Aunty Jam, :hug: I'm with Vermont in thinking of you tonight. I'm so sorry you're in this mess. You have every right to be upset with your hubby. I would be beside myself too. It sucks when you are working hard but not getting any help from anyone else or the raises you deserve. It's tough too when you get news like that and then go and have to face a crowd. Check in soon and let us know that you are ok. You will get through this even if you (or Vermont;)) has to put a boot in someone's a$$.

It's 10 o'clock here and I'm wondering how Aunty Jam is holding up...damn, hard enough to have to deal with the home situation but to have to put on the business face and pretend it isn't happening...!!!

I'm reading, I'm thinking of you all - especially Aunty Jam! *hug* I'm slowly coming round. There's so much I want to share, but it's ridiculously personal.

Know that I still hover here, chicks.

WOW aunty Jam- that is horrible....Have you tried calling either place to set up a payment for when you do get paid. I know different location and some places dont work like that but if our paycheck wont be here in time they will set stuff up. Sometimes they work a payment plan out or other places have a community action or crisis? You may have already asked..but if you havent maybe you could and see if theres anything you can do...So sorry I know what it feels like...its horrible!!

Thanks for all of your thoughts... you don't know how much I need them. I am so depressed. And it's not a good thing but I'm soused also... we had 2 bottles of wine ordered before dinner and finished off the night here wiht a few beer. I managed to keep dinner conversation light and happy it got a bit bitter when we got back to the hotel... something along the lines of "Someone has to do his work..." referring to my boss, but it was all not bad, he's quite a bit soused himself. My German co-worker taught me how to say "Piss off" in German (verpiss dech!) so I've been saying that to him quite a bit. My roots are German and English so she takes special delight in teaching me.

However now I'm back in my hotel room (you'll be proud to know I turned down the offer of free beer and I'm drinking water) but its quiet and alone.... the message light is blinking on my phone and I haven't checked it yet. I'm sure it's a message from my husband but I'm not sure if it's a "F-you I'm taking the dogs and keeping the house" message or a "I'm sorry, I love you...." message. I think I'm done caring either way and that makes me sad.

I just don't know what to do anymore... I've been at my witts end for so long they're worn out. I'm fighting the urge to go down to the store and get some chocolate. I should probably just pass out instead. No one here has the slightest inkling... nor can I tell them or even let on what's happening in my private life. It's all smoke and mirrors.

I wish I knew you guys in real life... I could really use a hug!

If we pay off what is over due on our accounts they won't cut us off.... but that's like $500 here... $400 there...

I'm just done... I'm so done.

Mmmmmmmm... charging junk food to my room on the company card is goooooooood!

Hi Aunty Jam, I do hope that at least you enjoyed the nosh!

One question - Do you REALLY have to hang on to this guy who is putting you into such turmoil and sounds like he's bleeding you dry!!

I'm afraid I would have kicked him to the kerb a long time back. At least you can't possibly do any worse on your own. I just want to scream at you to get out of this awful situation and set up on your own, it may well sound scary but what the heck!! You say you still love him but how much does he really love you to do this to you?
And may I add that it sounds like he's more than a little jealous of your position and/or accomplishments at work.

I so hope things begin to improve for you soon but honestly speaking, I think YOU have to look after YOU for a while and nurture your wellbeing.

Lots of love.

Hi everyone!!:wave:

Aunty Jam:hug: I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm wondering if maybe your hubby can go down to social services and ask for some emergency aid since his daughter is there and it is winter. Its a thought since you are doing everything you possibly can. Its time he stepped up to the plate, heck even a full time job at a fast food place would be a huge help.:hug:

I had my surgery on Friday and thankfully things are going really good. From what I read and was told I was expecting a huge amount of pain, but thankfully it hasn't been to bad and all I get for a pain med is 500mg of tylenol. I'm still only able to eat very soft foods and trying to drink enough water is still a challenge. I sure tire easily, but I am so grateful that its not as painful as I was warned. So all is good here. Oh and I even got more of my voice back yesterday, people can hear me now, for short periods anyway!:D
My hubby has been away since last Wednesday or Thursday and its starting to get cold here. I'm hoping he gets home soon as my van needs stuff done to it before it gets really cold. I need new winter tires and I have a rad leak and they are calling for -19*C (-2*F) on Friday. I'm mostly concerned about my rad.

