Nov 2016 Ups & Downs Thread
 

Hey everyone, welcome to the Nov thread. :cheer2::cheer::balloons::welcome:


Post here, tell us how your day is going. Anytime you need to vent, we are always here for one another.


New posters are most certainly welcome, jump right in.


Oldies, keep us updated on what is going on in your lives.


I can't believe this is Nov already, I'm just shocked.



Happy posting.

Lisa, thanks for the new thread :)

By the way, how is it November?? I swear last week it was April.

I have been doing a running programme - 9 weeks to be able to run 3 miles. Today I managed to run for 8.5 minutes in total (not in one go), I am impressed at myself.

Lisa thank you for starting the November thread :) sorry you had to rejoin but I hope you don't have any more login problems. And so good to hear your knees are better!! and your devices are charging OK? thank you for your oh-so-kind and supportive words to me :hug: and we love you!!

Coop - wow, congrats on the running program!! that is awesome. I could run...if I was being chased by a bear :devil: and it IS shocking that it is November!

Just had our monthly Fire Dept. Auxiliary meeting, after the facts of the meeting were over and we were socializing, I was asked about 'what's is being built next to you, Holly?" (because we live on the main road, everyone goes by us) and I tried to tell of the saga in an unbiased manner..their reactions were satisfying, as they were outraged also. And told their own experiences with the woman, that woman has no friends in this town. And I do :D :cool: ;) :dancer:

So I have worked out 8 of the past 9 days :strong: still eat way too much but one thing at a time. Besides the goal of wanting to get my blood pressure back to a good reading, I need to get my snow shoveling muscles back. And my standing-on-my-feet-for-7-hours-a-day muscles back :devil:

Coop, OMG that is so awesome about your running program. Good lord woman, I could never do that. You are doing beyond great. Every single one of us are so proud of you. Keep us updated on how you are progressing. :)

Hey Holly girl,

Yeah, I have no idea why the board administrator never got back to me. I tried to reset my password, just get a new one but when they gave me a temp password, it wouldn't allow me to log in. I gave up finally and just rejoined.


My chargers aren't working. Jennifer is letting me use her computer temporarily.


Jennifer yelled tonight because Elvira keeps peeing in her bathroom. I am going to go ahead and move back into my house, even though the house really ism't livable. I get paid on Thursday, will start making arrangements then. I don't want to live where I am not wanted.


Much love to you Holly and all you ladies.

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Hello Ladies! Sorry I've only had the chance to pop in for a few posts here and there lately. I've tried to at least keep checking in and reading along. I do think of all of you throughout my days at various times and it helps just to know you are there... and that we are all here for each other. I have been focusing on getting consistent (again) with exercise. I've been making progress in that direction (once again). It feels like a never-ending battle... and I guess I do have to accept that it IS never-ending; that I need to exercise for a lifetime... and FOR LIFE (my life)... especially life after cancer. As always, there is SO much room for improvement in my eating choices. I just haven't been able or even that interested (for some reason) in getting that under control for awhile now. And, unfortunately, my body shows it. :( It can make me feel very depressed if I let it. I try not to "go there" too often.

Lisa: It made me so sad to hear/read you say that you don't want to live where you're not wanted. :( I hate it that you feel that way and I'm so sorry that you are in that situation. :( I worry about you going back into your house if it isn't really in livable condition though. Are you sure that is an okay solution? I'm so sorry that Jennifer yelled at/about Elvira. :( You are in my prayers, as always! Sending you lots of love and a big hug, Lisa! :hug: On a positive note, I am happy to hear that your MRI was okay and that your knees are feeling so much better. :)

Coop: Good for you for doing your running program! That is awesome! :carrot: You asked me awhile back if we've been using our lake house much and we actually have been up there the past two weekends. Prior to that, it had been awhile since we were up there. We absolutely LOVE being there and feel so blessed to have the place! It is only about 50 minutes from our home, but it feels like such a wonderful getaway. Have you had any more hypnotherapy sessions for your pain? How have you been doing? How is your OH doing with his grieving process? Do you like your new (or fairly new) job?


