Chick Chat ~ April 7 - 13
 

Good Morning Gang :wave:

How is everybody doing this fine day? :carrot:

I had a really busy weekend...cleaned house all day on Saturday and then went to a wedding that our oldest son was in, then sunday school and church yesterday and worked on our taxes yesterday afternoon. I'm feeling like the lady in the commercial where the guy asks if she knows what time it is and she freaks and says YES she knows what time it is, taxes are due in less than 2 weeks. dang, they are due in a week now. but I've got ours done and in the mail today so that feels better. ;)

Hope - you asked if I'm still doing Leslie Sansone's walk videos.....well, i've taken a big ole break last month with going to Maui and then to Colorado, but I'm planning to get up early tomorrow morning and get myself back in gear. are you walking?

Leenie - I hope everything is ok girlie. I totally understand being overwhelmed. great big hugs my dear friend! :hug:

what's everybody up to today? I'm at work of course so I better get to it.

hope everybody has a blessed day!

hugs,
Cathy

Cross-posted in the last weekly chat thread, since it's a reply to that thread.


I know - this sucks. I know that my family members are disappointed in me for being heavy, and I get their approval by losing weight. I think in general, though, people have more positive reasons for commenting on your weight loss.

1. People want to help! If you are trying to lose weight, having people say you're doing well is probably their way of encouraging you, of saying, "Look at you! You're succeeding in your goal!" I would say it's a lot like being congratulated on doing a good job at work, or getting a good grade in a hard class that's important to you. They don't mean that they were disappointed in you before, just that they're proud of you now.

2. A lot of people wish they had the self control to do what you're doing! Think of the goal threads we have here at 3FC where people post their triumphs and their photos. Those threads fill up with congratulations from those of us who are inspired by their progress. I don't congratulate people in those threads because I think they're somehow "better" now than they were before. I congratulate them because they've achieved something huge, and I'm trying to do the same, so I really am inspired by their progress. And it feels good to know you've inspired someone, right?

Oh gosh, I've been here, too. The last time I managed to lose weight was my freshman year of college, when I wanted to lose the freshman 15 instead of gaining it. And I succeeded. My parents were so proud of me. All my high school friends kept saying how great I looked. It felt wonderful. And now I'm 50 pounds heavier than I was then. I'm afraid to face those same high school friends who thought I looked so great. My grandmother told me she expected I would never look as good as I looked then. And of course, my grandmother added that I'd never find a man (I did, by the way).

I don't know how to explain this one, or what to say to make you feel better, except that I understand. We've all been there. We'd all like to be losing weight just for ourselves, to be healthier, a smaller size, fitter, less risk of disease, yada yada yada. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. But deep down I think we all care what people think of us, and we're all terrified of being the "fat chick." I know that's true of me. And I'm terrified of the look on my parents' faces if I don't manage to reach my goal, or if I gain all the weight back.

That's why I have every intention of keeping the weight off and changing my whole life. And I'll be perfectly honest with you - I'm trying to use my desire for approval as a motivating force for good in my life. It's probably not a particularly healthy motivation, but the fact is I want my mom and grandmother to think that I'm beautiful. I want to be the one in my family who managed to lose weight and keep it off. And I really, really want it! So maybe that desire can help me achieve the goals that I already have for myself. Maybe. And maybe it will end up sabotaging me, but for now, I'm just trying to get the weight off and not worry about my motivations to do so. :)

cathy - MAN does it feel good to have my taxes mailed in! I'm only 22 and this is my first year on my own as an independent (I graduated from college last May), so I'd never filed taxes before. Yikes! It took me six hours to figure it all out! It'll be easier next year since I will have done it all before, and since I wrote down a bunch of information that I needed to have and spent hours looking up! It probably also feels good to have all that cleaning done, huh? I did my spring cleaning on Saturday, too, and it feels amazing. My floors are mopped, my rugs vacuumed, my sheets cleaned and my bed made, and ALL my laundry. Towels, bathrobe, clothes, winter outerwear. Everything! YAY! Except now I have to put all that laundry away . . .

Is this the new chat thread?? It says March? I'm confused..lol

emmyroo, thanks for your feedback. It's helpful to hear other people's experiences and ways of getting around the fears.

