Melissa- When im not at work im at home so I dont fix it then. I hate straightening it. Its a big ball of frizz if I dont. Ive had short hair alot and I just feel better with it.

OMG. I am fighting back the tears. My husband already heard from the claims adjuster. The car is defininitly totalled. He said the car did an excellent job of absorbing the impact and he said my son must be feeling pretty bad from an impact of that severity. I think we are very, very lucky that everybody was okay in this accident, including the other driver. I am just stunned at the thought of how close we came to losing our son. My husband is so traumatized by the whole thing he wants to take the insurance money and send him back to a college dorm so he won't need to drive anymore. There are days when children are truly gut wrenching.

Heather - Do what you want....but just remember how I am ALWAYS right ;) LOL!

Terapet - I'm so sorry to hear about the accident...I'm glad everyone is okay! :hug:


Alrighy.....for those of you actually about to read the rest of this message here is my disclaimer....PLEASE DON'T GET MAD....this is just a suggestion.....

It does seem like when we all slack off it is around the same time...and we slack off together...usually in the middle of a challenge. Here is another "Melissa Theory" as to why it happens



I think many of us come to this site for not only support but to be pushed and for accountability. Lets face it.....when we come here and NO ONE else is getting in their workouts or eating on plan or losing weight......we don't seem to have the pushed part or the accountability part....so we figure...no one else is on plan and losing weight this week....so why should I...no one will notice if I don't pull my weight this week.....


Think about it...what do ya think? Remember....this is all in just trying to figure out the why behind "Why do we slack in the middle of a challenge?"

i weighed myself today. i was at 199.2. i am very excited about that. i didn't make the 2 pounds i don't think. i weighed myself last thursday at 199.8 and then 202.8 on saturday. i didn't do it on friday. anyway. i know i didn't do well this week, i didn't exercise much at all, compared to what i normally do. eating not so good either.

i have just felt like crap. i went to the doctor on wednesday and i do not have a bladder infection, so that is good. she did blood work to see if i am pregnant. i just got the call and i am very sad :(.... it was negative, yet again. i was really thinking that is what it was, i am still nauseated etc. anyway, when i had the test done, i would have only have been 10 days into it. so she did tell me that even if it was negative, i could still be. i was just hoping for a positive. i think i am done with all of this. i have had enough negative tests to last me a lifetime. i am tired of the way the meds make me feel.

now... for the rest of the day i will do my best not to eat, because that is what i do when i feel like this. i am going to keep reminding myself that i am under 200 and i want to keep going,

So... If this is the case, who's going to volunteer to be completely on plan and be the diet police? :) You know the one who won't cut the rest of us any slack?

Edit: I changed to diet police, I didn't realize *n*a*z*i would be edited out.

I am down one pound for the week, which I feel pretty good about since I didn't have my mental breakthrough until Tues/Wed. I'm right before TOM, so hoping when we weigh in on the 17th that I will be down an additional 2 lbs for my goal for the current challenge.

That said, things have been going well with eating for me--at least the latter part of this week. I'm trying to stay busy, writing what I eat down, and thinking about why I want to eat, and trying to make good decisions about what I do eat. Water intake has been spot on, and for the most part, this is not an issue. Exercise has been pretty good. I did miss on Tuesday, but I am super busy that day, so I'm moving much more that day, and hopefully that offset the missing of formal exercise.

I think you may be right, Melissa, when I am struggling I often see others struggling as permission, almost, to keep messing up. I have this going on with a RL friend, as well as my online ones here. If she can't do it, then I can't, why even try, type thinking. Again--it's in the mind. Starts with the negative way I (we) speak to myself. It's not something I can solve overnight. It takes conscious, deliberate change. The old way: the negative talk, the eating without thinking, is easy; it's habit; it's automatic. Change is work--hard work. But if I want to lose weight and keep it off, it is work that is vital.

Don't get me wrong--I don't think we should stop talking about our struggles--that's what support is about, and why this group is so important. I have to change the way I react to them, and not allow myself to self-sabotage. I thought it was very cool the way Purple built on my post about the way I struggle with what to do when I want to eat because of something I'm feeling. Then Melissa added more, as did others. That helps. I need to do more of that--see each post about a struggle as a problem to solve--think, 'Okay, if it were me in that situation, what would I do? What have I done in that situation? How would I handle it differently?' That way I can use the post as a learning experience rather than a reason to hit the frig. Does this make sense? I know what I'm trying to say, but not sure it's coming out right?