Holly: I am so proud of you for going to the zoning department and advocating for yourself! And it's a good thing you did since your neighbor is in violation of the code! And to think that THEY are the ones who are pissed off at you for pointing that out... well... pisses ME off!!! :mad: They should have either checked out the code first or adhered to it if they knew what the height restrictions were before they began building. It's their own fault that they have to make changes now! I can't even believe that worker was giving you the finger!!! :devil: I hope you flipped the bird right back at him! ;) And man, now you are back working for the r@t b@st@rd... :devil: Stand your ground with that jerk, too! On a more positive note, WOOHOO for YOU for working out so much lately!!! :D :carrot: :bravo: You are on a roll, girl! That is terrific! :D


Monica: Thanks for checking in! It's always nice to hear from you. I hope you aren't experiencing too much depression with the change of seasons this year. I'm sorry you've had some bad experiences in years past, although it sounds like you were very proactive and creative in combating depression last year. I am so sorry that the holidays are so stressful and difficult for you and that you feel like you don't really have a place to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas. That makes me feel so sad for you. :( The holidays are supposed to be happy times, but for so many people, they are not. You are not alone in that. :hug: By the way, your place on the Cape sounds lovely! And, last but not least, thank you for your prayers and good wishes for my son. I really appreciate your encouragement!

Hello to everyone else! :wave:

OH, I am so sad that happened and you feel that way, I probably would also! :( We know people sometimes burst out inappropriately when they are aggravated and maybe tired or cranky otherwise, i hope so much your daughter regretted yelling because of poor Elvira (Elvira probably misses her home too and is anxious) I hope you're able to make the best decision for you, Lisa, because we are worried about living in your house before it's ready. Very sorry sweetie!! :hug:

Are your knees still a bit better? I hope so!

Aw, thanks! :D you guys are the best for the support :) I don't know what they worked out with the Zoning guy but they are back hammering and sawing, but I know there was a meeting yesterday at 10:30 so they must have agreed to something. I had off yesterday and it was nice out, so I spent 4 hours outside, doing yard clean up and stuff, and kept Lisa's quote to "keep my chin up" and try to ignore them. Not that they were doing anything hateful and childish again like flipping us off, just working on the monstrosity :devil:

Kathleen I hear ya on our eating choices, it is just seems too much to tackle that plus getting more movement. One good choice for us at a time :cool: And if it gets us down to think about our body, lets just not go there!! :hug:
How are things with your son?? I hope manageable...

It's not too bad - I've been building up my fitness, so the first week I just did 5 bursts of 15s, today I pushed myself up to 10mins, spread out over 45 mins. I feeo kinda silly on the treadmills next to people who just run for a full 30mins, but hopefully I'll be joining them in another few weeks!

I'm sorry you and Jennifer are arguing. It must be super stressful having so many people/pets under one roof! I hope there are parts of your house that are at least ok to live in, even if the whole house isn't livable. Will you at least have heating and running water?

I'm so glad the injections in your knees made a big difference for you! Arthritis sounds horrible.

:rofl: I know, I could probably have run for about 10s, before just lying down and giving up! :rofl: I figured running is a good way to burn fat though, and man do I need to burn some fat! Plan is to build up to running for 30mins, then I'll do weight work once I've got the 30mins down.

It must have been so satisfying hearing someone else compkain about your new neighbours... no great loss there then!

Kathleen, that's a really good point about diet and exercise, it is for life. So easy to forget that. But making little changes makes a big difference - it all adds up! It is hard feeling like you are obliged to exercise because of your health, rather than because you want to. I suppose the more we exercise and eat right, the more we'll want to, right? By the way, how long have you been clear of your cancer now? Have you passed the year?

I did go to hypnoyherapy, but unfortunately it hasn't done a lot for the pain. I think there was some change, but no improvement, so I've asked to go back to a specialist for another checkup. I've been using Dr Google again, which is very dangerous though!

My OH has been ok, he's very angry still, and feeling very run down. I am finding it hard to handle because I'm still so emotionally wrought myself. I wish I had more patience to handle his moods - he had a lot more patience with me. We'll get there though. We go away next weekend for a few days and I think it will do him some good.

The job is going well, thanks for asking! I don't have any regrets at changing jobs yet, the only downside is location. Not so many nice places to go for a lunchtime walk!

How is your daughter getting on with the ice hockey?

Hi Holly,


Yeah, I don't think Jennifer knows how badly she hurts my feelings sometimes. She can be very sharp with me. Yeah, I can't live in the house or at least, no one will let me. Jennifer said I can't.


I am getting estimates on the house. Next, to find a contractor.

My knees are doing pretty good. They ache and my left one hurts sometimes but it's not near as bad as what they were. I am so lucky that the cortizone shots helped. I am taking 1 meloxocam every day too, it's helps control arthritis.


How are you feeling? I know you are going through a difficult time. Hang in there, look for something positive to look forward to or at least, try to. That helps me when I am down. Just know that we adore you oodles and oodles.