I better go as one of the girls is stuck in the driveway. (edit: she got out on her own)

Take care everyone,
K

Sorry I have been MIA it has been a busy weekend. I was off work on Thursday and Friday and it took everything I had to get out of bed yesterday. Today it has been a physical pain to function. I have my 3rd Weight watchers meeting tonight and my weigh in so I am nervous about that.

Holly- I dont think anyone listens when they want you to do something for them. Volunteering can be so rewarding but you have to work too, it is a difficult situation.
Aunty- I would contact Social Services as suggested. There are grants, funds and discounts available. Also try to get a copy of your financial agreement with the bank a lot of times there are waivers and things you are intitled too that they do not make easily aware.

Hi Guys... just wanted to check in and let you know I'm still married & still employeed... still don't have a raise but eh....

emaline - the problem is that it's my husband and I love him.

I'm just going to crawl into bed right now and not think of anything for a while.

Hi everyone!
Hope you are all doing better.

Auntie Jam thanks for checking in. I sure hope today is a better day :hug:

amym how was your meeting last night?

Woke up to a severe winter storm advisory and no power. Thank goodness we have a little kerosene heater and kerosene. The power was out from about 7am till noon. Two of my girls are at work and their power went out around 10. Its a doozie out there lots of blowing and drifting snow. I think its time to move :D I'm starting to get a little bit of cabin fever as I haven't been out since I got home on Sat. Things are hurting a little more today, but still manageable and all apart of the healing process.

Guess I should go and warm up my cup of tea.

Take care everyone,
K

Hello friends :hug:

Aunty Jam, are you home from the biz trip? I fervently hope your home situation improves..are there services available for temporary help with utilities? I cannot offer anything in the way of advice for matters of love, though...only you know him the closest and can decide how things will be. What goodies did you order from Room Service :devil:

amym - you were in physical pain yesterday..physical pain from depression or something else? I hope you had a good WW meeting. LOL I think you're right about people not listening when they want something.

buddly - wow you are a trouper for pulling through that surgery so well. And HOLY HECK that you are having such winter storm already!!! We are positively tropical (low 40's) compared to that! but it was a dreary rainy day today. I hope your husband gets back in time to take care of the things you need him to do.

Hey hope :) how are you doing? are you still working the two jobs? Are you finished with training? Oh and you have some vacay time coming up right.

Hi emaline, HeatherA, momof4, Miss Edith, Leenie :)

Well...I got blah news from the insurance company about my motorcycle; seems that one needs a "Stated Value" policy in order to get anything close to what you paid for your vehicle and then accessories. Sparing you pointless details, it means that the bike I paid $11,000 for 4 years ago; and put over $2,000 in accessories on; and i thought was 'fully covered' - I will get barely $6,000 for it. C-R-A-P!

My husband is still in constant pain, all the time. So there is something not diagnosed. He needs another MRI but because of no health insurance, we are stalling...we are waiting to see if we will be given a grant from the hospital that would pay for most of his work...I submitted all our financial info almost 4 weeks ago...each day I pray to see the envelope in the mail. There are businesses that I have however had to negotiate payment plans to...two ambulance services, a radiologist, and our local hospital. The local hospital was almost nasty to me - I said I could send $150 a month, and then more once I got the others paid off; she said that was too low. I said that was what I could afford. She said, she was not allowed to say that it was OK to mail that amount. I said, Understood. But that is the amount I am going to send. And then we just about hung up on each other :(

I had off today..and was prepared to spend it hiding in bed, as i do alot. BUt I had an appt to get my snow tires put on. I dragged them out of the garage (they are mounted, so a little heavy) and got them in the car..did the appt. ...got home, lugged the summer tires back into the garage. I get irritated at having to do things that 'should' be male-related....is that sexist?? I don't think so, because I also do all the vacuuming and laundry and house cleaning. Oh and even if husband wasn't in pain, he wouldn't have done the tire moving thing. Its feeling that 'everything' is my responsibility now. I even had to call to make 'his' car appointment for inspection. I can take the rough times but only if I feel we are both in it together.

