you are home and not working ... by accident, either. Remember what I said earlier about ALL THINGS? Just give those things time to work.

Praying for you all in this situation. Not an easy one, I know!

Meme-that was awesome advice. And it goes for everything. Everyone have a wonderful day-our prayers are with all of you, Tammy. Mima

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Tammy- Meme said it the best... Has the Dr. given you a diagnosis yet?He may just have a ulcer... My Son went through the same thing a few years ago.. He no longer drinks..He has devoted his life to God and is now happy..
Prayers with you...Joanne

Meme, thanks for saying what you did! I know it is so true. From Bob's beer drinking and taking Tylenol, he has lots of liver damage. Cirrosis (I don't know how to spell it) is the diagnosis. The doctor said that if he stops drinking, he may be able to live a long life. I do believe that it was a wake up call to Bob.

A woman from the dependency dept. came in to talk to him today about his alcohol drinking. She asked how many DUI's he has had, how many car accidents due to alcohol, what time he starts drinking in the morning, and how many times there has been violence in our home because of the drinking.

He has never had a DUI. He had one car accident, but he hadn't been drinking (they did a test at 2 hospitals). He never drinks in the morning. He might have a couple beers in the afternoon, but usually he'll go up to the Eagles or VFW at night and have some beer. He has never been violent in any way when he has been drinking. I think his answers shocked her.

The bleeding came from the esophagus where damage had been done because of the liver problem. His dad had liver problems, and he never drank.

Right now we are looking at Thursday for possibly coming home. He may be on oxygen for a while at home, but we can deal with that.

Thanks for all of your prayers and well wishes everyone. I am about ready to go to bed. It's early, but that's ok.

That's actually great news. It's serious but it could have been much worse. I know you are probably getting lots of advise but here is a little more. Don't tell him how lucky he is, don't stay on his case about how this is his own fault and don't keep talking to him about his drinking. He knows ... just give God time to work. Sometimes nagging at a person can do more damage than good. If he were to go back to drinking beer again later the best thing to do is become sad to the point he will notice something is wrong. When he mentions your mood, tell him you hate to see him drinking again because he is cutting his life with you and Tim short and you don't know how you will manage without him.

I'm still praying for you all ... the hardest part is yet to come!

Meme is right-it will be difficult but you seem to have a good relationship. It would be comforting to go to a support group like al-anon. I went for 23 years and it helped me stop doing and saying the wrong things and also develpo a personal relationship with God. I don't agree with the acting sad part-but def agree with telling him you want a great life with him healthy.
I prayed for all of you this morning. Love Mima