oops, well Will Power Dust is just as welcome as good vibes :D

Originally Posted by Cinnamonhearts:
Lisa - To clarify - I got my sheets secondhand from my parents over a decade ago, not from a secondhand store. They are very worn but did the job, so I never replaced them. I also felt for years that replacing them was a luxury. That said, I'm liking my new sheets. They are so soft and not threadbare! I never realized how threadbare my previous sheets were! I've never had new sheets, so I never knew they could feel this awesome!

I'm not sure if I mentioned this, but my husband and I were going to buy new comforters when we bought our bedroom set. Funny enough, the next day his mom (who did not know we were looking to buy) gave us three basically brand new comforter sets that she had. It feels so nice.

I am glad you are loving your new home Lisa :) I am sorry to hear that things aren't going so well with your sister. Once I was seeing a counsellor and was telling her about someone who was draining the life away from me basically but who I could not think of leaving because I was afraid of what would become of him/how he would take care of himself. She told me - Humans are very adaptive. He will adapt without you; he won't have a choice. And eventually I got the courage to leave and although I am not in contact with this person and have no idea what became of them - the idea that people adapt without us was very useful with other people who were in my life and her words gave me freedom. You deserve to be happy and focus on you Lisa :)


Hope everyone is doing well!

Cinnamon, Oh good, Im glad you got your sheets from your parents. I just always worry about bed bugs. They are sooooo hard to get rid of and it takes hundreds and hundreds of dollars to get rid of them.

I know I did the right thing in getting rid of my sister. It was just the right thing to do.

I hope you are happy now too? Toxic people can make your life miserable.

Originally Posted by Coop27:
Ladies, it is lovely seeing the forum so busy, BUT you don't make it easy to stop by for a quick catch up :lol: I'm using my phone just now, which is difficult for reading and responding, but I'll try to reply individually soon :)

I've been feeling a bit blue lately, but I made it back to the gym tonight, and I feel much better. It's great what a little exercise can do. I need to do it more often.

I've been noticing how badly my confidence has dropped lately - especially around work. I've got that feeling like they're probably wondering why they hired me, and like nobody likes me, and i talk nonsense. I don't really know how to get back from there... It's silly things, like I bought new glasses that are a complete change of style, but I'm too nervous to wear them out, because i know everyone will comment... I've always been low confidence, but it's grown worse since my mum died. I need to look into mental exercises or something! What are you meant to do? The gym has helped my mood a little though.

I'll try to get through all your posts later on tonight!

You are struggling. I am so glad you posted though. I worry about you when you are absent. I wish I could help you feel more confident. I bet you look great in your new glasses. Oh sweetie, we adore you here, just know that.

Coop, exercising is absolutely good for you. Please keep it up, if you can.

I don't know how in shape you are but even if you don't feel up to going ot the gym, maybe you could get yourself an exercise dvd. I got myself a chair aerobic dvd, actually I bought 2 of them so now I can do something at home that won't kill me.

Much love to you, Miss Coop.

Originally Posted by brd88:
Sorry I have been away and am feeling a bit overwhelmed with trying to catch up on reading. I hope no one takes is personally that I can't right now - it ended up being a rough couple of days, as I binged on Tuesday after trying intuitive eating and along with feeling like a failure, have been suffering some serious gastrointestinal issues as a result. I guess the good thing is I can't binge like I used, too? It was significantly harder to put away as many calories as I used to. I'm back to bite counting, though. I need the structure for now.
Hope everyone is doing well this Thursday.

Britt, I know it's kinda hard to post to everyone. I simply hit reply to everyone's post, instead of trying to post to everyone in 1 reply. Does that make sense?

Originally Posted by Aunty Jam:
Holly - half cut means half drunk up here. Is that what you were asking? We had sort of a fight tonight. He's been talking about a cruise (seriously???). He has a fear of open water so said he thinks he could do an Alaska. Cruise because it stays close to shore. He said it's not as great as the Rhine cruise I did with my family but still good. I said I'd settle for being able to get new glasses and go to the dentist. He thanked me for killing the conversation and slammed the door behind him. I'm not sorry one bit. I plan to be in bed and "asleep" before he comes back in.

Believeinme - thanks for your kind words.

I think I've figured out part of my problem. No matter how stupid it sounds. I knew he could t live forever but I never thought of or planned for life without him. It came as something of a shock to be honest.