I am using my Happy Light every day, and working out every day (well I missed yesterday but everyday other than that) and of course taking my Wellbutrin but I am feeling l-o-w.

Oh I did clean the kitchen this afternoon, it was long overdue and really needed it. That was a good accomplishment for a blah day. Well I did the snow tire appt., I guess that was good too. And made an appt. for an oil change for next week. Sometimes I feel paralyzed by having to do the ordinary, easy day to day things...that those things (making car appointments, paying bills, cleaning up, etc) are just effortless when I am feeling good, and SO hard to do when I'm not feeling good.

I know i tend to write alot when I'm down, I don't expect you to read it all :devil:

I'm too pooped to type much but Vermont, I'm just glad to have something to read. :) I like hearing about everybody's life and day and with all the details.

Buddly, I'm glad it all went all. I hope you heal quickly.

Aunty Jam, more hugs. :hug:

I will catch up with personals soon. Gotta work both jobs tomorrow so I need to get to bed. Hope you all feel better soon.

vermont-it seems that is how all of us work is to type a lot when things are hard and I think thats the way to get stuff out...Atleast it is for me. I know I wasnt around when all this motorcycle stuff went down but usually the vehicle insurance covers medical bills also? I know when i was in my car accident (one vehicle) They picked up the bills. I had insurance also so I didnt really know what took what but if you haven't checked into it its worth a look. You would think with bikes they would put more personal insurance on the policy since if you wreck your can pretty much be sure your getting hurt somehow! Ok I feel sorry for you cause that is an awful awful loss!

things are ok...still in the self hate thing but not AS bad. I just get bad when I lose my temper on the kids and yell at them when its really not necessary.
I actually made the foster kid bawl on the way home from church. Way to go right....Well (hope no one takes offence to my story I am bout to tell...NONE MEANT!!). They have been known esp the 2 yr old to have potty mouths. Guess the adult figures thought it was funny for a 2 yr old n 4 yr old to use foul language. Well of course we even have filters on the dvd player to block out the language (yes i know i know I cant shelter them forever or all the time but when I can I WILL!! LOL) So anyways they are in the back going on to each other bout who knows what but all I hear is "You betta get up outta here nigga" OH I CUT LOSE... I SCREAMED (not the motherly nag...the your in deep crap...everyones running, ducking, hiding scream) I was like YOU EVER EVER EVER SAY THAT WORD AGAIN IM GONNA WASH YOUR MOUTH OUT WITH SOAP!! I NEVER EVER WANT TO HEAR IT AGAIN...he starts Im sorry momma jess Im sorry...momma jess im really sorry...I said ok...hes like its my fault im sorry momma jess.... We were almost to the house at this point so I got the other kids out of the car and I stopped him and made sure he knew what word I was referring to and calmly explained we don't use those words. He was like in tears. I wasn't meaning to flip and upset him I just hate when people use that word and it kinda set a trigger in me. My kids don't know what the bad words are so I didn't want to say the word again and I don't want them using that phrase not knowing its bad...sigh..... Our neighbor friends are black and that is the last thing I need to worry bout. They are nice people I am sure they would understand since hes so young and come from a hard family but just not something i want to deal with...

Ok well anyways....just wish I could get all my work done, keep my house clean, do an excellent job with the boys school (instead of just enough to get by), keep up with church work, lose the weight, spend more time with the kids on the floor playing games or singing or whatever (instead of stuff in the puter at times), just wish little things like them climbing on the shoe rack and breaking it wouldn't upset me....its hard when I know my dh works hard so we can have things and then they break them.....ok blah blah blah..
Just want to be happy with myself!!! I have to figure out how to do that!

Have a good week guys its sad that we are not even into WINTER and everyone's having a hard time..can we fast forward to spring???

Hello Peeps!

So sorry but I have to vote for no spring!!! I have had a 4 year sentence in summer and I NEED winter!!! Bad!!! Really Bad!!! :) I have reverse sad so I am lethargic and it is hard to get motivated in summer... I am soooo very much enjoying the cool weather...though I really wish it didn't hurt so many of you all... I have discovered that it is not necessarily the sun that depresses me as the heat... In fact, I have sun peaking through the guardians of trees on my deck right now and it is beeeeaaauuutiful Ladies!

