[mom with issues]

Butter Butt,
Your words are words that I could have written myself on many occassions. Today has been a hard day for me also. My mother isn't speaking to me for reasons I can't begin to imagine and today it's really getting me down. That said, I wish I could help more. Remember this, even if you had money and the other things, you would still have the depression. If you ran away, the depression would go with you so you'd just be away from home and depressed. I know about feeling unworthy and undeserving. That's something I've struggled with my whole life. It sucks! I am fortunate to have 3 wonderful sons (14, 12, and 9) who are my lifelines. They don't know it, but there are many days where they are what keeps my going. PLEASE see your doctor ASAP. If he won't listen or doesn't have time find another doctor. Talk to anyone you know for referrals, especially the ones who have issues like yours. That's how I found my new doc and she is wonderful. I've only seen her once but she listened to me and showed respect for what I know about myself and meds. She has made all the difference. There is another website I go to called crazymeds.us that has a wealth of information and some very understanding and helpful people on their forum. Check it out. Meanwhile, let me know how you are doing. I have been where you are and I truly care.

[kate looseme]

I am sorry to hear that. Have you talked to somebody, a friend who have the same shoes as you? I have gone through that part, I want you to talk to a friend or find a health coach. Hope this help. IF you want you can PM me as well.

[Butter_Butt]

Kate looseme,
I can't talk to one of my Friends,because her Depression and life's problems has to be worse.Am considering scheduling a time to go to the Church and talk with the Pastor in his Office,or finding a Therapist.In September last Year,I went to an Appointment with a previous Therapist,but for reasons unknown to me,she didn't want to see me.

[Butter_Butt]

Marilyn,
I'm sorry,but what do you mean by,"every hope"?

[Butter_Butt]

Mom with issues,
Wish I knew my Birth Mother,or had a Mother to talk to,but sometimes wishes don't come true,or we don't get or have that chance.Have you asked your Mother why she "cops" attitude with you?Where I live,my Family and People in general is Depressing me,so I would rather be elsewhere.End of the Week,I ran into an Uncle's ex Wife,their oldest Daughter,2 of her Children and her Sister's Daughter.My Cousin wouldn't speak let alone look at me.We were in Diapers together!It didn't hurt,it made me angry!She needs to come out of the,"I'm better Clouds and back to Earth."Christmas 2007,I saw she and her new Husband (whom I've not met when they've been Married 4-5 Years) walk into a Neighbors with Gift in Hand.Didn't come to my House to introduce me to her Husband or wish me Merry Christmas,and it was my first Christmas without my Father!I turn 37 in 42 Day's,and don't have a SO,significant other in my life or Children.If I were to talk with my GP about it,he would more than likely tell me it's not a good idea to have a Baby.This is when I would tell him to take a flying leap at my B*tt!I had to move my Appointment back to early October when I caught my 28th Appointment scheduled for 1:30 PM.When I see my Doctor every 3 Months,he orders a few Labs that require me to be Fasting.I can't go 12-13 Hours without eating.I'm doing better,but had couple of bad Day's..

[mom with issues]

Butter Butt,
My mom doesn't relate very well to me. She and my sister are much more alike and it's easier for my mom to talk to my sister than to me. My sister loves it because she gets all the attention. I have 3 kids and I understand that your don't relate to all of them the same. I would like to think that my relationship with her makes me a better mother and to work harder to relate to all of my kids. I don't think this would be a good time for you to have a baby. Kids are a LOT or work. My husband works a lot of hours but I still wouldn't want to be a single parent. I could if I had to, but I'd rather not. There are many times my kids anchor me and keep me from going off the deep end, but there are also times when they get yelled at for small things or no reason at all, just because I'm having a bad day or feeling down. That's not fair to them. I wouldn't be fair to have a child when you need to focus on yourself and getting yourself better. I am learning to let go of anger and resentment and not carry grudges. It's so unhealthy. So, yes, there are some days when the situation with my mom really gets to me, but I'm trying to let it go because it's healthier for me. See your doc ASAP. You really need someone who can help you get back on track. Once you get started, it gets easier to make changes that will help the improvement continue. My new doc made some med changes and they have helped me a lot. Some friends of mine and I are starting a weight loss challenge tomorrow that will end right before Thanksgiving and I'm actually looking forward to it. Get to the doc!! If yours doesn't help you, find a new one who will. They are out there.

[lessthanzero]

I understand this alot. I have been down myself. My doc gave me some meds but I really didnt like them. I am a reaL GO GETTER and not alot gets me down but I am under the microscope in my new job and this 14 lbs weight gain has made people scrutinize me even more, and i just dont want to do business even.
its so very hard... I understand the depression and everything that goes along with it.
its certainly not something I would take lightly,talk to your dr and see what is best for you, Even talking to someone if meds arent an avenue you want to explore. youre NOT alone.

[Noellem87]

I'm sure I have depression but have not been to any kind of therapist or ever taken any medicine.. my best friend has been to all these appointments and taking meds for years and to me it is pointless because you are just doing triage on situational depression and when you get off of medicine you still have the same problems to cope with except now the side effects of not being on medicine make many people suicidal. I don't need that bs and how about paying attention to the amount of money people pump into the medical field because they have a disease for everything under the sun and medicine for it. I think it is rediculous. If you are clinically depressed and it is a chemical imbalance then yes absolutely go get help and otherwise accept the fact that people from all walks of life have serious disappointments and time to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get up and take action to make it better. There is no other way around it because none of us gets to be born again and get a do over. This is it and if things are going to change, its up to all of us to make it better....Exercise is the magic potion to feel good. We can all make up one excuse after another and I do it too but if you want to feel better.. get moving.. I hope this is helpful , it is to me definitely, your problems are there with or without medicine and time to work a plan to survive and overcome life's challenges.

[mom with issues]

Noellem87,
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree with some things you said. I don't think that butter butt has "situational depression". It sounds to me like clinical depression, for which she needs outside help. Some people get depressed in response to a situation like the death of a loved one. The meds help them cope while they learn how to deal with the situation. If they are ready to be off meds then there are no side effects of not being on medication. As someone who has suffered from depression for many years and been on and off meds, I find some of your comments slightly offensive. For someone with serious issues, whether situational or chemical, being told to "get over it" (which is essentially what you said) is the worst this they can hear. You don't just get over it. That implies that I can control my depression and choose not to. Exercise is not a magic potion. Meds are not a magic potion either. Both are tools that you can use to improve your situation. To imply that there is a magic potion is ridiculous. I don't think it is ever up to an outsider to tell someone what they need. If someone is having serious issues like butter butt is, they need the advise of someone who is trained in these areas.

[Noellem87]

Thanks for your comments I do appreciate another point of view.. I have so many people in my family and close friends who have depression for many reasons and your points are totally valid, actually more who do than not and it's good to hear an opposite view on this from mine. I just happen to feel differently but I do appreciate your insight as well..