Cathy, taxes! oh yeah. gotta get on that!

I am on Spring Break this week. Was supposed to go to New Orleans but the airline went out of business. Crap!

It's good to have the week at home, though, doing laundry, dishes, (taxes!), and I've been spending most of the time this weekend and today watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer and working. I am helping a friend start a website so I can make a lot of money this week working on it!

Sure, it's not a trip to New Orleans, but there are more things to do around here!

Amarie, Thanks for your replies to my last posts. I like what you said about disappointments in life. I also think my family is looking for a quick fix to my depression and think losing weight will do it. But, 15 pounds ago in high school, things weren't much better.

Francie, Thanks for the cute avatars. I am surprised that my family believes that dating is dependent on looks. I am 25 and have never been the dating type. There are other ways to finding a mate and I guess they just haven't had that experience.

hope4me, I will try to get my thinking around just accepting that their opinion of me should not be my opinion of me. "There are thousands of happy and fulfilled people who need to lose weight." That really resonates. Thanks.

emmyroo, I want to thank you again. Your words were helpful and honest and just the kind of thing I need right now.

(side note: how do I quote part of a post without cutting and pasting?)

Thanks all!!!

sorry - I don't know if i'm coming or going - this should have said April rather than March. but doesn't it feel like March to y'all? now really? doesn't it? LOL LOL LOL

I'll see if I can get Leenie to fix it.
sorry bout that folks!

Leenie - THANKS for fixing the month on the thread!!!!!!
hugs,
Cathy

All fixed LOLOL ;)

I had a doc appointment today..

I basically just had my annual "you know what". I'll get my results from that soon. However, I finally got my blood test results. I have traces of PCOS. She said she could put me on fertility drugs..but she'd rather have me go to the infertility clinic. I'm having more testing done as well.

I figured I had it..but its disappointed to know, now that its been confirmed...I dunno..I just need to take it all in still. I feel like crying though..

I'm gonna go lay down for a little while. Be back laters.

Hello everyone!:wave:

And yes Cathy, it does feel like march! Its 3pm and only 8*C thats about 47*F All be it the "lake" at the end of the driveway is growing so it must be spring:sunny:I'm kind of scared to drive out tonight in case I get stuck again. Hopefully hubby will be home before I leave and can use his big tires to break up the build up before I take my mini van out.

The time sure is flying now B has her prom on the 19th and then I guess only a month and a half and they will be done. And I too have to get started on the taxes, but at least I have until the 30th.

Heather, congrats on the job!! Good for you. I hope things are getting much better for you :hug:

Shop, :hug: Hope you feel better after your lie down. My oldest daughter(20) was diagnosed with pcos when she was 16, it has made her weight become an issue the poor thing. Good luck to you :hug:

jerzy I'm sorry your family is so unsupportive :hug: You keep looking after you for you and I'm sure when and if you want someone else in your life, I'm sure they will find you and love you no matter what the packaging looks like!

Hope have you heard anything about the job yet? My fingers are still crossed for you:crossed: Oh and yes my mum still works at A and W. She has a shopping habit that she has to keep paying for;) She gets a lot of great deals, but she sure buys a lot of things she doesn't really need. At the kidney clinic they were happy that her kidney function had only decreased to 33% from 39% last August so that keeps her in stage three. I sure learned a lot from being involved especially since they informed me that because of my health history I'm at very real risk of being in the same place and I should talk to my doctor about seeing the specialist as well.

Hi emmy, leenie, Sassy, liz and everyone else!:wave:

We had a nice quiet weekend just stayed home. Gas took another jump so it seemed like a great idea (we are up to $1.26/l so that is roughly $5.04/gal) A only has tomorrow left of this semester at uni and then just her exams, so that will save me a lot of driving. Until she finds a job of course, but then she can pay for gas so all is good :) I got to bake some bread this weekend. It was nice doing it from scratch as I usually use the bread maker. Now everyone wants me to make some buns as I use half of the recipe to make cinnamon rolls. It always makes the house smell so nice.

Anyway B and C just go home from school and I still need to finish a few things.
Take care everyone!:grouphug:
K

Oh my goodness ladies! I have missed you so. So much to tell, but I need sleep and will come back tomorrow to tell all.