Status update: we had a four day trip to the Redwoods...stayed in Garberville...wow...is there a lot of homeless people there! I was surprised really, that is a really rough climate to be homeless!!! We roamed the Avenue of Giants...wow...I met a 1800 year old Redwood tree named Grandfather Tree and he took my breath away and made me tear up... I walked in a forest that was so old and so full of peace that I felt it down to my bones...I wish I could carry it forever... I still feel the lingering touch of them... It has been one week...

Today I have to go to the post office, the grocery store, try to get some reading done in my textbook...and oh yeah...need to go workout after I get off of here! Not too much compared to Mom!!! :)

We are still dealing with the claim for the stuff the movers broke, and I just discovered yesterday that the computer on my treadmill isn't working so we have to make the decision whether or not to go through the trouble of the addition of it to the claim...ugh.

DH is frustrated because he isn't able to do everything that he used to do (and he doesn't want me to do it...) so the house still isn't together. (Before his surgery he used to have it all together in a couple of days...max) and now we have been in the house for over a month. I have a lot of patience, I know it will happen...he is also going to have to study for his promotion test and will be starting up his Masters program in January. Things seem to be progressing slower than usual but at least they are progressing.

I fell off the wagon before TOM hit for two days and then we were travelling for 4 days so I gained back all the weight I lost when I checked my weight when I got home. But, I have lost a pound and a half since we got home so at least some of it was water...is it frustrating that I lost it and binged...almost willfully didn't do the things that I knew would help stop it...sigh...yes...all I can do is try again. Not let it define me...pick myself up and that is what I am doing...

Holly! That is awful! I am so sorry about the insurance crap! That is so weird though, the chapter I am working on in my Personal Finance book was just talking about those policies!!! How ironic!!!

So sorry you all are struggling...I am sending positive energy to you all! I (for once!) have some to share!!! :)

~Raven~

Not posting, just reading. :)

think I need to ground myself from the computer!!! LOL
Kids are driving me PAST crazy today!
Husband is getting burnt out and needs a break!
I need to get my but organized and more involved with the kids..not just babysitting them..
the story goes on!

Hello! I've been reading and observing- seems like I don't have time left to post once I read through. Life is pretty busy but things are getting easier all of the time! I'm a teacher and the fall keeps me so busy, but around this time of year I think I'm on auto pilot to some extent and don't have to bring much work home now. My kids, 13 and 17 are more independent and since my daughter just started driving and has a job, I have more time during the week to cook healthily and workout.

That said, I've had a veeerrry slow month in terms of meeting goals and being motivated much. I've slacked off on logging my foods...been pretty sick for the last week. Bad cold and now lingering nasty cough has kept me away from the gym.
I'm going to log now, consistently right through the holiday and will get back to the gym at least a few times this week...
Enjoy reading your posts!! We're off to Christmas parade- my kids and other family are in it ! And then nephews first birthday party- he's so sweet!

Just remember, EVERYONE feels more stressed around the holidays, not just us:)
And money is a mess in my house most of the time, just when we think we're getting ahead a little, we're dodging shut off notices!!

Hope things get better soon for everyone...
@Vermont- you seem like a very strong person! If I cleaned my kitchen and worked out everyday while I'm feeling down- I'd count that as a real triumph:)

Good morning everyone!:wave:
Hope you are all having a wonderful start to the weekend.

Welcome lillydi!! So glad you could post. I hope you are feeling better and a Christmas parade sounds like fun!

Heather so good to see you!!

Raven that sounds like a wonderful trip. I know with spending my teens just outside of Vancouver we would go to Golden Ears Provincial park and hike through all the huge ceder trees the smell and the peace is wonderful. I miss them and the mountains living here.

Mom just hang in there!!

Hey Hope! Take care of yourself!!

Holly so sorry about the insurance on your bike, that really sucks. I sure hope they help you husband feel better soon as well. Hearing all what you have to go through with health care sure makes me grateful for our system, flaws and all. I sure hope it all gets sorted out soon.

Aunty Jam how are you? I've been worried about you.

Hi to everyone else!!