I'm sorry I can't acknowledge others in my posts. Anyone who knows me at all knows how much trying to reply to and/or acknowledge everyone gives me serious anxiety. It stresses me out just thinking about trying. I just don't want anyone to think I'm being rude

It's really ok, just do what you can. Even if you can only reply to a couple people, it is really ok. :)

Originally Posted by nerdbling:
Hey everyone, I am sorry I haven't been on. My life has been testing me tremendously. I can barely keep up.....I feel like I am getting overwhelmed, But I have been soo busy I am exhausted and can't really keep up. Its really frustrating. I have somehow been able to loose a few more pounds which is awesome but I was terrified to get on the scale last night. only 4 lbs but I would have been happy to just maintained but the loss of a few pounds was nice. I just hope it was not because of stress. I haven't even been able to keep on basic house tasks and hygiene. Its really im just so exhausted. I hope everyone is doing good and much better than I am

I am so glad you are here posting. It makes me so sad that you are struggling with the simple things in life.

Are you on meds? Do you have a therapist? Post here as much as you feel comfortable doing. You really need an outlet.

Much love and peace to you, nerdbling.

Originally Posted by VermontMom:
Hey nerdbling it is good to hear from you although sad to hear you are not doing well, I hope things get better for you!!

AuntyJam, I did not know that expression, I thought it meant you were thinking of self-harm cutting. Um...I would also NOT be happy at the thought of a cruise, when basic necessities are needed!!! :mad:

Lisa, it does take a long time to get things done for moving in doesn't it! and I think it's usually the washing machine monster that gets our socks :) I'm glad Elvira had a good meet and greet with teh neighbor Rottie, hope they become good sniffing friends :)

and HI to everyone else :hug:

I'm thankfully over my horrible sad crying fit about the pics of my mom, grandparents, etc. Afterwards, I tried to shift my perspective, instead of being so horribly sad that all of that is gone, I tried to focus on, that they were such loving and great people (grandparents) to take all the childhood pics of my mom .

TWO WEEKS FROM TODAY will be my last day with the Rat B@stard Boss and the frustrating winter job. And this Wednesday, I have my first cataract operation, which I am both fearing and looking forward to.

Hi Holly, I am so glad for you that you only have 2 more weeks with rat *******. I know you love your summer job. It makes me sooooooo happy that it is coming soon.

Hi ladies, I am sorry I have sooooo many replies. I just can't reply all in 1 post.

I am a little down today. I'm not sure why, I just am.

I am going to rearrange the house today. I also have to remember to take out the trash tonight. I need empty trash bins. Lots of stuff to get rid of.

I am really enjoying my book. It is such a good read.

Nascar is on tv today. It'll keep me company as I work on the living room. I'm going to rip up boxes and put together a coffee table. When have somewhere that is small, you really have to be organized where things go.

You know.....despite my being down, I still feel really grateful for my life. Things are so much better than they were last year. I have a nice, cozy house that I can actually take care of. It's come a long way since I first moved in. I will feel better when the house is done.

I'm watching The Heat with Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy. Best movie ever. If you haven't seen it, make it a priority.

I think that is about it, I've rambled on enough.

Much love to all.

Originally Posted by nerdbling:
Hey everyone, I am sorry I haven't been on. My life has been testing me tremendously. I can barely keep up.....I feel like I am getting overwhelmed, But I have been soo busy I am exhausted and can't really keep up. Its really frustrating. I have somehow been able to loose a few more pounds which is awesome but I was terrified to get on the scale last night. only 4 lbs but I would have been happy to just maintained but the loss of a few pounds was nice. I just hope it was not because of stress. I haven't even been able to keep on basic house tasks and hygiene. Its really im just so exhausted. I hope everyone is doing good and much better than I am

nerdbling: So sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time. :( Please feel free to come here and vent all you want. We are here to support you as much as we possibly can. Do you have a therapist who could also help you through this difficult time? You don't have to go through all of these feelings of being overwhelmed and exhausted all alone. Regardless, we are here for you. Please hang in there! I am sending a big hug and prayers that things will get better for you soon! :hug:

Originally Posted by Cinnamonhearts:
That said - guess what??? I was able to start seeing an employment counsellor every two weeks! She is a trained regular counsellor so we are going to work on my self esteem, CBT techniques to help with anxiety etc and then look at the work-related stuff after. I don't need help with a resume or anything like that, I just need counselling on finding out what job best suits me,if that makes sense, and help having the confidence to apply to jobs and go on interviews. Work is such a huge stressor for me and having no self esteem makes everything so much worse..so I am so happy to be starting to see a counsellor regularly who can help me with both things.The work I have done so far in the last week with her has given me so much hope.

