Hi, Tiff, When that counselor made a kind of dismissive face and changed the subject about my knee, about needing proper attire for interviewing, I thought that I was being overly sensitive about weight and was jumping to a conclusion that she thought the knee problem would be solved if I lost weight, that I should think about investing in a suit at this size, but now I think I was right on the money since those things happened multiple times.
I really think that her comments our last session were intentional, that she identified with a snarky remark I made about my sister (who likes to find a new man before she leaves her current husband) because the counselor made a face when I said it. I could be paranoid, but the good thing is I feel so much better not having to deal with her at all, so my time with her must have been less helpful than I thought. I knew her values were about money, weight, education, she repeatedly told me I would find more of a support network/friends when I moved in more educated circles, which may or may not be true in my opinion.
Having read others' opinions here has helped so much, I don't obsess about how I should have handled things differently, or that I was way off base. It is progress for me in the to take care of myself more by refusing to spend time with people, by choice, that are not respectful. I am more than a number on the scale or a jeans size. We all are, no matter what anyone else says.
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I have schitzo-effective which is between borderline and sctizophrenia. I feel for you and your younger son. 