I'm still sore and tired. Things look like they are healing, but I'm still on soft foods. Hubby made it home and had yesterday off so he took my van in and I now have four new snow tires yippee!! We've been going down to -22*C (-7.6*f) at night today we've hit a balmy -14*c (6.8*f) so snow tires are a must. Next will be to find the leak and get that fixed. I do have to get up and do some house cleaning, oh my goodness. The cardboard pile for recycling keeps falling over and the hallway feels like a tiny path. Time to load everything into the van just to make room. Anyway I guess I should get my hinney into the kitchen and do up some dishes, no one around here seems to like doing them. At least we have blue skies and the sun shining on the snow, it is pretty.

Take care everyone!
K

I had a recurring dream about my Dad trying to molest me but I was preparing to do bodily harm to him if he tried! I actually have been abused before by a older man and my Dad tried to molest me.

FoodObsessed, I hate to hear that. I hope you've gotten some help. It's funny how the mind works in terms of dreams. Nice to meet you.

My week off officially started today. I had breakfast with a friend this morning and did a little shopping. I made some chili when I got home and then took a nap. It was nice. All I've done tonight is watch tv. Not to sound corny but I feel so lucky in my life right now. I am so happy I have this new job and that I am making more money. I'm just in a place of gratitude. I don't even care that I'm tired. When I think about it it's about the first time since 2003 that I'll really be able to contribute to the household bills. If I wasn't in debt it would be more. Fortunately I can start paying that down now.

Having said that if I don't get my eating back under control I'm sure my good feelings will fade quickly. My goal is work out every day this week while I'm off (starting tomorrow ;)). Today was a bust to say the least. I also need to tackle the house. :eek: Wish me luck.

Hi Foodobsessed, that is a scary dream to have..nice to meet you :)

Hope, wishing you luck on a balance of enjoying your time off, with doing the things you want to do. Really great about your job! :carrot:

I weighed last week and adjusted my ticker :( I was up almost five pounds. And I changed my goal weight to be 145. No wonder with the 'don't care' choices I've been eating lately. I was always aiming for 150 because then I wouldn't be considered 'overweight' by health standards. But i don't feel totally trim at 150 and sure as heck don't at 155.

Food - I hope you alerted the authorities when that happened.

Hi everyone... I don't have much time, something about going out of town makes the work pile up. The rest of the trip was pretty good but just too long. Got home to horribly cold weather, holy crud I am freezing! A few days ago I was sitting on a patio drinking lemonaid and eating a shrimp and avacado salad.

Power didn't get cut off since I got paid on that Friday and hubby was able to arrange a payment. My moods have been so up and down since I've been home. We get almost no day light this time of year and my light still isn't working. Hubby is selling "his" pool table to pay off some bills.... Part of me wants to point out that it isn't just "his" but OURS. I've kept quiet since I almost never use it.

Came home to a funeral... one of my husbands pool teammates had cancer and he finally passed away. Got another one next weekend... my neighbors daughter took her own life. My parents have known this family for almost 40 years so they were very upset to hear. I feel sorry for her kids, daughter is almost 30 and the boy is a bit younger... but what a horrible way to loose your Mom. Makes you think.

Vermont - We've been through that and it hurts doesn't it. Phooy... spit on them!

Bud - Sorry to make you worry.

oh gosh I missed alot of posts.

Momof4 - you did absolutely right, I think, when you corrected the boy about 'that word'. Sure he didn't know what it meant, but he is old enough to learn it is a NO NO word!! you did right :hug:

hi lillydi, nice to meet you :)

buddly, you are brave for liking the sun shining on the snow :cool: glad you got your snow tires on!!

Aunty Jam - so sorry to hear of those untimely passings! :( and boo to DH saying 'his' pool table. That's just my female part taking your side :devil:

Ravengirl - well I can't fathom it but I am glad you are in 'your element' with the cooler (cold!) season. That is amazing about the 1800 yr old tree!!!

Yeah..my motorcycle insurance policy just covered, for medical coverage for me, one...thousand...dollars....such a miniscule amount!! Now that is not what the coverage would be if I injured someone else and was liable..those coverages are like $300,000. And since we don't have our own medical insurance like Blue Cross/Blue Shield, we have to pay for it all. Oh well, like I said I am making payments for them all but it is the one hospital that is being crummy to me.

