Oh that makes us sad Lisa!! please know we love you and are thinking of you :) :hug:

getting ready for work now so no more time :mad: will be back tonigh t

wow over 10 1/2 pounds in 3 weeks is soooo great! :carrot: :bravo:

Cinnamonhearts - :bravo: to you for going over 2 weeks without a binge, wonderful! and I am glad you are fiercely protective of yourself...because when push comes to shove, YOU are the only person who is looking out for you and everyone else better watch out :)

Lisa - I hope you got lots of laundry accomplished. and it's a shame you had to cancel your dentist appt., i hope you can get another appt. soon, but only when you feel up to it :) I think it's wise you avoided it especially hearing about the construction. i know I've told you before how much I admire you for being able to navigate traffic in big cities (like C-bus) I have NO bravery that way and you are my driving hero :cool:

I hear ya about having to keep things tidy in a small place. Even just a little bit of clutter in my little living room craps up the place :devil:

I keep thinking of cute Elvira having a new doggy neighbor, especially a beautiful Rottie, hope the fur is still not flying :D

Lisa I hope your spirits perked up :)

Hey nerdbling, we are so sorry to hear you are having such a rough time! please know you can vent here to us!

Thank you for all the good thought s Kathleen, on the 🐀 rat b@stard front and more importantly the first surgery tomorrow :)

Hi Holly,

I have a cold and now, I realized that is probably why I have been down. I never do well when I am sick. This is day 5 of having this cold. I hope it goes away soon.

One thing that scared me about going to the dentist is, one of the tires on my car is bad. It scares me to drive on the interstate. I'll have to get them looked at. I've also been feeling a little overwhelmed lately. I have had my hands full getting the house put together. I want it to look so nice, something I can be proud of.

Elvira hasnt' been on the back porch lately. Our weather has been pretty miserable. We'll come across the rottie again, soon.

Have a great Tuesday evening, Hollly. :)

Yesterday was definitely a down day for me. A lot of dark thoughts.
I am feeling better today, but it really scared me to be back in that place. I really think I need to stop putting off seeing a therapist on a regular basis.

I hope you feel better soon, Lisa!

Aunty Jam – sorry you’ve been having such a difficult time, I hope things are a little easier at home now. We have all had periods where we can’t handle other people’s issues over and above our own, don’t worry if you can’t – just focus on you, and know you have a net here if you need it.
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Lisa, I’m so glad you got your log-in details back! You seem to be having such a tough time with your sister! She sounds like she can be a little toxic, I hope your mom’s estate can be handled quickly so you guys can start to move on. Are you any closer to selling the property? I love your suggestion the exercise DVD – I’m going to look up a few routines on youtube, but we don’t have much space. I’m thinking about yoga moves you can do on a double bed. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling lonely, it must be a shock to the system getting used to being without Jennifer again. I hope you can find some ways to meet people in your new town.
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Holly – I wrote a response to you a few days ago, but accidentally lost it. I am really hoping your first cataract operation went well today, and you have a quick recovery ahead! Please let us know how you are, when you get a chance.

I’m sorry you were upset by the photos you found – it can knock the wind out of you, can’t it - remembering a certain haircut or outfit. I stumbled on some of my mum’s photos, and decided to frame some of them around the house – I just have a couple of photos, but they do numb you a little bit (in a good way). I don’t know if that is something you would feel up to. As far as my glasses go, I just hate the idea that everyone will look at me. I would like to blend into the furniture a bit… I have a second pair, which I’ll wear to work instead. They’re less of a difference.
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Kathleen – I’m always amazed by your patience with your son, you sound very supporting. It’s great he is starting to pick up, I’m glad he seems to have found a lovely girlfriend as well – it must help take some of the worry off your shoulders. Thanks for the suggestions on the CBT books - I will look into them.
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Cinnamonhearts – I’m sorry about your doctors appointment – it’s really frustrating when they are so patronizing! I had a doctor like this recently, it just made me feel angry and like the appointment was a total waste of time. Maybe print out some details of the drug, and some testimonials from people. Surely though, if a drug is there to help with binge eating disorder, then a natural side-effect will be weight loss (because you’ll stop binge-eating). It doesn’t sound like it’s a miracle weight loss drug, and she maybe didn’t make the connection? My blood is boiling a little on your behalf!
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Nerdbling – I’m sorry you’ve been finding things hard, I hope things are turning around a little now. Well done for losing 4lbs!! That’s a really great loss! Keep up the good work :)
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Jessica – it’s really good to see you, thanks for stopping in with an update. Congratulations on losing almost 11lbs! That is absolutely fantastic!
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Brd88 – I’m really sorry you’ve had a tough time too, please use us as therapy as much as you need – I hate to hear how dark things have gotten for you, but we’re here to support you if you need it.

