Good Morning,

BBL

Okay I'm back

You know I've been thinking alot about yesterday's posts and one question keeps popping in to my pea brain.

Why do we punish ourselves so much when we are feeling down? Like it’s against some law that we shouldn't feel like this.

I don't know if any of you do this but I often find myself comparing myself to my husband or friends (meaning, if they are happy all the time how come I'm not). I tend to do this alot and then turn around and say to myself "what’s wrong with me." Well shoot, there is nothing wrong with me, I am me and not them.

When will we learn not to do this, when will we learn that everyone is different, that we are different and its okay that we get down days or a few days, this IS perfectly okay.

I'll say this again - Its-Okay-To-Feel-Down-Some-Days!!!!!!

Especially when we grieve, grieving is okay, it really is. My father passed away when I was 21 years old, and boy do I miss him. He died September 16th (4 days after his 54th birthday) in 1984. The other day I was listening to some old country music on my way to work and I found myself balling my eyes out...WHY right, its been 19 years, well guess what folks, I loved him dearly, and I miss him so, this will never change so if you think I'm a freak for crying for him, then so be it !!!!! That’s my Daddy I will ALWAYS miss him.

My eldest sister Jessann died in 1998, should I dare tell you again how much I grieve for her and should I remind you again about the 80 lbs I've gained since then... I am finally, FINALLY after almost 6 years starting to feel like I want to live again and I want to crawl out of that dark cave that’s been keeping me captive all these years.

What I'm trying to say is its okay, it really is okay to grieve, but we need to learn how to LIVE again !!!! We only have one life here and we need to make it the best we can. We will never forget or fall out of love for those who have gone on before us, we keep them in our hearts 24/7 - forever.

And most importantly, because of Jesus, we will see them again, we will be reunited, now tell me that isn't the best new's you've heard in a long time.

Just know that when you are grieving, you aren't alone, Jesus is there with His arms around you, saying its okay, its going to be okay. He really loves us and wants us to live and enjoy life.

Lets enjoy every beautiful sunrise and sunset.

Lets Live !!!


Sorry to ramble on, my emotions really got caught up in this message...... hope I haven't offended anyone

Love Yah !

Good thing for the edit button OY VEY!

Leenie you made excellent points.There are days I just wish I could feel happy like everyone else.Yeah I know I am not alone but sometimes it really feels as though I am.There are times when I think people would be better off without me.* not talking sucidal*Like I just want to disappear.

I told my husband I am tired of living here with his brother; it seems to just add to my stress more then it should.I am thinking of going and applying for section 8 to see if that would help.

I just don't know anymore.

Hope everyone has a great day

*hugs*
lynnie

Good Morning Chickadees!

Wow Leenie! I love it when you speak your heart! I really do! Thanks for taking the time to say all of that!

I'm sure you didn't see Dr. Phil's weight loss show yesterday about Healing Feelings, but I thought about you girlie. He was talking to the real pretty blonde, Barbara. She lost both of her sisters in a car accident 18 years ago. I don't remember if she was 16 at the time or if they were 16, but anyway, it was about how their deaths affected her and her weight. I just thought of you bec I knew you had also lost a sister. I think you can read what she & he said by going to his website and then clicking on "The Ultimate Weight Loss Challenge #2" and then click on "Barbara" to read their clip.

Lynnie, I cannot imagine living with anybody other then my dear hubby and my sons! some days that can be challenging enough! LOL but I'm sure it must be very stressful living with other family! wow! just take lots of deep breaths! :-)

L - I saw you posted yesterday! It's also so great to hear from you! congrats on the 1 dough! (I'm guessing that's a doughnut?)

Tippy? how ya doing?

LindaT? what can we talk about today to get you out of lurkland?

Cin? how many meetings today?

Kemp? hope you're feeling better today!

Liz? how was Thanksgiving dinner?

Cassie? how was the walk yesterday? I saw that story on the national news last night about the stomach pacemaker....very interesting.

Joanne - I love your signature line!

Hope everybody has a blessed day!


Cathy

Leenie, my dad has been gone for over 30 years and I still miss him! I try hard not to think about all of my relatives who are gone. My mother had been dead a few years now, but we won't go into that!

Everyone who thinks that other people don't have down days is kidding themselves! I have them a lot, but I don't show it. I figure that its' all right unless I'm making the people around me miserable with it.

Now....what's new here!? Same stuff, I guess. I'm going weekly to the doctor with that open ulcer on my leg. It's slowly healing. It's wrapped from my ankle to my knee--try taking a shower like that sometime! Yesterday the phone company was here to put in a second line so DH will be working from home three days a week. (I still am not certain if that's good or bad!) It's a cold rainy Fall day here in WI...dreary! Nothing else new.......!

Leens I totally understand what you are talking about. I wonder if something is wrong with me sometimes too. I guess when i am having a day like that I need to remember to tell myself that nothing is wrong with me at all!

I do feel better today. I wonder if it is because i massaged my feet really good last night before bed. I know it helps me sleep but i also wonder if it helps in other areas too. I knwo that all of our nerve endeings are there so maybe I did some good with out even knowing it.

We are supposed to get a cool front coming through today. It is going to hit Cathy before I get it though. I think they said around noon Cathy. You will ahve to let me know how wonderful it is outside when it comes through. I have to wait until tonight to start to feel it.

Tip what on earth happened to your leg, take care of yourself lady.

Lynnie I can not even imagine the stress that comes with living with a family member. I think I would kill my sister if I had to live with her. I really didn't get a chance to live with her when I was young. She is 10 years old and was moved out and married by 18 so when I was just starting to have real memories of childhood she was out. So now, it would be an all out war if we had to live together again.

Kemp - it's almost noon here and no signs yet of a cool front, but I will certainly let you know if I see one! I think our local news said late this afternoon? but who knows? It's 78 and MUGGY right now so I will definitely notice if a cool front hits!

Hello Gang.............
Raining here today....a lot! I went to work,grocery,got a hair cut...came home and cooked supper for 8 and am headed to do another meeting out of town! Whew! Thank goodness for a healthy body & energy! Of course.having 4 grandchildren for dinner is always a pleasure.they brighten any dark & rainy day!

Hang in there gals!
Cin

Leens: Thank you so much for your post. It IS o.k. to be down sometimes. And I'm glad that JESUS is always there! Thank you for sharing your heart.

Lynnie: It must be hard living w/your brother in law. Have you checked into some kind of assistance? Maybe you could qualify for a home through Habitat for Humanity. It's worth looking into!

Tippy: I'm glad your leg is healing! And it's good to see you again!

Cathy & Kempy: Hope the weather gets better soon. We're supposed to be getting "fall like" (70's) temperatures starting tomorrow. I'm glad you're feeling better Kemp! What you mentioned about the feet was interesting-since I have no feeling or function in my right foot (nerve damage from a disc rupture) I could only enjoy a left foot massage

Weigh in tonite at TOPS

I'm feeling better myself today. The Sox helped when they won game 4 (and got through it without inciting a riot )

Tippy! so good to hear from ya! hope ya'll survive hubby being home more

LindaT - I thought of a topic - Christmas!

Cin? what did you cook for supper?

Joanne - I hope your weigh in goes great tonite!

Good afternoon everyone

I haven't been here much the last 3 days....we had our Thanksgiving yesterday....very busy 3 days. DS1 & his GF flew up here from Vancouver.....his GF is a pastry chef....but the job she does now is all kinds of cooking....she made most of the turkey dinner....we had it on Sunday....I made the yams....mashed the potatoes....did all the cleaning up while she was fixing the food......& after....DS1 peeled & cut the carrots....she made rolls from scratch...also the cranberry sauce...the stuffing from scratch....I always used one of those packages...also she made the turkey.

I was worried about the turkey...it was a free range turkey....was worried it would be tough....but it was tender....she rotated it in the oven at least 4 or 5 times.

