I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been there too. It's tough, but you can overcome it. Talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. Seek professional help for the depression and binge eating like https://betterme.world/articles/edamame-side-effects/. Remember, you're not alone.

I have been in good shape and I have been very fat and the difference in how men (everyone really) reacts is drastic. So it's hard for me to believe that isn't a factor for most boyfriends. But, of course, I don't know your bf and if he loves you, it shouldn't matter. Plus, you might have only gained a little bit. The depression, of course, is a totally different matter.