I actually got up out of bed today at 6:15. I've been only able to get up so late for the past few weeks. So this was good. And today while driving to work I was able to look ahead to tomorrow and think of what I was going to do on my day off. Haven't been able to do that for a while too.

Good morning and just had to tell you all, that I am having 2 good days in a row :carrot: It is SO GREAT to be able to look forward to the next day, or even be able to think about it, without being apathetic. I've been that way (apathetic) for weeks and it sucked. So totally uncaring that while driving, I couldn't have cared if I drifted into the path of a truck. Thought about asking my boys 'you guys would be fine if I wasn't around, wouldnt you?' but there is no way one could ask that of your kids and not upset them.

BUT for whatever reasons I feel good again today. I have been working out every day (except for 2 days) for at least 3 weeks; using my Happy Light every morning.

Just had to let you all know, hang in there at least one more day, because tomorrow you might feel better!!!!

Hi everyone:wave:

Vermont that is wonderful you are feeling better. I am so happy for you.

aunty jam I am so sorry about your losses. And yes those poor kids, losing your mom at any age is tough. And I am glad to hear you are still fighting along.

Hope enjoy your time off.

I'm not doing so great here. We are still in the cold snap, actually I think we are suppose to be on a warming trend so that will be nice. Took DdC to the neurologist this morning and he wants her to have a sleep deprived EEG and an MRI. He says he has a good suspicion of what may be wrong, but he wants a few more tests done and he's talking medication. In the meantime he doesn't want her driving, or near high edges or sharp things and he wants her supervised if she has a bath etc. She is not a happy camper. She finally got driving lessons and was doing great and was really looking forward to getting her license and driving on her own.

But my major problem is that on Sat night I got the solid proof I've been sort of looking for that my husband of 24 yrs has been.......the nice term....having a long term affair. (that is not what I've been calling it) The betrayals that I'm finding.... well I'm raw and not just a little bitter. I haven't confronted him yet (as hard as its been, I want to hurt him so bad) I have a counselor's appt on tues so I'm biding my time. Its so hard to pretend to believe all the lies. I know I've been doing it for at least three yrs, where this is concerned. But now that its positive and not just suspicion its so hard. And when I think of all the times I've put off buying things for the girls and groceries and such and making less than minimum payments on cards and now my credit rating is in the trash (the credit cards he uses are in my name and he likes to use them) and to find out he's been putting money in her bank acct and giving her who knows how much as he makes an awful lot of cash withdrawls. And I've been worrying about him running short of cash on the road etc, so much so I've been covering our van payment, life insurance and house insurance on my meager income. (I work 6-15 hrs a week and I've been off for two weeks now) I am just so sick. And she is such a skank. she has phoned here before leaving very drunk, vulgar messages on our machine, he explained her as being a buddy's girlfriend. He befreinded her on facebook so my girls got to see her profile and how her interest was her work and her lover (followed by my husband's name) so my girls know whats up. I've known this guy since he was 12, we started dating at 17, married at 20 and now I don't know him at all. I had suspicions, but deep down I honestly couldn't believe he would ever do such a thing. And now I am so shattered as are the girls. They know what will be happening next, they just don't know when. Thankfully he goes away for a few days at a time, its easier to be civil and pretend everything is fine for short phone calls. I just can't believe that he would throw everything away for something like that. I saw some pictures her daughter posted, my gosh a classy bunch. His parents will actually die if they ever met her. (they are very devote Christians) and they had problems accepting me because my parents were divorced and my mom was raised as a Jehovah Witness. What would they do if they saw the pictures of this thing passed out on the beach with beer cans under her towel and her daughters dressed up like street walkers and vandalising property (all in the pictures) That's the family he thinks is worth risking a 20+yr marriage and the respect of his daughters and the rest of our families? I am just sick.
Sorry for the long winded novel. It is almost 6am and I haven't slept yet.

Take care,
K

Buddly - there isn't an emoticon here strong enough to show my shock and horror at what you discovered...I can't even imagine how horrible and angry and betrayed and %$&*#@$ you must feel. Please know we are behind you :hug:

Thank you Vermont, I needed that.:hug:

buddly... :hug:

You actually sound ok, I don't think I would be able to put up with him without total losing it. How dare she post it on facebook for other people to see?! I would get him off you credit cards as soon as possible.