No fair Amarie, I thought I was about to read a good story and you just decide to go to bed. :D Actually I need to do the same.

I'll catch up tomorrow with everyone.

By the way, you should check out the 3FC 5k this weekend under the Weight Loss Support thread. The post is Angie Leaves Ezmoney. You can walk, run, bike, or crawl wherever you are. Looks fun and they need more to sign up.

:wave: Sweeties

Been a wild few weeks. Nothing much else is happening cept life keeping me running lol. Hope everyone has a great day.

Heather :hug:

Love you girls :hug:

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good morning gang :wave:

I didn't get up as early as I should have this morning and was only able to do one quick and fast mile before getting ready for work, but at least it's a start in getting myself back into gear. ;)

anybody else exercising?

Leenie -I totally understand being busy. I sure hope it slows down a little for you soon.....but that just wouldn't be normal now would it ;) hugs!

Buddly - I can't even believe it's that cold where you are brrrrrrrrrrr you need to come live in Louisiana and warm up ;)

Hope, Amarie, Shop, Jerzy, Emmy - how is everybody doing today? what are y'all up to?

I gotta get back to work.... hope everybody has a blessed day!
hugs,
Cathy

Haha Hope, sorry about that - I was asleep before my head hit the pillow.

OK all, here's the report. I'm all in a whirlwind today post grad school visit. I'm definately going there this fall, barring any major change that stops me. The town was nice, it felt homey and safe which is what I need, and all the people I met (students and faculty) were really nice, and it seemed like I'd known them already. So I think the next few years of my life are going to be exciting, and filled with hard work but also good friends, I hope.

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Anyway, I'm trying to keep perspective on this, and not go overboard. Maybe it was just part of the whirlwind of the trip and the excitement of going to school, and maybe there was no connection on his end, but I don't think so. And I feel terribly exposed and raw even writing this to you girls, which is VERY wierd, cause I normally feel like I can share anything.

Whoa, OK, head realing again. I gotta go get some work done. Anyway, I am soooo glad to be back with my chickies. Have a great week everyone.

Edit: Ack, it got to me, and I had to edit the post, this is so strange. Francie - thank you so much :hug: Everyone else, basically I maybe met someone and am highly confused and odd about it, and I posted earlier, but in the end I felt way too naked leaving it up there, so I decided to delete it. Sigh. Who am I right now? OK, so maybe someday soon I'll be less wierd about this and can share again.

Amarie~When you meet "the one" you just know. You dont sound crazy at all. :)



Just stopping by to say Hi. I'm still feeling down about everything..so ya..I'm gonna go lay down.

I am still on Spring Break, spending my days working on a friend's website. So making money, but super lazy.

But I did go and have a massage today. It was terrible. Normally massages make me feel so good. Instead the therapist was weird, my tight muscles still ache and I am extremely agitated.

I'm not sure why I am so agitated. I guess I am used to some aromatherapy? Just lotion with this place. I went to a new spa because it is associated with my gym and it was not the same as the breezy, new age-y places I've been before.

Anyway it feels like it was a waste of money. The massage was great while I was lying there, but I have not gotten the usual after-effects of stress relief. That's all I was looking for. :dunno:

ARGH :club:

Hi all - its me again. I'm still being uber strange, but maybe thats just me. Have you ever had one of those days when you feel like the universe is trying to tell you something? I am today, and I feel like writing a note to the universe that says "OK, I get it, I am going to grad school there. You can stop whacking me over the head. Seriously, I get it." I'm not kidding. Just now I looked out my work window and there's a guy standing on the corner wearing a hat from my soon-to-be grad school. And this after a bunch of other stuff, including happening across a classified in my local paper of someone who wants to do a house swap next year and is in the town where I'm going. I better go home, sign my acceptance letter and put it in the mail just so I can get some peace!!!!!!

Mind if I jump in?
 

Hello........
 

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good morning gang :wave:

I got up at 5:00 and did 2 miles so I feel good :dancer:

HEY JOANNE - gosh it's good to see ya!!! I'm so sorry you're feeling lonely and defeated. I think we all get there at times but sure hate to hear you're feeling that way. But I'm so glad that you're here and posting! soooooooo let's chit chat - what ya up to? what's your family up to? what ya eating these days? weren't you doing WW for awhile? it's so good to see ya! :hug:

Leenie - I see you "zoomed" in and out of here ;) hang in there girlie and try to take some time for yourself :hug:

Amarie - I read your paragraph before you deleted it. You don't sound strange to me at all! The teenagers at church are asking me all the time "how do you know when someone is the one, and how did you know that dh was the one?" and really that is a hard question to answer - or to explain. I always tell them something that I remember hearing years ago....you are gonna meet people in your life that you can probably live with...but you need to marry the one that you CAN"T live without. now the thing is to figure out WHO that is. ;)

Shop - I hope you're feeling better :hug:

Jerzy - I've only had one massage in my life and that was while I was in Maui with my sister. Gosh it was wonderful. There was no aromatherapy that I noticed but I didn't really know what to expect. Sounds like you might do better going back to where you were enjoying your massages. Sorry about the one you got yesterday. Enjoy the rest of your spring break girlie.

Hey Sassy! it's good to see ya girlie! come and post even when you don't have much to say - that's fine. We just want you here. When I don't post it's simply bec I'm too dang busy to get in here or to read thru the posts OR to do personals. But I miss everybody when I'm not in here. that's cute about your user name. Sounds like you picked a "fitting one" for yourself if it found you at work too ;)

ok gang well I've got to get to work.
hope everybody has a blessed day!
hugs,
Cathy

Morning chickies!

I am feeling much more myself today, I just decided that being confused and freaked out was just gonna be part of this huge change I'm making in my life and not to fight it so much.

Sassy - :lol: you are the queen of Sassy! How funny that you coworkers picked your username up without knowing it! Haha... I'm glad you shared that... Too funny.

Francie - :hug: How are you doing today? I've been thinking about you, and worrying if you are OK. PCOS is a pretty big, daunting diagnosis. Remember we are here for you (even when some of us go off the deepend from time to time - who, me?!?). Take care sweetie.

Jerzy - I'm sorry your 'ssage was not the relaxation you needed. My massage therpist moved from aromatherapy oils to lotions this year, and its just not the same :( Fooey.

Cathy - that is beautiful advice, thank you! And the best part of it is, only time will tell, no? So there's no point getting all worked up right now. The teens you work with must adore you!

Joanne - thank you! :hug: I am sorry you are feeling down, but I'm glad you came in here to say hi!

Leenie - you zoom, I putter. Haha. :hug: have a good day.

Heather, Buddly-bud, Hope, and all - how is your day?

:grouphug: love you all!

Well..I'm feeling better emotionally. I dunno..yesterday I thought dh was disppointed in me. We had talked and everything the night before and he said he was feeling optimistic about everything..but he ignored me all day yesterday. I was like wtf is going on?!?! I finally ask him what was up, and he said he was just really into the show he was watching (on his comp). So now I feel like I was just being too needy, lol. I hate being a video game & anime widow. :p I dunno though..I'm still getting weird vibes from him. He was being a jerk all through TBL, and I finally just got sick of it and told him off. I just know that once he's on leave we're gonna get into a huge fight, I can sense it coming. We were being so snippy with each other last night. We havent had a major fight in months..things have been going so good. He has duty today, so he wont be home until tomorrow morning. He's leave starts tomorrow, so we'll see how it all goes.

Physically, though I feel so out of it. Af showed up and is ruining everything. I'm just sooooooooooooooooooo tired. Last night, I sat down on the couch and was gonna read my book. Well, 20 mins later dh is all waking me up and it was like 6pm!!! I read a half a sentence..:lol: Maybe AF is making me super senstive right now??


Anyhoo..I need to go to the post office for stamps..so I'm gonna go walk on over there. I hope it doesnt start raining, lol. BBL

:wave: Hi all,

I've been slack I know about getting in here.

Shop :hug: I'm going to google PCOS and learn more about it. Good luck on the hubby situation. With AF and everything else you've been dealing with it's hard keep your emotions in check.

Joanne: Good to see you and sorry you are feeling low. It does help to come in here. It got me through last year. I hope to hear about the job today or tomorrow. Thanks for asking.

