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Hi ladies,

Originally Posted by :
LISA I love your new kitty!!! Felix is adorable and I love how you described him I hope he brightens up your days and nights all the time to bring you more fur baby joy I hope you remember to consistently take your meds if they help you. I'm glad others here have been able to help with your grief with your mom. I don't have anything to add in that area, my mom passed five years ago and I had to look that up because it 'feels' like it was only 2 or 3 years ago.

Holly, Felix makes me laugh. He is always playing. Leo Bug is adjusting to him, Ruby is slower in liking him. Felix has an upper respiratory infection, he went to the vet today and was not happy being in the cat carrier. He let me know it. Ruby has it too, the vet sent home some medicine for Felix and Ruby. I have to swipe in on their noses. I just gave Ruby some, she's not happy.

Jennifer is flying to California tomorrow. I have to take her to Port Columbus, that is where she is flying out of. She'll be gone for a week. I'm going to miss her like crazy.

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Lisa: Oh my goodness, Felix is adorable!!! And he sounds so playful and spunky, which I like in my animals. Never a dull moment! He will help to keep you cheerful and feeling loved. Hope your daughter's cat will come around and enjoy a new playmate! Thanks for sharing his pics!

Kathleen, Felix is pretty great. He loves to purr but doesn't really like to be held. I'm not sure if it's just because he's a kitten or if that is how he is going to be, his personality. Anyway, he loves to be petted. :)

Coop,

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Yes, Felix is very comfortable in his new home. I think he knows or senses that we would never hurt him. Right now, he is somewhere. We have a ton of places in the house to curl up and sleep. I woke up the other morning and he was laying on me. It will take sometime but I think he will come to really love us.

begonzalez,
I am so very sorry you are struggling so much. I know what it's like. Its been a while, several years ago I was that sick. I wanted to die, I prayed to God to let me die. I was hospitalized for week and had a med change. They also taught me skills to use to help the depression. Even though my depression is pretty much controlled today, I still use those skills.
I'm glad that venting to us seems to help you. We are a small group but we care about each other so much. I don't always feel like posting, the girls are so understanding when I am down. I feel better here lately but there for a while, I was kind of a mess. My mother passed away in March, it was heartbreaking to me. I was really messed up and I wasn't taking all my meds consistently. The meds are really helping me. My thoughts aren't so dark and I don't cry as much.
I have a new therapist too, which was hard. My old one, I had been with her, I'm guessing about 8 years.
Anyway, sorry I rambled. Welcome to the group. :)

Much love to all.

Welcome beagonzalez!

Originally Posted by beagonzalez:
Hello everyone, I was wondering if I might be able to jump in? Everyone here seems so supportive of each other, it's very nice. So I guess this is where I stand so far. Just this past week I was so bad that I could not get out of bed for three days. I called out sick from work on day 1 and the other two I couldn't even find it in me to pick up the phone and call again. I have been slowly regaining my desire to live life, and would like to try getting some exercise. I keep thinking about it, but can't seem to find it in me to actually get up and get moving. Has anyone else been through this? Might anyone have any advice on moving past your depression and exercising? Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks helping me feel like I'm not alone. :-)

beagonzalez: Of course you can jump right in!!! :welcome3: We are happy to have you as part of the group! :) There was a time after one of my twin sons died after birth and then I gave birth to a handicapped daughter 3 years later, after a high-risk pregnancy and other complications..... that I couldn't get out of bed for several weeks..... or maybe it was months. Happily, I don't remember too much from that time, except ~ like Lisa ~ I would pray that God would just take me in my sleep..... and then I felt guilty on top of the depression. I had two very young children depending on me and, thankfully, my husband and his mother took over with the kids until I was able to get back on my feet (literally). That was about 16 years ago. I have been hospitalized two times since then for manic episodes (I am bipolar). Only by the grace of God am I typing these words to you now. Therapy, meds, and LOTS of prayer is what got me through those dark times. I very slowly forced myself to begin to do a little housework at a time. Eventually, I built up enough mental and physical strength to begin to exercise. All of this happened over a long period of time for me. I had to go on for my children. That ~ more than anything (along with prayer) ~ is what finally got me out of that bed. I am sorry you are feeling so down right now. Do you have a therapist and/or are you on any medication? If not, I highly recommend both to help pull you out of this deep depression. And keep posting here if you can find the strength to do so. It really does help to have a place to go to vent and get support for how you are feeling. We will be cheering you on all the way to better health! :cheer2: :hug:

Hi beagonzalez! Welcome to the thread! I'm sorry to hear your having such a tough time. My only advice for exercise is that you just have to force yourself to begin with. Work in a short walk, pick a nice path you enjoy. Once you start, you'll find yourself wanting to do more.

Holly - I use OH for other half... we're not married, so I suppose I should use SO - I'm into the habit of using OH!

Honestly, it wasn't a big thing to get him to stop - I just said if he was going to be in a mood with me, I'd go eat dinner alone somewhere else. He was far less stressed last night, about back to normal. Trying to persuade him to come play a bit of tennis and take it out on a ball instead.

I'm just on my break, so will respond to others when I have more time!

Lisa, so glad is settling in so well. Cat's can be funny, I hope he bonds well with your other pets. I'm glad things are getting a bit better for you now you're more consistent with your meds.

Kathleen, I'm sorry to hear how tough things were for you. Faith can be really amazing for providing strength.

Originally Posted by Coop27:

Holly - I use OH for other half... we're not married, so I suppose I should use SO - I'm into the habit of using OH!

Gosh I should have figured that out ... I'm embarrassed to admit i thought you were referring to him as "Old Husband" :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

:rofl:

Originally Posted by VermontMom:
Gosh I should have figured that out ... I'm embarrassed to admit i thought you were referring to him as "Old Husband" :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

:rofl: I should start calling him that!
:rofl:

:lol: :lol: :lol: LOL, I thought "OH" meant "Old Husband" too!!! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

OH treated me to dinner out the other night and gave me a heart-felt thanks for my support and patience. Felt a lot better after that.

I'm in a funny mood just now - I'm feeling quite tired and can't be bothered cooking. Last night was pretty bad, I slept 4 hours after work and only ate a few crackers for dinner. I still managed 8 hours of sleep afterwards too. Need to go make breakfast now, but it's too much hassle. Feel a little hungry, but not hungry enough to be worth any effort!

Hey,

Sorry I haven't been posting. Things are just really rough here. I have no money and I need medicine soon. I am just scared and sad. I won't get a paycheck until the 3rd. Jennifer is gone until Monday. I might have enough medicine to get me through till Monday, I think so anyhow. I am just sad.

I need to do laundry and take a shower today. I am going to have to make myself.

Have a really nice weekend.

Lisa - sending *hugs* your way. You sound very low, I hope you manage to make your medicine last.

Lisa - my mother used to swear by rescue remedy, and a few months after she died, I started adding a few drops in water each day to help calm me. I found that they sell it in the US, so I thought I'd send you a link. It is really well known here, and I found it helped pull me through the worst of my grief. If you can afford a small bottle when you get paid, I would recommend it. I'd offer to post a bottle to you, but I have no idea how this sort of thing works through customs...

http://www.amazon.com/Bach-LA-AM-FU-.../dp/B00016QT7Q

Originally Posted by Coop27:
Lisa - sending *hugs* your way. You sound very low, I hope you manage to make your medicine last.

I actually found $15 in my saving acct. That gives me enough to get my meds and yes, I have really good insurance. I am extremely lucky.

Originally Posted by Coop27:
Lisa - my mother used to swear by rescue remedy, and a few months after she died, I started adding a few drops in water each day to help calm me. I found that they sell it in the US, so I thought I'd send you a link. It is really well known here, and I found it helped pull me through the worst of my grief. If you can afford a small bottle when you get paid, I would recommend it. I'd offer to post a bottle to you, but I have no idea how this sort of thing works through customs...

http://www.amazon.com/Bach-LA-AM-FU-.../dp/B00016QT7Q

I'll have to check it out, thank you. Would it interfere with my meds?

I hope you all are having a great Saturday.

Lisa - I haven't heard of any drug interactions before. Their website says the usual 'none known, but consult a physician before taking'. It's unlikely to have an interaction, it's more like taking a calming vitamin than a drug.

Hey friends :) Lisa we hope you are feeling better SOON, it is sad to know you are not yourself and the money problem is always worrisome isn't it!! HUGS and love to you Lisa!!

Hi Coop and that product sounds very interesting, that is nice of you to provide the link for Lisa :)

Been very active and busy, working extra hours at both job, making money while I can, plus loving doing the outside stuff, yesterday I analytically looked at the area where I have the compost and recycling bin and stupid weeds always come up..so I took loads of newspapers and old cardboard, laid that down, then thick bark mulch over that, to hopefully suffocate those weeds. Then weedwhacked and mowed and the lawn looks SO nice for me to enjoy :)

Get to ride the m'cycle to work today :carrot: then come home and get the car, have an eye appt this afternoon, I NEED to get my prescription changed so I can see!!! wish me luck, I hate the process "Is this one better? or this one? This? or this? This? or this?" Hey Doc, they are ALL blurry!! :devil:

so obviously I am in my fantastic good summer mode :) and I wish everyone could feel this good. Love to all!