Oh Buddly, I've just been sitting here say 'Oh my Gosh' and shaking my head. I'm so shocked and upset for you. I had no idea you even suspected such a thing. Like Vermont said, we are 100% behind you no matter what. No matter what. :hug:

And prayers go out for your DdC.

Thank you so much for your support, you guys are the best :hug:

but I just couldn't help myself and I just sent him a text informing him he has to drop the skank immedietly and stop giving her any more money or else he will have the honour of spending christmas with her and her family. I am shaking but I sort of figure its over anyway, what do I have to lose. I wanted to wait tho, but I just couldn't.
K

buddly...!!! good for you. I realize you wanted to wait but holy heck how could you not. Does she have anything of yours, in her possession? I'm vindictive enough that I would report it (possesions, money, clothes, use of car?) stolen. There's just such a sense of such righteous anger that I would want others to witness. I know a woman whose husband was cheating; she found out he supplied the other woman with an apartment and car, and the wife had a good friend who was a State Police officer; the cop went to the apartment and ordered her out of the apartment and put her on the sidewalk. On the grounds that it was joint property of the wife, and the wife said 'she does not have permission'. Very harsh but hey...you play with fire, you do the wrong thing, you should pay.

a billion :hug: to you , dear!!!

OH WOW WOW WOW....buddly....I have to say your strong not to say anything once your confirmed it..I am with vermont I would be doing everything and anything to make her life and his horrible...
I am so sorry your having to deal with this around this time of year!! If you need anything we are all here...prank phone calls...facebook harrassment...LOL Whatever you need!!!

Things are going ok this way...Very heavy hearted this week. A 17year old girl in one of our high schools killed herself sunday. Being a youth pastor I have to pick up the pieces of the friends that knew her. It breaks my heart and brings me to tears to think that any on feels so down that they think that is their only way out. There are so many people that love them yet they dont see it all they see is their storm and the pain...She was a great singer, wrote her own music, played the guitar...there was a plan and a purpose for her...yet she left to early...
well thats bout it!!
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!

FUNNY THANKSGIVING STORY For you guys!!

So this morning it has been raining like crazy sooo I look and the drain across the street is clogged from tons of leaves. I am like well I will go unclog it since it was flooding the WHOLE street. I go over and start to get leaves moving. Well you know in those movies where people go thru puddles and the water hits the person on the street like a tidal wave. Yep one car flew through (suppose to be 25 mph) and completely soaked me (I was in a tshirt and shorts of course!!!) The rest of the cars slowed and went into the other lane...not the other one...sigh. I am finally warming up but waiting for my husband to get back so I can go shower! Kids are just running like crazy..lol

Have a great day!!

Oh Buddly... :hug: I am so sorry to hear that. What a horrible thing :hug: I agree... get him off your cards, off you bank account and out of your life!!!

It turns out my neighbors daughter might not have killed herself after all... it looks like it might have been a bad interaction between some of her meds. She was bi-polar and a few other things so meds can stack up pretty quick. Don't know for sure yet but that's the latest news.

Buddly - you know I've been where you are. If you would like to PM me, I can give you my email, and a strong shoulder.

I love you all - and I so rarely post now - but Buddly... I'm right here.

momof4 - LOL!! that was real community-minded of you, sorry that you got tidal-waved :D

Aunty Jam - I do hope the news is good about the young girl!!

Hi Heather :) :hug:

and thinking of buddly and her children!!!! :hug::hug::hug:

Thank you all so much for your support.

I really don't know whats going to happen next. He text me this morning to let me know where he was headed and that his pay cheque was in the bank and how much it was. And that has been it since last nights exchanges.
I was a little naughty the other night and I sort of got into his fb acct and got her email address and then unfriended her. She is now signed up to receive a daily bible scripture though. I sort of thought she may need a reminder of the tenth commandment.
I had my self esteme class this morning, that was tough. But then I met up with a girlfriend for lunch and had a really good "therapy" session. I talked so much that my poor throat, which is still healing is sore.

Anyway I need some sleep.
Take care all and thank you so much
K

She is now signed up to receive a daily bible scripture though. I sort of thought she may need a reminder of the tenth commandment. -Buddly :rofl: