Chick Chat ~ April 7 - 13
 

Good Morning Gang :wave:

How is everybody doing this fine day? :carrot:

I had a really busy weekend...cleaned house all day on Saturday and then went to a wedding that our oldest son was in, then sunday school and church yesterday and worked on our taxes yesterday afternoon. I'm feeling like the lady in the commercial where the guy asks if she knows what time it is and she freaks and says YES she knows what time it is, taxes are due in less than 2 weeks. dang, they are due in a week now. but I've got ours done and in the mail today so that feels better. ;)

Hope - you asked if I'm still doing Leslie Sansone's walk videos.....well, i've taken a big ole break last month with going to Maui and then to Colorado, but I'm planning to get up early tomorrow morning and get myself back in gear. are you walking?

Leenie - I hope everything is ok girlie. I totally understand being overwhelmed. great big hugs my dear friend! :hug:

what's everybody up to today? I'm at work of course so I better get to it.

hope everybody has a blessed day!

hugs,
Cathy

Cross-posted in the last weekly chat thread, since it's a reply to that thread.

Originally Posted by jerzygal:
It worries me for a number of reasons: 1. Looking back on these heavy days and thinking people were disappointed in me.

I know - this sucks. I know that my family members are disappointed in me for being heavy, and I get their approval by losing weight. I think in general, though, people have more positive reasons for commenting on your weight loss.

1. People want to help! If you are trying to lose weight, having people say you're doing well is probably their way of encouraging you, of saying, "Look at you! You're succeeding in your goal!" I would say it's a lot like being congratulated on doing a good job at work, or getting a good grade in a hard class that's important to you. They don't mean that they were disappointed in you before, just that they're proud of you now.

2. A lot of people wish they had the self control to do what you're doing! Think of the goal threads we have here at 3FC where people post their triumphs and their photos. Those threads fill up with congratulations from those of us who are inspired by their progress. I don't congratulate people in those threads because I think they're somehow "better" now than they were before. I congratulate them because they've achieved something huge, and I'm trying to do the same, so I really am inspired by their progress. And it feels good to know you've inspired someone, right?

Originally Posted by :
2. Fear of gaining the weight again and being a further disappointment.

Oh gosh, I've been here, too. The last time I managed to lose weight was my freshman year of college, when I wanted to lose the freshman 15 instead of gaining it. And I succeeded. My parents were so proud of me. All my high school friends kept saying how great I looked. It felt wonderful. And now I'm 50 pounds heavier than I was then. I'm afraid to face those same high school friends who thought I looked so great. My grandmother told me she expected I would never look as good as I looked then. And of course, my grandmother added that I'd never find a man (I did, by the way).

I don't know how to explain this one, or what to say to make you feel better, except that I understand. We've all been there. We'd all like to be losing weight just for ourselves, to be healthier, a smaller size, fitter, less risk of disease, yada yada yada. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. But deep down I think we all care what people think of us, and we're all terrified of being the "fat chick." I know that's true of me. And I'm terrified of the look on my parents' faces if I don't manage to reach my goal, or if I gain all the weight back.

That's why I have every intention of keeping the weight off and changing my whole life. And I'll be perfectly honest with you - I'm trying to use my desire for approval as a motivating force for good in my life. It's probably not a particularly healthy motivation, but the fact is I want my mom and grandmother to think that I'm beautiful. I want to be the one in my family who managed to lose weight and keep it off. And I really, really want it! So maybe that desire can help me achieve the goals that I already have for myself. Maybe. And maybe it will end up sabotaging me, but for now, I'm just trying to get the weight off and not worry about my motivations to do so. :)

cathy - MAN does it feel good to have my taxes mailed in! I'm only 22 and this is my first year on my own as an independent (I graduated from college last May), so I'd never filed taxes before. Yikes! It took me six hours to figure it all out! It'll be easier next year since I will have done it all before, and since I wrote down a bunch of information that I needed to have and spent hours looking up! It probably also feels good to have all that cleaning done, huh? I did my spring cleaning on Saturday, too, and it feels amazing. My floors are mopped, my rugs vacuumed, my sheets cleaned and my bed made, and ALL my laundry. Towels, bathrobe, clothes, winter outerwear. Everything! YAY! Except now I have to put all that laundry away . . .

Is this the new chat thread?? It says March? I'm confused..lol

emmyroo, thanks for your feedback. It's helpful to hear other people's experiences and ways of getting around the fears.

Cathy, taxes! oh yeah. gotta get on that!

I am on Spring Break this week. Was supposed to go to New Orleans but the airline went out of business. Crap!

It's good to have the week at home, though, doing laundry, dishes, (taxes!), and I've been spending most of the time this weekend and today watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer and working. I am helping a friend start a website so I can make a lot of money this week working on it!

Sure, it's not a trip to New Orleans, but there are more things to do around here!

Amarie, Thanks for your replies to my last posts. I like what you said about disappointments in life. I also think my family is looking for a quick fix to my depression and think losing weight will do it. But, 15 pounds ago in high school, things weren't much better.

Francie, Thanks for the cute avatars. I am surprised that my family believes that dating is dependent on looks. I am 25 and have never been the dating type. There are other ways to finding a mate and I guess they just haven't had that experience.

hope4me, I will try to get my thinking around just accepting that their opinion of me should not be my opinion of me. "There are thousands of happy and fulfilled people who need to lose weight." That really resonates. Thanks.

emmyroo, I want to thank you again. Your words were helpful and honest and just the kind of thing I need right now.

(side note: how do I quote part of a post without cutting and pasting?)

Thanks all!!!

sorry - I don't know if i'm coming or going - this should have said April rather than March. but doesn't it feel like March to y'all? now really? doesn't it? LOL LOL LOL

I'll see if I can get Leenie to fix it.
sorry bout that folks!

Leenie - THANKS for fixing the month on the thread!!!!!!
hugs,
Cathy

All fixed LOLOL ;)

I had a doc appointment today..

I basically just had my annual "you know what". I'll get my results from that soon. However, I finally got my blood test results. I have traces of PCOS. She said she could put me on fertility drugs..but she'd rather have me go to the infertility clinic. I'm having more testing done as well.

I figured I had it..but its disappointed to know, now that its been confirmed...I dunno..I just need to take it all in still. I feel like crying though..

I'm gonna go lay down for a little while. Be back laters.

Hello everyone!:wave:

And yes Cathy, it does feel like march! Its 3pm and only 8*C thats about 47*F All be it the "lake" at the end of the driveway is growing so it must be spring:sunny:I'm kind of scared to drive out tonight in case I get stuck again. Hopefully hubby will be home before I leave and can use his big tires to break up the build up before I take my mini van out.

The time sure is flying now B has her prom on the 19th and then I guess only a month and a half and they will be done. And I too have to get started on the taxes, but at least I have until the 30th.

Heather, congrats on the job!! Good for you. I hope things are getting much better for you :hug:

Shop, :hug: Hope you feel better after your lie down. My oldest daughter(20) was diagnosed with pcos when she was 16, it has made her weight become an issue the poor thing. Good luck to you :hug:

jerzy I'm sorry your family is so unsupportive :hug: You keep looking after you for you and I'm sure when and if you want someone else in your life, I'm sure they will find you and love you no matter what the packaging looks like!

Hope have you heard anything about the job yet? My fingers are still crossed for you:crossed: Oh and yes my mum still works at A and W. She has a shopping habit that she has to keep paying for;) She gets a lot of great deals, but she sure buys a lot of things she doesn't really need. At the kidney clinic they were happy that her kidney function had only decreased to 33% from 39% last August so that keeps her in stage three. I sure learned a lot from being involved especially since they informed me that because of my health history I'm at very real risk of being in the same place and I should talk to my doctor about seeing the specialist as well.

Hi emmy, leenie, Sassy, liz and everyone else!:wave:

We had a nice quiet weekend just stayed home. Gas took another jump so it seemed like a great idea (we are up to $1.26/l so that is roughly $5.04/gal) A only has tomorrow left of this semester at uni and then just her exams, so that will save me a lot of driving. Until she finds a job of course, but then she can pay for gas so all is good :) I got to bake some bread this weekend. It was nice doing it from scratch as I usually use the bread maker. Now everyone wants me to make some buns as I use half of the recipe to make cinnamon rolls. It always makes the house smell so nice.

Anyway B and C just go home from school and I still need to finish a few things.
Take care everyone!:grouphug:
K

Oh my goodness ladies! I have missed you so. So much to tell, but I need sleep and will come back tomorrow to tell all.

No fair Amarie, I thought I was about to read a good story and you just decide to go to bed. :D Actually I need to do the same.

I'll catch up tomorrow with everyone.

By the way, you should check out the 3FC 5k this weekend under the Weight Loss Support thread. The post is Angie Leaves Ezmoney. You can walk, run, bike, or crawl wherever you are. Looks fun and they need more to sign up.

:wave: Sweeties

Been a wild few weeks. Nothing much else is happening cept life keeping me running lol. Hope everyone has a great day.

Heather :hug:

Love you girls :hug:

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good morning gang :wave:

I didn't get up as early as I should have this morning and was only able to do one quick and fast mile before getting ready for work, but at least it's a start in getting myself back into gear. ;)

anybody else exercising?

Leenie -I totally understand being busy. I sure hope it slows down a little for you soon.....but that just wouldn't be normal now would it ;) hugs!

Buddly - I can't even believe it's that cold where you are brrrrrrrrrrr you need to come live in Louisiana and warm up ;)

Hope, Amarie, Shop, Jerzy, Emmy - how is everybody doing today? what are y'all up to?

I gotta get back to work.... hope everybody has a blessed day!
hugs,
Cathy