I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO

MY DOC JUST PUT UNDER DEPRESSION PILLS ON MONDAY, I HAVEN'T START TAKEN THEM, TOMORROW ILL GO AND BUY THEM (YOU KNOW, NO TIME.., WORK, ETC) I GOT SURGERY ON SATURDAY TO EXTRACT MY WISDOM TEETH AND IM SOO SORE AND HUNGRY! ( JUST MASH POTATO, JUICES, SOFT FOOD) NOT TO MENTION MY SWOLLEN FACE .

MY SISTERS CALL ME ON SUNDAY IN ORDER TO TELL ME THAT MY SISTER-IN-LAW (THE WIFE OF THE OLDER BROTHER OF MY HUSBAND) IS SAYING THAT MY HUSBAND IS CHEATING ON ME I DON'T REALLY BELIEVE HER, BECAUSE SHE'S NOT MY FRIEND AND SHE'S A LITTLE CRAZY BUT THE TRUTH IS THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK, I ONCE SUSPECTED THAT HE WAS, BUT I DON'T KNOW, I'M NOT HURT!!!!! ITS LIKE I DON'T CARE TO FIND OUT IF ITS TRUTH OR NOT. I ASK HIM NORMALY, LIKE *HEY THIS PERSON IS SAYING THIS ABOUT YOU* HE DIDN'T EVEN GOT MAD, *DONT KNOW IF THATS GOOD OR BAD* HE SAID, SHE DOESN'T KNOW NOTHING, BUT THATS ABOUT IT. AND I DIN'T ASK NOTHING MORE...

AH AND THE MOST IMPORTANT THING, HE HAVE NOT TOUCH ME IN AT LEAST 3 MONTHS. NOTHING...... AND BEFORE THAT 2 MOTNHS. AND IT WAS BECAUSE I ALMOST RAPE HIM

help...

I'm sorry so much is going on in your life right now but I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to start taking the meds your doctor prescribed for you.

I'm sorry things are hard! Definitely get your prescription filled, as they take time to start working anyway. Do you have a referral for someone to talk to? What you're going through is a lot for anyone to handle alone.

Sweetie, all I can tell you is that your intuition and other women aren't out to get you. I wish I had listened to them and believed my own heart.

I have learned that you can't make someone love you and you can't make someone care about you. What ever is gonna happen is just going to happen. You have to take care of yourself.

I hope you start feeling better with the depression meds. My friend takes them and it has made a world of different in their life. Just remember it takes a while for them to start working and sometimes you have to try a few different ones out until you find the right one and also you have to find the right dosage. But once it starts working for many the meds really help.

I am feeling a little depressed myself but how I have been getting over it is I have been throwing myself into the Christmas spirit. I just put up my icicle lights up out from and bought a reall tree and decorated it myself.

And I am making most of my Christmas gifts for friends and family and I am really putting some thought into what I give.

Maybe that will work for you?

Also a little egg nog with some rum works for me! But YMMV!

merry x-mas

How often do you tell him you are not going with him? Is this a commen occurrence? Maybe he's just tired of begging you to do things all the time and thinks that maybe just letting you decide is easier...you know? I mean really, you said you would be bored, tired, don't want to be there...basically miserable. Maybe he'd just like to go and see his family and not worry that you are board, tired, & miserable. Most men don't really like drama. They just want a simple nice day.

I am not trying to be mean...I have just been married for 20 years and have lived through a lot with my husband and his family. Some times you just have to suck it up and play nicey nice. It's only a few hours out of you life.

Okay, so here's my opinion. I agree with Lori Bell. I have been married for 21 years to a great guy. He has 2 sisters. One has 3 children and 3 grandchildren, the other has 1 daughter. He also has 1 brother who is married, but has no kids. So just to get together with the immediate family is around 20 people. Then on holidays, they like to add a couple of cousins and their families... To make a long story short, I cooked Thanksgiving dinner for 35 people. I made the turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, and corn and the others all brought stuff, so I didnt do everything, but it was still exhausting. I try to have get togethers with his family for other occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, etc.), but for those events, I do all the cooking. Very rarely do any of them offer to bring anything, or help in any way. I sometimes get very resentful, but I do it for my husband. I know he likes these "events" so I just suck it up and do it for him.
As far as Kelsicc and the way you are feeling - take the meds. It can change your whole outlook and help to put things in a new perspective. I have been on and off meds many times over the years. Right now I am on a drug called Pristiq (it's like Effexor). I have been on it for about 6 weeks and I feel like a new person. I feel stable and solid, which are not things I have felt in a long time. I still have the same stress (perhaps even more) but I am MUCH better at dealing with it now. I don't have nearly as much anxiety. I don't fight with my husband or yell at my kids nearly as much as I was doing. It's easier for me to see that not everything is the end of the world and most things are manageable.
I have read many of the posts from those who advocate "natural" forms of fighting depression and if it works for them, I think that's great. But I also believe that there are those of us who need the extra help and I don't think we should feel bad or guilty about needing medication. If your doctor prescribed it, TAKE IT!! You may not need it forever, but it may be invaluable in getting though what you're dealing with now. Good luck.