They left late yesterday afternoon....DS3...his GF & her 13 year old son were here also....it was a really great weekend.

Leenie......I read what you said....it is true....I think it is somewhat genetic that we have depression....we will have days where we feel down....& days when we feel good.....when we have days that we feel down or sad....we should be good to ourselves.
When I went to counselling last winter....the counsellor said that even normal people....people who don't have depression....they also have days when they feel down.

April

Joanne, GOOD LUCK at TOPS tonight !! btw, how do you like it?

April, your menu is making me drool......... lol

Cin, did you change the style of your hair or just a trim?

Kem I'm glad your feeling better today - hugs!

Cathy, I'm really curious as to what Dr. Phil said about that issue. I'll have to check it out b/4 my boss comes back lol. Hey I can use all the help I can get. I hope he is very successful with all those people.

Lynnie sweetie, hang in there, I can't imagine the stress living w/some one either, I think it would drive me bonkers after a while. I just hope he is pitching in when he should. Do you have a girl friend you can go out with every once in a while just to have a little fun, maybe ease the tention ? Maybe you can get him on love connection and find him a wife....... boink right in the old kisser and out the door

<--- I like him too

Tippy darling darling darling, I need to call you...look out

Thanks guys.His contributing is eating all the food I have to stay focused on losing my weight.We bought him a loaf of health nut bread and what does he do; he eats my 12 grain bread( which is 1 point a slice) I buy vegetables to eat; he eats all them in two days.We get 132 dollars for foodstamps plus whatever my husband gets for disability.We take at least another hundred or two out of the disability for food; because his brother keeps eating everything.He says we are the ones eating everything but I don't understand how that can be.We eat 3 times a day; breakfast, lunch, and dinner.He eats 7 times a day counting at 1 am, 2 am, 4 am, and 7 am and several other times.He keeps telling us we are fat but we are the ones losing while he is gaining.His contributing to food cost is is giving us $40 dollars once a month.We don't ask him for more because ther has been times when he has helped us but he makes it known that we still owe him money.I wasn't raised that way; if you lend money you do it out of the goodness of your heart and with an understanding when it comes available thats when u get repayed.Am I wrong?

How do I go about finding out about Habitat for Humanity?

I know it seems as though I keep complaining. I am sorry to trouble yall.

*hugs*
lynnie

Morning!

Working nights this week so will be popping in and our when I can. Leens what a beautiful response you got to your post......it feels good to let it all out doesn't it~

We had a nice Thanksgiving at my mom's.....turkey, potato, stuffing, gravy, yams, turnip/apple casserole, bean salade, fancy greens salade,broccoli/cauliflower and cheese sauce three kinds of pie...I let myself have a taste of everything......no seconds~ So I felt comfortable.

I'll see all next time!

Eliz

Hi everyone. I just wanted to introduce myself and to respond to what Leenie said earlier today about having those down days.

First let me introduce myself. My name is Lynette and I live in Arizona with my husband of 13 1/2 years and our 2 boys (10 and 9). I was diagnosed with depression 4 years ago, and have been taking Prozac and/or Celexa (at different times obviously) since then. Well, I take it when I have the money to get the prescription filled. Since I started taking the meds though, I have managed to gain 30+ pounds and 3 dress sizes. So that is why I am here today. I want to learn how to deal with this depression and still lose the excess pounds. I felt that this thread would be good for me since it also deals with the issues of depression.

Now onto responding to what Leenie said. You are so very right that we all deserve to have those down days. Especially when we are grieving someone dear to us. I had a daughter who was stillborn 12 1/2 years ago, and that heartache is forever fresh for me. I can start crying at the drop of a hat. Especially when I hear a certain song or something. But this grieving is absolutely natural, as long as we don't let it take control of our lives. We need to be able to say "Alright, this is enough, I need to get on with my life for right now and stop letting the grief take over." But that isn't to say that those thoughts can NEVER return again.

Well, I would love to hear more about what you all have to say about your depression and your weight loss journey. Please excuse me for just jumping into this topic. I think I am going to like hearing from you all.