Hi Ladies, I'm sorry for not responding to you guys sooner, like I promised. I booted up my laptop, and it decided to do a big update that took a whole 2 evenings, then I didn't turn the thing on again for about a week! My responses are a little disjointed, I've been reading along with all your news, but not responding, so I hope I haven't missed anything important in my huge post, but if I have I'm sorry!

All your brilliant weight losses are putting me to shame... I haven't lost very much recently, we are still waiting for the OH to get his Celiac diagnosis confirmed, and the cheeky thing keeps using it as a way to guilt me into eating all sorts of rubbish - because he "won't ever be allowed to eat it again soon". I wish they'd hurry up! I'm looking forward to starting a decent diet again.

My Dad saga continues as well - I've been trying to call him quite a bit over the last month, but I haven't been getting an answer, it just rings and rings. Turns out he decided to do away with his phone, but he didn't bother to tell us! For a while I felt like an awful daughter for not speaking to him for so long, then I remembered he can always call me, so now I'm angry again. I feel like I've been angry an awful lot lately between one thing and another. I should look into CBT like you guys have suggested, and maybe I can let it go, who knows. Being angry is very tiring...

Anyway, I'll try to pop by again sooner this time! Take care everyone :)

HI ladies, I am so very tired tonight. I did a lot of driving today. I went to go see Jennifer and load up my car. I still have some stuff there. I have not moved everything yet. I'll get it all, in time. I won't be going back to see Jennifer until I get my tires fixed, though.

Jennifer was pretty quiet when i was there. I think she was tired. She was really happy to see Elvira. She adores the dog. I think more than me. LOL

My workout dvds are in Ohio finally. It should only be a couple more days until they are delivered. They are being USPS.

My mood is a little better today. My cold is trying to break up. Kleenex is close by. yuck

I'm still reading my book. It's really good.





Hi Britt, I am sooooo sorry you are down. Yes, yes, yes, please start seeing a therapist. You could also start a journal. Just get your thoughts out on paper, even if you write the same thing over and over. It really helps to just get it out.

I feel a little better today, Britt. My cold is breaking up.

Coop, even after the estate is closed and done with, I am not talking to my sister anymore. I'm done for good. She is a lot more than just a "little toxic." i am not going to have anything to do with her ever again.

Coop, I'm not sure why I was lonely that one day? Perhaps I wasn't feeling good that day. I'm just really glad my cold seems to be getting better.

Coop, I'll respond to this post tomorrow. I'm really tired and need my beauty sleep.

Good morning everyone. Have a fantastic day! I just wanted to stop by and say hello :wave:

I really need to get better about responding individually. I do read ya'lls posts, but I usually get on the computer at work and just can't respond individually when I'm here.

I wish there was a 3FC app, or at least the forums mobile friendly, LOL!

:lol: I just like to be tactful! I'm glad the estate is dealt with, so you don't have to have much contact.

Hope your cold will go away soon!

Lisa, I am happy you are feeling a bit better! Who are Jennifer and Elvira, if you don't mind my asking?


Coop, I am sorry you are experiencing frustration with your dad. My parents and I are in a pretty weird place right now because we don't agree on some moral issues, and it's always a constant battle to try to balance guilt for not calling them as much to avoid being triggered paired with their guilt trips of me not reaching out with my anger at them for basically choosing to ignore my needs and happiness simply because we don't agree. I feel like a horrible daughter for standing up to them even though they always taught me to stand up for my beliefs. It seems like that only applies when we have the same beliefs. Parent/family stuff can be so hard.

JesikaBeth, I totally agree! I also wish there was an app!