Also, best yet - she prefers focusing on mindfulness, changing your behaviours and perceptions etc instead of rehashing the past so that is a plus.

I also got a new haircut and new shoes to have for my eventual job interviews. Also, exercise and eating has gone well the last 2 weeks. It's still a huge daily challenge but I'm still so grateful.

Hope everyone is doing well!

Cinnamonhearts: So sorry I somehow overlooked your post the last time I posted. :( :dizzy: That is wonderful that you will be getting both employment counseling and regular counseling with the same person every two weeks! :) The fact that the work you've done with her already has given you lots of HOPE is a great sign of things to come! I'm very happy for you! :D

Originally Posted by VermontMom:
TWO WEEKS FROM TODAY will be my last day with the Rat B@stard Boss and the frustrating winter job. And this Wednesday, I have my first cataract operation, which I am both fearing and looking forward to.

Holly: Hip! Hip! HOORAY!!! Only two more weeks with the rat b@st@rd!!! :carrot: :cp: :dancer: :cb: Not only will it be awesome for you to be back at a job that you actually like, it is a great sign that summer is on its way!!! :D :sunny: And that means motorcycle rides are right around the corner, too! :D :scooter:

You will be in my thoughts and prayers on Wednesday. Good luck with your first cataract operation! All will be well, and you will be on your way to recovery ~ and better sight ~ by this time next week! :)

Originally Posted by lisaloveshearts:
Cinnamon, Oh good, Im glad you got your sheets from your parents. I just always worry about bed bugs. They are sooooo hard to get rid of and it takes hundreds and hundreds of dollars to get rid of them.

I know I did the right thing in getting rid of my sister. It was just the right thing to do.

I hope you are happy now too? Toxic people can make your life miserable.

Lisa, Yes I am much happier having cut the person I mentioned out of my life. It seemed like a life altering decision and I encountered a ton of self-doubt but after a month I noticed I had a ton of energy and more money too. I realized I had been wasting so much physical and mental energy on this person that I had had a weight on my shoulders the entire time, that I hadn't realized was due to the person I cut out.

I can safely say I wouldn't have lost 120 pounds, gained self respect, built this independent life, or found my husband had I stayed in that horrible situation. I have also developed into someone fiercely protective of myself...sometimes that gets me into trouble but overall it's been a lifesaver.

Anyway, glad to see you are enjoying your beautiful house Lisa!!!

Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2:
Cinnamonhearts: So sorry I somehow overlooked your post the last time I posted. :( :dizzy: That is wonderful that you will be getting both employment counseling and regular counseling with the same person every two weeks! :) The fact that the work you've done with her already has given you lots of HOPE is a great sign of things to come! I'm very happy for you! :D

Awww thanks! I'm so grateful that she and I seem to be on the same page. Part of why I really like her is that she is not judgmental about the way I'm feeling, but validates my experiences and feelings and is showing me tools so that I can cope better.

Thanks for your well wishes :) I'll let you know how things progress. I've gone two weeks and a bit without bingeing; I'm so grateful! I skipped the gym on Friday because being there with so many people is causing me a ton of anxiety, but I'm hoping to go back tomorrow.

Hi ladies, I hope today finds you all well. :)



Kathleen, I think I missed posting to you yesterday. How is your son doing? When will you be coming to the lake? Do you have a place here? I can't remember.


I am doing laundry today. Lots of smoky laundry. I'm also going to start ripping up boxes again. I have empty trash bins now, room for ripped up boxes.


I'm sorry my post is boring, just not a lot going on here today.


I cancelled my dentist appt for tomorrow. I am not up for the long trip, plus there is tons of construction once you get on the campus. It's really hard to get around, it's really confusing. I just am not up for the whole thing.


I might post again later. I am kinda lonely. It makes me feel better when I see someone has posted.


Much love to all.


I am still a little down but not quite as bad as yesterday.

Hi everyone, I hope you all are doing alright. I haven't been able to come by 3FC as much as I'd like, so my apologies for not being able to individually respond to everyone, but I wanted to let you all know I've been thinking about you!

Things are ok here... status quo. emotionally, I suppose. I've just been very busy with work, but doing ok...

I am still doing great on Weight Watchers, and in 3 weeks have lost 10.6 pounds. Weigh in day is tomorrow (Wednesdays). I have about 50 pounds to go to my UGW.

I'll be back as soon as I can. I hope everyone has a fantastic day :grouphug: