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HI folks,

Sorry I haven't been on much. I just haven't felt much like posting, I still don't but I didn't want you all to think I'd left.

It seems like everyone is struggling a little bit right now. Sending you all much strength and happiness.

I am so glad the weekend is here. I really need some Lisa time.

Nascar is back and that makes me so happy. Football is over, Nascar starts. It works out perfectly for me. :)

Jennifer is gone for the weekend. She might come back on Sunday, if not, she'll be back on Monday evening.

That is about it from here. Sending you all much love!!! If I feel up to it, I'll respond to individuals later tonight.

:)

new to this site, new to this group

I'm new to the group and haven't started a weight loss plan yet, just working on getting my ducks in a row so I can start something next week. I'm nervous about sharing here, but I am also hopeful that I can find a community and connection that works for me. Struggle with depression and weight. Any suggestions for getting started?

Hello all - I'm here (but haven't posted here for some reason?). I'll vent about my evening tomorrow. I need to go to bed LOL

Hope everyone here is doing well!

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Originally Posted by debgettinghealthy (Post 5238915)

Hi! Don't be nervous about sharing here - we're totally open to whatever :)

My suggestion is, make a goal and stick to it. Is your goal fitting into new clothes? Print out some pictures and hang them around (or at your desk, etc.). Or is your goal to become more athletic (start walking more, running, etc.)? Whatever it is, start out slow and work your way up. The treadmill is an awesome place to start. Maybe an incline of 1 or 2, speed at 1.5-2.0, and just get a feeling for how it is. Once you start and notice your energy level is up, less food is filling, etc., it motivates you to keep going :)

Greetings,

I just wanted to post and say hi.

Welcome, welcome, welcome to all the new posters. :) We are so glad to have you here and to the oldies but goodies posters, it's so good to see you posting too. :)

I have physical therapy in the morning. It's my first visit so it will only be an assessment. I hope physical therapy can help my elbow. I am in pain tonight but what is new.

Have a wonderful evening and I'll post again soon. :)

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Originally Posted by CallyMay (Post 5237420)

Hope it's ok if I participate here as well, this is a nice thread. I hope you all had a nice weekend. Lisa, I'm sorry about your cmpany closing. It happened to my dad over 10 years ago and was tough, but I hope you find something soon.
My weekend was really needed. Hop it's ok if I vent, I have a very difficult pupil in the private tutoring institute where I work. We're not really qualified to deal with him and he is really the first kid I absolutely dislike. This has never happened before and I've been working there for six years. I'm almost scared of Fridays because I know I'll spend 90 minutes with that kid again and last Friday was bad! Usually, I like all the pupils there, even the more difficult ones, but I've been tutoring him for over 6 months and still dislike him even though I know he is a very troubled kid. And then my boss, who knows I like to drink tea, told me that they found some poisonous stuff (I think it's called PA) in tea and that someone got liver cirrhocis from one cup. She doesn't know I have bad anxiety problems and I don't want to tell her, but the rest of the afternoon was awful because I kept worrying.
I don't binge, but when I'm stressed, I will often opt for the quick, less healthy meal or forget to take a snack and then get a chocolate bar, but at least that I didn't do on Friday. I had taken a few small, low-calorie biscuits which I had instead.
What is generally getting to me: my fiancé and I want to get married in May, but because he is a foreigner, it's a bit complicated and our next appointment at the registry office is on February 29th which seems so far away. Before that, we don't get an official wedding date and can't plan things properly.

CallyMay: :welcome3: to the group! Sorry you are dealing with a few very stressful situations in your life right now. From reading more of your posts, it sounds like you will be finished tutoring the difficult students soon. That must bring some relief. As for your meeting with the next appointment at the registry office for your fiancé, it is now less than 2 weeks away! So sit tight and try to be patient. It really is not far off now. Hopefully, you will know more after that appointment and can begin making some wedding plans. Last but not least, that comment about tea from your boss sounds like pure nonsense. I have never heard a thing about tea giving anyone cirrhosis of the liver. There must have been other factors at play for the one person who got that after just one cup of tea... if the story is even true. On the contrary, tea (especially green tea) is always said to be good for your health. Looking at your stats, you don't have much weight to lose (at least from my perspective). Please share your secret to losing weight and keeping it off with all of us! ;)

