Skinny Husband....?
 

Do any of you have skinny husbands or boyfriends?

My husband is thin and attractive,
and "cute" skinny girls hit on him all the time :(
I am Lumpy and pale and not exactly graceful
I get hit on by old skeevy men....ack!

I know he loves me but I wonder why he's with me, I was fat when I met him in highschool-I'm still Obese...I've always had the feeling that people look at us and think we look like some odd sex change version of Laural and Hardy...I mean do we look comically hillarious to other people?

He's all....=Happy= all the time, and I'm manic-depressive....

I'm doing pretty good mentally, but this is one of the main reasons I want to lose weight...so I can be the other half of an attractive couple.

:) :) :) Hi, I don't have a skinny husband. But I know this with all my years of experience. I was much thinner 21 years ago when my husband and I got together. He fell in love with the person inside. Who cares what other people think about the way the two of you look. What do they mean in your life? Are people who judge you by the outside important in your life? They are not in mine. Sure I want to look good. But I want to live to see my 19 y/o have kids and my 4 y/o graduate from college. Your health is the most important thing. Keep that in mind.
Take care,
Sharon

Oh yeah... skinny go lucky DH... yep I've got one and thank God. He keeps me smiling when I really need it the most.

Don't question his love for you, just accept it and give him a big ol hug.

:hug:

yup! I have a skinny husband but, not until recently, he lost 90lbs with my help and he's tall and I am short. When we met we were both thin and gradualy both of us gained about a 100lbs. each but, I got sick, he got scared and dropped all the weight but, he loves me and so does your husband . We are luckey but, we need to get healthy for them too! Good luck.

Thanks guys, I'm trying to get healthy.
I'm just trying to deal with my feelings of being really lame in comparison to the one I love, I feel like I don't deserve any one liking me
-let alone Loving me.

Bah! my thinking is so screwed up.

one problem with dieting is that my husband really likes junk food, which is fine, also I need to cook healthy but I need to cook him very high calorie food otherwise he loses weight he has a REALLY fast metabolism.
He eats a ton and he still doesn't gain weight. (I'm talking like 4 hamburgers)
while the doctor says he is healthy but should gain weight he only weighs 125 and he's 5'8 and I make him protein shakes.

The hard thing about this is cooking separate meals and not being tempted to eat fattening things that he needs.

It's hard, but I am doing good.:)

boy do I know what youmean, my husband is skinny too. I also have to2 growing teenagers( one a 17 y/o boy) who eats everything! lots of crap and calorie filled foods. as much of a pain the butt it is i cook seperate sometimes. i find i am tempted to just eat what the eat because its easier(i make up a lot of excuses to cheat and justify my actions). its a daily struggle. i have no doubt you husband loves you. experience has tought me that if you try to lose weight for anyone but yourself its usually doomed

Funny you should say this. My hubby and I were just talking about this over the weekend. He and I both gained weight after we met like most people. We have both gone up and down and he has even gained pots of muscle from weight training. (I am one of those weird women that love big muscle guys) I told him that I have not even noticed that he doens't look like that anymore. he still looks to me like he did that day I met him, if not better. He said that he feels the same way. Even though my clothes have gotten bigger so has his love for me. He really didnt' know that I was gaining until I told him.

My DH is skinny. When we started dating, he was around 150, he went up to 155 while we were dating and then I started improving our food choices. He slowly started losing weight and now he is in the 130s and he is 5'10". It makes me sick :) He has a higher metabolism than me so he is always snacking and I provide him with healthy snacks as well as the meals we share. He loves peanuts as well as peanut butter which are items I control heavily for myself but not for him. We also exercise together as well as go hiking together.

I used to feel a bit self concious around him but he loves me and I think we are a good match.

My BF is a relatively new relationship (8 mos)....He's 6'5" and weighs less than 230#....he's a sugar ADDICT and can eat anything he wants most times.... I'm 5'5" and small framed, I have to fight for every ounce I lose....

about 1 month into the relationship I broke the news to him that I COULD NOT eat like that (unless he wanted to put me on a hand-truck because I'd gain 100# in the next month)!
BUT, I've put the fear of High fat diet into him, CAD and elevated cholesterol levels.....it works about 50% of the time....

Nelie, my dh is the same way! He is like 140-145! and 5'10 He is very active and muscular and I do my best to provide nutritious food for him and he gets more treats then I do. :D

My husband is NOT skinny, but he is always being hit on (especially grocery stores and asian restaurants). My husband is about 6'3" and has a "viking-biker," appearance, and is very outgoing and charming, with everyone, but expecially kids. Something about his smile makes you want to get to know him, and women will flirt with him in my presence (I think they figure I'm no competition). Part of it, I think, is because he loves little kids, he'll smile and talk to a little kid, and if mom's single she'll just be infatuated with him.

A couple times young asian waitresses also were infatuated with him (he thinks it's the sumo wrestler physique). One very pretty young girl when she was serving us tea, asked if we were "brother and sister," when David said, no this is my wife, she actually looked disappointed and said "oh!"

Even though hubby gets all the attention from the opposite sex, he is the one that is insecure. When we met, I was earning more, have a master's degree, and lived a typical "good girl" life. He didn't finish college, didn't have a professional job, and while he'd never gotten into any legal trouble (mostly because of luck) he'd lived a pretty rowdy life when he was younger. He is always telling me how he can't understand why I'm with him. I'm flattered that he thinks that I could have any man I wanted, and doesn't understand why I chose him - but it does go to show there isn't always any logic behind those feelings.

I might sound a bit old fashioned....because I am I think the answer is simply...he is totally in love with you...that is the beautiful thing about love its loves you unconditionally...my husband is a studmuffin.. I don't care if he's skinny, or fat as long as I have him in my life that is all that matters and as far as what other people think..who cares....life is simply to short...your man sounds like a really keeper...celebrate you and good luck on all your goals. ;)

>_< Darn guys and their super fast metabolisms.

I felt the same way...or still do feel the same way...not worthy of my boyfriend's love and being so much bigger than him...but it' my goal to catch up with him and *maybe* surpass him!

Cheer up! He is with you for reason, because you are an amazing person, I bet! And even if he can eat a bajillion pizzas, you should stick to your healthy diet and make YOURSELF happy with your weight!

I used to think I was doing it for my boyfriend, but I was really wrong. If you're unhappy, it'll make the weight loss that much more longer and grueling...just be happy you can be with him and hug and enjoy your time together! And don't take that for granted!

Be happy! I'm sure he wants you to be!

Yup, Skinny husband. If we start easting healthier he gets skinnier. He is super active and all muscle too, maybe thats why they don't like itty bitty chicks, who knows LOL. He married me chubby and hasn't said a thing about my appearance since gaining more. Heck he went through two pregnancies with me. I always think it is weird that I am heavier than him but he doesn't seem to. Your not alone :) There are lots of us out there.

My husband is not skinny (about 175) but he is fit. I often wonder what people think when they look at us too. :?:

My husband was a chubby kid...and then our freshman year of high school shot up to 6'4...he was 150. You could literally see his ribs. He has since gained about 90 pounds and 2 inches and he is STILL skinny! He has gained much of this weight since we started dating/got married, so he has started weight watchers with me. He is not really looking to lose much, but get into better shape and lose the little pudge he has developed.

My sister in law actually didn't want him to marry me because of my weight. She said she didnt understand our relationship because he was so good looking and I was, well...fat. Luckily my DH isn't as shallow as she is and we live a wonderful happy life.

But, yes, I understand how you feel having a skinny husband. I feel the same way you do.

Body Image is a very funny thing. My DH is tall he has recently put on some weight (30 ish pounds) when we started dating forever ago he was super skinny and I was a 14 and I thought I was Blimptastic. He's also a firefighter (volunteer) I Have a disability. I'm sure people look at us and Wonder (People are AMAZED I have a normal life) Those People Are Jerks and probably more insecure than you are. All that matters is that you love each other To heck with anyone else and for those skinny witches hitting on your hubby Tell the bonebags to back off he doesn't want to cut himself on their collarbones!
Kierie

I am with all of you. My hubby is 6'4" and stays between 180-200. I get insecure at times. That's one of the reasons I want to lose the weight. I know he loves me for me....we have a ton of fun together.....but it's hard to be around skinny chicks and not feel weird.

He thinks it's silly I want to lose weight because he thinks I'm fine just the way I am. But as it starts coming off he sees how much hotter his wife could be and gets into it as much as I do. He has watched me go up and down and has stuck with me through it all.

I know he only has eyes for me. So I want to give him something awesome to look at!

I know the feeling.. my boyfriend and I actually met when I was at my highest.. boy oh boy those are days I do NOT remember fondly. Between that and the clothes he always saw me in (We both worked at Wendys, at the uniforms are not the most fashionable things) Ive always wondered what the **** attracted him to me!

And I know he loves me for who I am, but like ItsAboutTime, I feel akward when I'm around him and thinner, prettier girls. Ive always been intimidated by those I think of as prettier than I am, but thankfully this is starting to go away!

My husband is 6"4 and about 220. When we go out, some people ask if I'm his sister. I was 275 when we met, and now I'm 340. He tells me he fell in love with how beautiful I am inside and that he could care less what size I am, as long as I love myself. He gets hit on all the time. Hes tall, dark, and handsome with beautiful brown eyes. I know how lucky I am to have a man with such a good heart. We've been together 5 years now, and NOW when we go out, I LOVE it when the skinny girls see that he's mine, even though they give me the, "why is HE with YOU" look, I give them the "because I'm better than you in the kitchen AND in the bed" look...skinny biatches..eat your heart out

My husband is a power lifter, he spends at least 12 - 15 hrs. each week in the gym. He, ofcourse can eat anything he wants to. He could lose 20 lbs. in a week if he needed too. This just kills me.

My husband can barely stay at 130--he looks like he is starving most of the time even though he eats like a horse! I used to be a size 4 just 3 years ago so we looked good together but now I am a size 14 or something (too depressed to go shopping). Amazing how a baby can pretty much just ruin your body. Well, at least now I feel sick enough to do something about it!!

My husband is thin, upbeat, and just an all around happy guy. Myself, on the other hand... I'm heavy and I tend to be depressed/anxious. I totally relate to your original post, Neko (may I call you that? :D). So many times, when I see the two of us in a mirror, I stop and I wonder so many things (which tend to be depressing, sadly) - yet my husband loves me dearly. I know it and believe it 100%. It gets tough and confusing though, doesn't it? I know I battle with these feelings regularly. It's so hard to let it go... but it's nice to know I'm not alone on this one.

By the way, cute icon! Totoro, right? :) I wonder if you're an anime fan~?

And DRAFTROBIN... haha, you're absolutely brilliant!! I hope I have that kind of self esteem some day!

My DH is 6 ft. and 175 lbs. When we met I weighed 210 lbs. and he weighed 150 lbs. My wt. continued to go up and his did a little, but not near as bad as mine. He is very muscular and has a 9% bodyfat. He can eat anything he wants and stays slender. I have definitely had other women flirt with him even when I'm standing right beside him. He is very personable and usually doesn't even recognize that he's being hit on. The thing that upset me the most was that prior to losing weight, I had women assume he was my Son. I know that he loves me no matter what my weight and always will. I lost my weight for my health and not particularly for him. I am very familiar with that "what's he doing with you" look. It used to happen to me a lot. When we were at a club once and were doing a line dance, another woman traded spots so she could dance next to him, and then grabbed his butt . He immediately told her to keep her hands off him. It's a good thing, I'd hate to have had to go to jail.

I can so identify though with the insecurity of feeling like "he's so great-looking why is he with me". Losing weight has given me more confidence and I don't worry about this anymore. I really never had any reason to think like that to start with and neither should you. Your DH is with you because he loves you or he wouldn't be there. Hugs.

I have a husband and a daughter who are both thin. They can pretty much eat whatever they want and not gain weight. My husband was sick for awhile last year, and the medicine the dr put him on made him gain a little weight. After he was healthy again, he decided to lose the weight. All he did was cut back on his milk consumption-he lost 12 pounds in 3 weeks. Sometimes enough to make me hate him! Not really, of course, but it makes it difficult living with these 2. They love junk food and it's hard to get it out of the house. But they love me.. That's what counts.

I've had the oposite problem before, which I almost found to be more difficult. It was at a time when I was very thin (Like 110) and my boyfriend at the time was almost 200 lbs (And very short). I would have rather been the heavy one, because of how depressed it would make him. He was constantly "Why are you with me?" or "I'm not sexy" or "Why don't you date one of those hot guys?" as a result, I'd feel bad, and then he'd feel more bad, and it's a vicious cycle.

I think we need to stop putting guilt in our relationships. Love is love is love. Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman or man can wear, whether they're 110 or 310. Lets stop the guilt and start loving ourselves!

My fiancee is 6' tall and 173lbs. He was in the 180's, but he's decided to lose his body fat and bulk up on muscle. I was in the 130's when I met him & now I'm bigger than him! Such a horrible feeling.

My Hunney is thin, very attractive and tall. He also gets hit on by "cute skinny girls". I am short, unattractive and not thin. i always felt the same as you, like I was disgusting and didn't deserve to be loved and would laugh and say, "Yeah right!" when he'd say I was sexy. You know what he said to me? He said, "How do I see you with my eyes?" I said I didn't know. He told me not to tell him how he feels then. There are a lotta jerks in the world who judge people by how they look instead of who they are, but there are a few that know what's INside is what matters and your insides make your outsides beautiful to them. I'm guessing your guy, like mine, is one of those kinda people. Don't lose weight because you think you need to look better for someone else, you need to lose it for YOU. Your husband obviously loves you just the way you are since you were heavy when you met, so lose it because YOU want to look and feel better and be more healthy. Good Luck!

Ok..this is going to sound really dysfunctional but my ex fiancee now boyfriend lol.. * I broke up with him about 9 months ago and now were are working it out*

Anyways.. he is 6'4 and 198lbs.. here I am 5'4 and 160 lbs lol.. he follows my eatting patterns so I have too be like no baby.. you HAVE to eat MORE because hes trying to gain while I am trying to lose, but we eat healthy so he has to eat more healthy stuff so he can gain.. its hilarious.. but arent we just the cutest? This picture was actually Jan of 06 but we havent changed much

http://i16.tinypic.com/2usuaus.jpg

dang.. lol big pic.. my bad hehe.. and I even have on heels in this picture.. I love it though because despite the fact that hes thin.. he makes me feel little

mine is. i think we weigh the same :( and im like a whole foot shorter. gross i know . but im trying. he has never said anything though. he motivates me because i want to . but if i say i want a burger he's the first to scarf one down with me. he reminds me weight isnt anything in life and not to take it too seriously. he loves me no matter what , i think i just dont love myself enough sometimes. im the chubby one and he's more worried about someone hitting on me . :) so that makes me feel good. i got a keeper too. P.s it used to bother me a lot , i mean a lot . his family used to call us tamon and pumba . guess who i was. :(

Ready, you guys are such a cute couple! :) :) :)

It's a little different for me since I date women, but my g/f is thin as a rail, and it makes me very self-conscious. She's gorgeous and she's naturally built like that, but I'm still jealous!

I've dated men in the past and they've been smaller than me, too. ****, it's not too hard to be smaller than I am! :rofl:

My husband is 6'2" and his weight fluctuates between 190-210. He is at my goal weight!!! LOL He weighed about 160 when I met him 6 years ago... he was too skinny, but I fed him well and he started working some hard labor jobs and built up muscle. He's pretty solid, but not very toned; right now he seems to be working on building his beer gut, which worries me... but he has a long way to go to be "fat"

This is such a hard topic for me - hard to even write about here. I've been married 12.5 years to a man who is very attractive - even though he has put on about 30lbs since we married, it seems to work for him. Me? I've put on 100lbs since we married. Depression? You bet. Low self-esteem? Every day.

BUT - my husband does NOT love me like this. He HATES it. He doesn't speak out much about it anymore (he used to, believe me) but neither is he attracted to me. I've tried to lose weight, and I've lost some and gained it again... and again... and again!

This time - I have other reasons to keep at it. My marriage may not last, but by god, I am going to like myself - I AM! (I'm going to keep telling myself that until *I* believe it!!)

Big hugs, honey -
Heather

Dear Heather Angel
 

I was very overweight in high school and didn't have my first boyfriend until my freshman year in college. That didn't go so well, but I didn't have that relationship model to fall back on. I lost alot of weight when I was with the first guy, but my self-esteem was so low I thought that it was how I deserved to be treated. Inside, I still saw myself as someone unworthy of love. Fast forward nine years or so, and I was still having that problem.

Just since last October or so, I've been able to concentrate on what I want and who I am. I have come up with the "icing on the cake theory." The cake in and of itself is enough - it's completely wonderful on its own. My life is fulfilling enough to stand on its own. Anything else, well ...that's just icing on the cake :) !

Your husband is being an idiot. If he was concerned about the health risks of being overweight and helped you work toward your goal ... that's one thing. But after putting thirty pounds on himself and then chiding you for "letting yourself go (I HATE THAT PHRASE!!!), he needs to stop throwing stones at glass houses.

Ultimately, are you better off with him or without him ????

My fiance is about 6'3" and 130 pounds. He is soo skinny! And the worst part is he can eat anything. He ate a whole bag of those deep fried tacos from Jack in the Box and a milk shake last night, after we already had dinner. If I ate even half of that I would be as big as an ox the next morning. Ha.
The worst part is he's really had a negative effect on my eating habits because he eats all this junk and it doesn't do anything to his weight, so then I eat it too.
I am determined this time to change my eating habits, but it's hard because he hates eating anything even remotely healthy. Not that I don't.
But anyway, your original post about skinny husbands was right on for my situation...

I don't how my boy does it -- it seems like he eats triple what I do, we're the same height, and he's at least 40 lbs less. (And somehow, despite that desk job, SOLID muscle.) The first few months we were together I gained weight, partially because of his cooking (and portion!) habits. I keep explaining to him now that it's physiology 101 -- I CAN'T eat like a guy, and I don't need to.

We got into an argument a few weeks ago because he says "calories in vs. calories out" isn't true and that, and I quote, "calories don't matter" and won't make you gain weight, so long as you eat healthily. He's incredibly smart and yet sometimes so ignorant. :dizzy: His super-fast metabolism + clean eating habits means he's never had to do any reading on the subject, so I guess I forgive him. I'm having a harder time forgiving him for being able to lose that 10 lbs of stomach pudge in a couple weeks without any serious effort though. :p

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