Much love to you, Holly. :)

Coop,

I am still proud of you for your running. i can't run, too heavy and my boobs are too big. I even hate to walk, I'd rather do an exercise DVD. I am still not able to do that, once again, too big and out of shape. I am improving though, I can walk out to the car easier than before but I have a long way to go. Keep up the good work on your running program. wooooo


No, the house has no running water or heat. I'd have to have them turned on.

My knees are better. there was the pain and cracking but the worst, my knee cap kept sliding and there was no warning when it going to happen. That is better too, now. I am blessed, those shots helped my quality of life so much.

much love to you, Coop.

Lisa, it's good that your fitness levels are improving - it's really difficult when you feel too unfit to exercise, I know the feeling! Someone once suggested Leslie Sansone's walking videos to me, they're on youtube if you want to try them. They look quite good for anyone starting out - it just starts with a 1 mile/15 min walk, but you walk on the spot. You can walk a bit slower, or stop a little early if you need to. I think she works up to 3 miles in other videos. I don't know if your knees will be ok for walking though, I hope so.

I also know a few people with arthritis who find swimming is really good - almost pain free. Maybe you could try out aqua aerobics?

A slipped knee cap sounds so painful! I really hope that stays away!

Hey Coop,

Yeah, I am getting around better than a few weeks ago, I do have a bit of knee pain but I can walk, no limp now. Most of the arthritis is behind my knee cap, he said that would cause me trouble going up a staircase and getting up from a sitting position, which is true. I can't describe just how much pain I was in. Just so thankful I am better.

How is the running going?

I cried when I read this!! :hug:I don't have anyone to say these loving things to me..I mean I do have a loving husband but I think it's only girlfriends that say such sweet things ...thank you Lisa!!! :hug:

Oh a slipped knee cap sounds horrible to me too! but I'm glad the pain is at least under control for now. And your attitude is so good!! I try to be thankful for everything I have , i think of you often when you say you are blessed to have things and that is such a good attitude! and when you said for me to keep my chin up I did!!

I do remember when you spoke of the Thanksgiving dinner you had last year.

When my knees were really hurting me last year, I looked on youtube for "seated workouts" and I did those for a couple days.

Have to leave early for work so I can vote on the way.

Oh my goodness, listen to this..the R@t B@st@rd said he's giving me a $1/hour raise!! I didn't even ask for a raise!! what is going on..who are you and what did you do with my boss :devil:

Hello everyone, I'm back :hug:

I've missed you all. I unfortunately gained 10 pounds back in my absence, but I'm back on track as of yesterday, feeling motivated and determined :carrot:

Glad to be back here at 3FC. I hope everyone is doing well!!!

Hi JesikaBeth and glad you found us again :) You sound very determined and I know you will accomplish what you want :cheer2:

We had 2 days of sun which brightens everyone's spirits but we're back to the totally overcast plague that is northern New England this time of year. I have today and tomorrow off, and I spent all morning in bed :mad: just due to old bad habits. But I MADE myself get up and did a workout (Shelly Dose on youtube, she is SO smiley and motivating https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8h2S4f2-nsw )

And I called the tech center and my motorcycle is finally ready :devil: I took it there October 18th! it didn't need a ton of work but the weather was not cooperating for me to pick it up. Thank goodness they don't care that it was there so long. Students work on it but a master mechanic oversees and the labor is incredibly affordable. So I will pick it up this afternoon or tomorrow. At least that will be one November ride!

I am trying to think of a hobby to keep me occupied. My previous hobby was "Outside" :rolleyes: lawn, flowers, veggies, motorcycle. Just so hard to rip tht all away at once. I *might* think about making and selling my holiday meringue mushrooms, they are a nice specialty item and the town I work in is full of people who have more money than they know what to do with :devil: And it would be manageable for me not to eat them all, as opposed to cookies, because they don't appeal to me the same way cookies do. I make them for our FD Auxiliary's Christmas sale and they sell before anything else.

So finally feeling slightly victorious over the neighbor's construction. They decided to deal with their illegal infraction by raising the level of their whole property 4 1/2 feet. The town Zoning Admininstrator is going to be sure they follow through on all the details, especially that it won't negatively impact adjoining property's drainage. And landscaping, to hold erosion down, is mandatory :carrot: :cheer2: :cool: We are going to buy a couple trees immediately, white pines, and put them in right away on our side. So there will still be this monstrosity that looks SO out of place next to us, but at least it will start to be screened from our view.

Hello Lisa, Coop, Kathleen, Monica, JesikaBeth What is going on with eeryone today? :)

Eugh, my tablet is playing up, and I lost a post yesterday and again today! :tantrum:

Just a general hello all!

Lisa - glad you have such a lovely thanksgivimg meal to look forward to! Have you got any work organised for your house?

Jessica - good to see you back again! Good luck with your weight loss, and please send any spare motivation my way!

Holly, raising their land 4.5feet sounds like a right expensive nightmare! I just would never do such a thing. Mind you, we have some spare soil we could send their way - I'm doing a job at a waste treatment plant, but they don't need to know what's been in that soil :devil: congrats on the raise! Make sure the r@t has a medical soon though :lol:

I can't be bothered writing an update on me for a third time, but I'm well. We're off to Rome at the weekend :):), so I might not post again til next week.

Thank you for the welcome backs :grouphug:

Hope everyone had an alright day today!

Good night and see you in the morning :)

Hi friends :)

Coop, LOL, thank you for the offer of the fill from the sewage plant :rofl: can I be nosy and ask what your position is at your job? I am always curious and interested in what others do for a living :) Sorry to hear your tablet is being wonky, it is always so frustrating to lose a good post here.

Hi JesikaBeth and I hope you had a good day :cool:

Hi Lisa and Kathleen and Monica, every day I think about you all here and hope you are doing well!!

I'm into a down mood again, it is SO hard for me to remember the glass is always half full. it is just seeming impossible for me to find a reason to exist when it's not green and alive outside.

I'm forcing myself to do a workout almost every day (skipped 3 days in a row last week though) because if I don't work out, it gives me another reason to be disappointed at myself. I'm recording the workouts over at the November Chicks up for a Challenge Exercise.

I did get my motorcycle back from the Tech Center yesterday, she had been there almost a month, not due to lots of work but because the weather was not cooperating. But the ride back home was great, I had lots of layers on so the 48 degree temperature was OK for a short time.

JesikaBeth,

It is great to have you back with us again. I am so happy you are back on the wagon, so to speak. I am learning that a lot of losing weight is in your attitude and not to ever give up.

Hi Holly,

You were talking about taking up a hobby. I would highly recommend crocheting or scrapbooking, I love both. Scrapbooking is a little expensive but I cut corners by making a lot of my pages all by hand, even my embellishments.



If you chose to learn how to crochet, it is not easy but once you get the hang of it, it's fun and you feel a sense of pride in what you make. I'm not very good but I love crocheting. Youtube has tons of crocheting videos or check into taking a class. One more thing, always use good quality yarn, cheap is awful.

Coop,

Have a wonderful vacation. We'll see you when you return. Take lots of pics. :)

Hi Lisa!! first, yay that you can use your phone to make the contacts needed for your house . That is very encouraging about your furniture possibly being salvageable! Boy, though, speaking of having to gut the kitchen, whew, that is major work. But I hope you can find a contractor who can do the job!

Yay :cheer2: for your drinking water!!! I find that hard to do except in the very warm summer months. So good for you! I know you have spoken of your love of pop ...it's a hard delicious habit to break! I know people say the less you have, the less you'll crave it, hopefully that time will come for you.

I'm so sad you and J. had another fight :( We KNOW you did not raise a *****! I hope she realizes when she is feeling sharp with words and can stop before regrettable words come out. It hurts us to know you are feeling hurt by that! How are your furry babies?

and oh yes, Coop is going to Rome, right? was that this weekend?

Holly and ladies,

I am kinda frustrated today. It doesn't really look like I've lost any weight and I'm drinking water consistently every day. Maybe, when I'm this big, 5 or 10 pounds really isn't really going to show? I don't know.

What am I supposed to be losing? Is it 1 to 2 pounds per week or 1 to 2 pounds per month? I can't remember.

The pets are doing ok. I think they'll be happy to get back to the house though.

Ohio State won, that always makes me happy.

Nascar is on NBC today, that always makes me happy.


Hopefully, I will hear something from Puroclean tomorrow. They will be the ones gutting the kitchen and cleaning the furniture for me. I want to get this process going.

I have been giving some thought of what I am going to give Jennifer for Christmas. I am going to order her some nose rings, a pair of ear buds and crochet them so they do not tangle ever again. I am also going to buy her some kitchen to utensils that she doesn't have. I would also like to order her a Star Wars or Happy Potter stocking. I think she'd love that.


Ok, I've rambled on enough.


Much love to all.

Hey Lisa :) that is so great, the weight loss clinic sounds awesome, lots of info and support! and yay to you for drinking water :carrot:and that your knees still feel good. Yes I checked out 'seated workouts' when my knees were hurting.

I should be happy, I got to ride my motorcycle to work today, it was sunny and 44 when I left at 10:30, pitch dark at 6 pm when I left but I was warm enough. Pretty great to ride to work in Mid November.

BUT I am sooo pissed that I had to order a new Kindlefire (Amazon's tablet) I LOVED my previous Kindlefire, I had hundreds of photos from work, my garden; had hundreds of songs that I'd listen to on the way to work...but the internal battery died and it wouldn't hold a charge anymore. So I had to order a new one, it came today and it SUCKS. Its supposed to sync info from my old one, but my photos are GONE, the music is not loading or even giving any message, there is no more Help to contact...I'm so angry and pissed and in such a foul mood. And my husband ate my portion of my dessert today, that I was saving mad:

I KNOW that i am complaining about such trivial things in comparision to big problems that others have..I am obviously overreacting to the stupid Kindle not doing what its supposed to, and that Amazon makes it impossible to contact them by phone..I just don't want to lose my hundreds of photos of 3 years of gardens, my dog, etc. And I was saving my portion of dessert for when I wanted it, I think someone is a big jerk if they see a treat and just because I didn't want it THEN , they think it's for the taking!! :tantrum:

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Hello Everyone!

Coop: I hope you are enjoying a wonderful holiday in Rome! Please tell us all about it when you return. Sorry to hear that the hypnotherapy ended up not helping your pain. How is the running coming along?

Lisa: Congratulations on losing 10 pounds!!! :carrot: :bravo: 2 scales don't lie! Plus you have been drinking your water and less pop, so I'm sure it is "real weight" that you lost. I think it's awesome! Keep up the great work! :) So proud of you for joining the weight loss clinic for the new year. You are really working hard at this and, especially once you add some exercise in, you WILL begin to notice results! How exciting! I'm so sorry to hear that Jennifer has been mean to you again. :( It's just not fair and not okay. You don't deserve to be treated poorly like that. I hope your house will be ready for you as soon as possible, so you can have your own place back for you and your pets. :) Glad you found a company who can do the work for you.

Holly: Sorry to hear you were feeling down when you last posted. :( I think that neighbor situation is really taking a toll on you. That and the change of season. I'm glad you got your motorcycle back and were able to ride it to work though! :scooter: And WOW... what got into the r@t b@st@rd?!? Congratulations on your raise!!! That's awesome! We might need to come up with a new name for him now. I think your idea for a new hobby sounds great! Go for it!!! ;)

JesikaBeth: Welcome back! Sorry about your weight gain. You sound very motivated and determined to get the weight back off though, which is great! Wishing you success! :) How is your mom?

Hello everyone, I'm a little new to this site but I thought I'd check out this forum since I've dealt with depression and anxiety since I was in 8th grade. It hasn't been that bad lately, but I usually fluctuate between moods.

Lately, I've been depressed and it's been difficult to find the motivation to exercise even though I know exercising will only help a bad mood. I just moved back in with my parents after graduating college and living on my own for 4 years, so I do think adjusting has been really hard for me. I have a few part time jobs, but still work only 20 hours a week and feel a little discouraged that it's been so hard finding something that uses my ecology degree (every entry-level job seems to require 3+ years of experience...).
I love being independent, having a lot of alone time, and feeling like I'm in control of my life. When I have to buy my own groceries and cook for myself, it also makes me more structured (I generally don't make enough money to afford binges when I'm on my own).

I'm 5'8 and 170, so I'm only looking to lose 10-20lbs, but I also want to quit smoking, which has been really hard because of my mood :(

I'm going to read through the more recent posts so I can get to know you all when I get home from work, but I thought I would introduce myself and say hello :wave:

Hello and :welcome: Helianthus! (Sunflower!! :flow1: ) it is always great to have new people here! first congrats on graduating college and a kewl degree, I hope you are able to find something in your specialty soon. I am sure the change from being on your own, to having to live with your parents for a bit, would shake you up and make you down. sorry to hear that! You are right, IF you can FORCE yourself to do some kind of exercise it can only help you. Any kind of movement is good! And I can give you crap about smoking if you like :devil: you know reformed smokers are the worst, haha! anyway :welcome2: and look forward to hearing more from you.

you are so right on my friend...and I know Coop is right that my brain will eventually get used to the change (the LOOMING monstrosity lol) and I just have to remember that even though I feel so down some days, it does pass and I feel good again. And the other night I was really so frustrated about the new tablet problems, especially about my hundreds of photos gone. Well I got on the phone with Amazon Customer Service, and SEVENTY MINUTES LATER, finally it's all straightened out and I have my photos and music on my new device.

How are YOU, Kathleen??

I am sorry I didn't comment on this before, CONGRATULATIONS on being down 10 pounds Lisa!! !! :cheer2: :bravo::dance::dancer:

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