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Originally Posted by debgettinghealthy (Post 5238915)

debgettinghealthy: Sending you a :wel3fc: and also a big :welcome: to our group! I like the advice that ap14 gave you. First of all, I applaud you for posting here even though you were nervous about doing it. Sometimes, reaching out for help can be the first step in making positive changes in your life. I would say to start small and make very specific, measurable goals for yourself and begin some kind of exercise (if you haven't already)... no matter how small or how short of time you do it. Aim for doing something like walking on the treadmill (as ap14 suggested) for just 10 minutes a day... at least 3-5 days a week. If 10 minutes feels too hard, start with 5 mins, but just START somewhere! Continue until you begin to create a habit of regular exercise. Then, you can gradually increase your workout time, intensity, and frequency to begin to really see results, which will motivate you to keep on going. The food part needs to be something personal to you that you feel is doable. I am currently trying the non-diet approach to eating. It does not focus on restriction, deprivation, and willpower, but rather getting back in tune with my physical hunger and satisfaction cues... and following them, which means only eating when I am physically hungry and stopping when satisfied (not stuffed). It is easier said than done, but it feels like a much more doable approach to me, since nothing is off limits (as long as I am physically hungry and don't go overboard). This helps to prevent cravings for me, which often lead to binges in the long run. I had begun a coaching program for this last year at this time and was really having a lot of success, but then I was diagnosed with breast cancer and then had a manic episode and ended up in a psychiatric facility last summer, and I am still trying to get back to eating based on physical hunger and avoid emotional eating. I have had success with various food programs in the past (most success with Jenny Craig), but I have always gained the weight back (and then some) once I go off the food program. That is why I am currently interested in the non-diet approach. We worked on addressing the emotional reasons we ate to try to heal our relationship with food once and for all, rather than continue the yo-yo diet lifestyle. I hope you will find a food program that works for you. There are so many out there. Sometimes it is just trial and error, but again... start somewhere! Best of luck to you! I am so glad that you posted! :)

Lisa: Are you okay? You sound really down lately. Just want to extend my prayers and a big hug to you! :hug: Hang in there, my friend! We are all rooting for you! :cheer2: :cheer3:

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Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2 (Post 5239703)

Lisa: Are you okay? You sound really down lately. Just want to extend my prayers and a big hug to you! :hug: Hang in there, my friend! We are all rooting for you! :cheer2: :cheer3:

Thank you so much. :) My life is pretty boring so I don't feel like I have much to share. I pretty much work and do laundry.

I will try to post more and do more individual posts.

I really do love posting here. :)

Hello friends!! Like Lisa, I haven't felt like posting but I also don't want to abandon the group.

Hi everyone!

School has been pretty busy so I haven't had much of a chance to pop into this thread (I check into the daily weigh in thread to keep myself accountable ;)). Everything is well here though. I received an honors scholarship for being in honors english! I cried when I found out. There's more of a back story, but I'll post that this weekend when I have more than 10mins LOL. I'm trying to see if I can get into the honors society as well, since I have the GPA and everything to get in. That'd be icing on the cake! Now all I need is a boyfriend and I'm good LOL.

Hope everyone is doing well! The whole forum has seemed a bit slow over the past week.

Hi all, sorry for radio silence here, I'm reading alomg, but haven't had much to post. Work has been getting a little hectic, and I'm still a little emotionally up and down.

Just thought I'd pop uo to say hello to debgettinghealthy!

And also congratulations to ap14!

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Originally Posted by VermontMom (Post 5240676)

Hello friends!! Like Lisa, I haven't felt like posting but I also don't want to abandon the group.

Ditto. This is a place I know I can come to, to vent. There are just times I am down and don't have much to post.

Today, I am so glad the weekend is here. I need lisa time.

I went to Occupational Therapy at 1 pm today. Man, that girl rubs hard. It plain old hurt. She massages and rolls the skin around my elbow. That girl has some seriously strong fingers.

It looks like we all haven't had much to say lately.

:)

Hi Friends,

Like Holly and Lisa, I have been following along, but I have nothing new to add. I am struggling with my weight. When the scale goes up, my mood goes down, and vice versa.

I need to stop the chocolate, I need to plan meals ahead, I need to eat more vegetables.......we all know what we need to do, but why is doing it so tough?????

Take care, everyone.

Well, my son needs to medically withdraw from the University of Dayton due to extreme anxiety and depression. 😢 I just hate that he is going through this, but I am happy he stayed in close contact with us and let us know how bad he was feeling. It just breaks my heart that he is having similar problems that I have experienced because I know how crappy it is. I just hope and pray that he will never get as low as I was way back when. Right now, our first priority is his emotional and mental health. He will probably commute to a local university in the fall if all goes well. The positive side of all of this is that he will be home again. I have missed him so much, and I was so worried about him. He has a good therapist here and my psychiatrist has been helping him with various meds. As most of you know, that is a trial and error process and can be frustrating as he waits for the right combo of meds to help him feel better. He is starting Cymbalta now and Klonopin as needed for severe anxiety. I just want my "baby" to be okay!!! ❤