I will admit I do. I don't get up in the moring and drink, I just get lonely and want to talk to people. I have been a bartender for 26 years.... I have helped or listened to many others,,, It is my turn. I have friends , I just can't talk to them.. or my husband.. I love him dearly. I have to get over past factors in my life, I used to be able to talk to myself and resolve the problems, now I can't.. I drink beer about 2 nights a week in a bar ( I live in a small town and know everyone) but I don't talk about my stuff, I listen to them. I am trying, but I think I might need help... Empty nest symdrone, and husby works out of town during the week, I am not working because of an injury 6 weeks ago. It sucks....
Anyone want to talk to me,, I have time for the computor..
I feel better just to vent right now...
deb

Debbie,

Alcohol is a depressant type of drug. All this does is make the condition worse. Alcohol affects the central nervous system as a depressant, resulting in a decrease of activity, anxiety, tension, and inhibitions. This is a temporary reprieve from your troubles.

I urge you to get to a doctor NOW and start talking to someone about the demons in your past. You are the only one who can take the first step to get help. There IS a way to deal with the demons.. I have fought enough of my own and I am winning! I am sure you already know that you can't bury your problems in a bottle of beer, a couple pills, or in a plateful of food.

Please... drinking is not a cure for your depression and in the long run you could be doing quite a bit of harm to yourself.

I do care.. I care enough to ask you to please think about your use of alcohol as a treatment.. and seek out your family doctor.

Debbie,

Linda said it all. Please get some help and keep coming here for support. Digging your hole deeper will not do you any good.

I have lived through the empty ness thing, it is rough but try to think about some of the positive things it can bring, like less laundry, less cooking, less cleaning, quiet time with your hubby, when he's around. That is all you can do, they are grown and we have to accept it. My baby just got married last Friday and I cried a bucket of tears, but it's their turn now. We need to let them know that we are ok and encourage them to fly. Easier said than done, but I've done it 4 times so I am pretty experienced with this. In the big picture, the experts would say, it is our time now, so pick yourself up and make the best of it.

I too have been out of work for a long period of time due to a car accident. That is not fun either. If you have any hobbies, try and get into them. Or if you don't, find one that interest you. With Christmas coming, making some homemade things might give you a boost. Or if you're healthy enough, do something around the house that will boost your spirits. I have tried to make good use of my time at home. Paint a room, change some curtains, work in the yard...anything!!!! And don't forget there is always exercising, go for a walk, get some exercise video's, make some plans with friends, have your hair and nails done... do something for YOU!

Good luck and please come back and let us know how you are.

Meg

Deb,

This is what this message board is about, of course we will talk to you, even if its in black & white, we are here. We will by no means judge you but I have to say Linda is right, talk to your doctor as soon as you can. With his help and chatting with us who know's.

Oh by the way, talking to God helps too !!!! trust me

Huggs & Kisses,

Love, Leenie

Weeder, I read your post before my Dh and I left for a quick run to the city and it gave me time to think about a reply. I'm wondering if perhaps you could still go to the bar and sit with people that you know without the alcohol.

I know what it's like to be lonely as my DH used to be gone five days out of the week. I never went to a bar cause in this community, it would have caused gossip...a VERY conservative country town. But, I was sorely tempted. I also knew that my hubby didn't frequent bars when he was away from me.

As what was posted alcohol isn't the answer for depression. Talk to yor doctor about it.

Could yo maybe make some friends out of the bars scene such a a church or such? I'm not judging you as I live in Wisconsin where the taverns is our most popular place to meet people.

I am an alcoholic and I understand all too well about "crying in your beer".I cannot work and I stay home too. On top of that, I don't drive either.But I do take my 2 Dachshunds on their nightly 20 minute walk.While walking, I notice other homes and what I'd like to do to mine to fix it up.You'd be surprised at what a brisk walk can do for your emotions.I read in Good Housekeeping magazine that exercise can decrease depression by 25%!! Good Luck to you!!

Hello,

I too know that lonley feeling, i have just moved away from my family and all that i know and have moved closer to my boyfriend, im SO lonley it hurts but pleased ont turn to drinking to help...in the long run it wont help at all but it will make things worse

The evenings are worse for me, my boyfriend still lives at home so im alone most of the time, so i scrapbook and things to keep me busy

My father has been an alcoholic all my life and he is throwing his life away, like someone said before, i will not judge you but PLEASE get some help

Good luck!!