Amarie: I read your post also before you deleted it and I think that sounds so exciting. Sometimes you just can't explain things, so who cares? Ride the wave and see what happens. You have such cool times ahead of you.

Cathy: I have been walking. I did 2 miles Monday and some other stuff from exercise tv. Today is so nice I think I'll go for a walk outside. Way to go today at 5am. You are an animal.

Leenie: Hi and bye.

Sassy: We've both been a little quiet the last couple of days. Good to see you.

Jerzy: Make that $$ while you can! I don't blame you.

Buddly: I definitely understand the shopping habit. Mine comes and goes. Avoiding stores is my only safeguard.

Heather: Howz the job going?

Well, I'm going to go walk outside I think. Maybe I can clear my mind and work off a few calories.

BBL

Hi everyone!:wave:

Just a quick pop in to say Hi and I'm thinking of you all:grouphug:

Nothing new here, I've tried to do some dunging out and I have the recycling all piled in the kitchen, but my van is parked on the road so I'm waiting until "help" arrives from school to cart it all out. Its amazing how big the dust bunnies can grow behind a tin can bucket! :yikes: I should be scrubbing the tub, but I think I'll sneak off and read the book I got from the library yesterday, does reading count as exercise?:book2: Yeah, I didn't think so, one can always try tho, can't they? I don't know how some people can prop up a book or magazine and walk on their treadmills and read at the same time:chin: I get nauseous or maybe fall off!:woops:

Wow Hope you are doing great with the exercise, Good for you!!

And Cathy, I'm still amazed at you getting up at 5am! I understand, but I'm so not a morning person I can't do it, I have to do mine at night, but then I also like to shower just before bed so it works for me when I get into the habit. (I just need a :kickbutt: to get started!!)

Amarie, glad you are feeling better and I'm glad everything is working out with school, how exciting and terrifying!!

Hi Joanne, hope you feel better.:hug: Hows your son doing? I hope everything is working out for him.

Shop hope you are feeling better as well. Hormones are just nasty aren't they? Just take it easy.

sassy that's funny about your name, obviously it fits!!

Hey leenie take care of yourself. You to jerzy!

Well I should be off, I'll go put in a load of laundry and pretend to be doing something productive:sssh:

Take care everyone!
K

Hey Girls......
 

My little dancing broccoli man on my signature needs a buddy. But I am stuck stuck stuck. I've had a cold for 2 weeks and it's getting worse before it gets better. I am exhausted.

Any suggestions on exercise with this cold?

Buddly - Its exercise of the mind in my world! Was it a good book?

Hi all - I am feeling even better today. I went for my run/walk LATE last night (8:30ish) so I didn't get to bed on time, but I was able to wake up this am anyway! Well, its back to class today. Yippee! I'll stop by later.

-----> fast forward

Well, I'm back. I saw I was last post so just decided to edit. I rode my bike 4.5 miles! Ouchie ouch, but woohoo! I can't believe how out of shape I am considering all my biking/walking/running... oddly, though, that just seems to motivate rather than discourage.

Hope - :hug: Thanks! I feel silly now editing that post, since most everyone read it, but it felt like the right thing to do at the time, so I'll just roll with it. I need to stop second guessing my decisions all the time. Seriously. I am sending you happy and hopeful thoughts of a job-related variety!

Francie - aww hun. Arguments with DH can be tough (or so I've heard), and for AF to show up when arguments are starting to brew just makes it even ickier. Just keep keepin on sweetie, take care of yourself and remember that we love you!

Jerzy - the only exercise I like to do when I have a cold is walk. Preferably outside. Anything else just makes me feel ooky, but I know that light walking, etc can actually help you get over a cold faster.

Ciao girlies!

hey gang :wave:

i'm really busy today but wanted to run in and at least post that i did 2 miles this morning :cp:

hope everybody has a great day
hugs,
cathy

Hi girls,

Can't stay too long.

Cathy: :bravo: 2 miles is awesome

Amarie: :bike2: 4.5 miles, I'd have to call 911 before I started and have them meet me at my destination! :lol:

I planted flowers :flow1: today for about an hour and a half and thought I would die. I didn't plan to count it as exercise, but my heart rate was up and my legs were wobbly from the squatting. :o I took a walk after that around the 'hood for a mile.

We're going to see a free sneak preview of the movie 'Prom Night' tonight. I'm not that into scary movies, but I am into :corn: !!! Check y'all later!

Hi everyone. I'd say "hi, I'm still alive!" but at the moment that seems like an exaggeration. :( At least my boss finally admitted to me that it was unreasonable to ask me to work so hard, and the other chemistry teacher found me crying in my classroom and is going to try to make them change things. Yay? I don't know what they can do. I'm working two full-time jobs for no more than a living stipend. And there's no one else to take over any of my responsibilities, since everyone else is just as stressed out as I am.

Spring break begins next week. It can't come too soon.

Emmy - :hug: When is your contract over? You can make it through, and will come out with a much healthier sense of what kind of crappy job not to take! What they asked was unreasonable, and took advantage of you. :hug: again. And don't forget that even in the darkest days, there is always a tomorrow (OK, do I sound like Annie?) We care about you sweetie. Take care of yourself!

Hi girls,

Emmy :hug: Sorry about your situation. Maybe knowing how unhappy you are will prompt them now to make a change. I'm not sure what, maybe hire you some help or something. There has to be some solution. I'm sure nobody would be willing to take your place if you left. Thank goodness spring break is coming for you!

Well, it hasn't been a banner day for me today. I still hadn't heard from my potential job so I thought I'd take the bull by the horns and give the guy a call. I wanted to thank him for taking time to interview me and ask for any updates. I called late in the day and got him on the phone but I could hear other people so I asked if it was a bad time. He said it was and took my number to call me back... but he didn't. Like I said it was late and he was in a meeting so part of me figured he wouldn't call back till Monday. Humph...:?: I'm not getting a good feeling at all about this. I had emailed the initial lady I interviewed with to ask a question and she didn't return my email. Oh well...
I was trying to avoid stressing out over it all weekend but I see that won't happen.

I also got some test results back from my dr. I have some irregular cells according to my yearly pap test so I need to see a gyno for futher tests. I'm trying not to worry b/c it usually isn't serious, but it will be in the back of my mind till I know for sure. Also my cholesterol is high, not astronomical, but high. :( So I guess I officially now have a negative health effect from my overeating, besides the day to day annoyance and fatigue. I'm fighting it, but I can feel my anxiety creeping in...

One bright spot of the day is we have 2 new additions to the family: 2 Japanese Chin puppies. Cute as buttons. They are about 3 months old. :love:

Sorry so much about me and probably TMI. How are the rest of you?

Definitely not TMI! Thanks for the honesty. That's why this thread is here! :listen:

The waiting games are hard and definitely don't help moods. So you're waiting to hear from a job and waiting to hear from the gyn. YUCK!

But HOORAY on the pups! Pictures??

Hang in there....and, please, I think this is the best place to let it all hang out.

We're all doing the same!!! ;)

Hi everyone!

Thank goodness its Friday, but we have a busy Sat ahead of us. C has a little judo tournament with her club. She has to be there for 9am as she is going to help with scorekeepping with the little ones and then she gets three matches of her own. Plus A got a call today for a job interview tomorrow at 2pm. Thankfully my mum has the day off and is planning on comming up to watch C fight, in case she isn't done when I have to get A into town. (Hubby has to work and isn't sure what time he will make it back)

emmy :hug: I hope things are better after spring break. Take care of yourself.

Hope :hug: I'm sorry you have't heard anything about the job yet. I've also been told my cholesterol is to high. I've been trying to make changes, but who knows. Two puppies!!Wow! I'll have to look up Japanese Chin. Congratulations!! They will sure keep you so busy!

Hi everyone else!! Hope you have a great weekend!

I'm off to bed,
Take care all,
K

Hi Ladies.
 

Hi Ladies :hug: Happy Saturday

Sorry I havent had time to post much lately but know I am reading ALL your posts.

Got a busy day today....cleaning, karate, school fair... :faint: LOL.

Heather :hug:

Hope you all have a great weekend and don't forget its the 1st 3FC's marathon today and tomorrow... you can still join in ya know and do it any way you can.

;)

Hi Chicks!