Tetra--so glad your boy is okay! I have a college aged son, so it really hit home for me.

This is all very well said.... :bravo: Thanks :D

I'm not trying to be mean or hurt anyone's feelings or anything like that...I'm really trying to see if we can all get over this hump....I think Jenny is right....this should be a place of comfort where we can come with our struggles....BUT.....not just come here and say okay I admitted i'm struggling with it and so that makes it okay and just keep doing it.....NO come here and say okay this is what I'm struggling with...get some advice and try it.....keep trying to overcome obstacles.....


Hmm....LOL...good point....maybe we could take turns? Maybe whoever wins the weigh in for the week gets to push everyone for the next week.... So winning a weigh in would hopefully motivate you to stay on plan...plus you can't really come here and "police" everyone and try to get them to stay on plan if you aren't doing it yourself....i guess...I mean you can always give support....

I don't know...maybe we can "list" our intentions for the day or week or something like that......you know if everyone is coming on here saying...."Today I'm gonna do X minutes on the treadmill....etc etc" Then we may all feel compelled to set goals and stick with them...

Also, I think we should ALL STOP just logging on and simply saying...."ate like crap today and didn't work out" That just sounds like okay I am NOT on plan and I don't care and I'm not going into specifics.....

Instead if they were specific......like what caused you to not eat well today or work out.....is it a habit or was it a one time deal that you have control over....

I don't know.....I'm just trying to think of a way to help us all get on track....seriously don't want to offend or anything....PLEASE know that I'm just trying to help :hug:

So, there are 4 more days in this challenge......

My goal for the next four days is to just stay on plan -

#1. Eat 1500 - 1700 calories per day
#2. Log food and exercise in my blog
#3. Exercise at least 1 hour a day for the next 4 days
#4. Drink at least 20 ounces of water a day
#5. Set goals for the next challenge


I think that is good for now. Can you all believe that this challenge is almost over....that is TWO DOWN! This year is flying by so FAST! It won't be long till its over. Will you meet the goals you set? I'm still hoping to!

Hey everyone....I have decided to go buy a mini trampoline to put in the living room and bounce on while I watch television....a break from the old treadmill...LOL! Anywho...thought my DD would enjoy it too...and maybe even DH..

Just thought I would share...I think they are between 20-30 bucks at Wal-Mart!

Hey guys! Im baaa-aaack! I had a week off from the internt and i feel so much better abot health and my plan. journey and goals. im back down to a reasonable number... and im happier.
i think a week was what i needed just to mix things up and get on track. ive started a new.. and although it doesnt look like ive lost alot since new years.. i def have lost and gained the same 10-15 pounds like 4 times.. im back down on the lower side of life a d plan on keeping it that way!!!

ive missed a lot of pages while i was gne.. but im senidng hugs to everyone.. we can do this!!!!

We don't think you're tying to be mean. I think this is a good idea.

Today I'm going to:
eat 1600 calories, exercise for 2 hours, and clean my house.

I've really been down this week about the whole job thing. That being said, I haven't taken my saddness out on food, and I've exercised a little less than usual, and spent a lot of time on the couch watching reality tv. But I think I'm through the dark spot of it, I no longer take it personally, and am feeling hopeful.

I'm currently trying to turn this job loss into something pretty decent for me. There aren't a lot of jobs out right now in my career field, so I'm trying to be patient and continue to look without getting too disheartened. With that being said, I've now got a ton of free time (I usually worked 45 hours a week with a 2 hour daily commute, so that freed up 55 hours a week). I'm going to take this time to focus on the things I've kind of let slip in my life:

I'm going to take care of my husband, cook clean etc. , make his life easier.
I'm going to committ to a whole lot of exercise.
I'm going to train my dog and spend a lot of time with her.
I'm going to use this unstructured time to practice staying on plan-which hopefully transfers over to my unstructured weekends.
I'm going to spend some more time on me, reading, learning, quietly thinking, finding some inner peace.

I'll spend time looking for a job too, don't get me wrong, I've never been without one since I turned 17... but thankfully, with the unemployment, we don't really have to do without too much.

Welcome back faux!!! We have certainly missed you.

ive been reading some of the stuff about how we are all kind of dragging each other down and i beleive it!! we need to pull each other up! and we can do it!! we all have the same goals and the same want for it and WE CAN DO IT!!! We are strong, healthy ladies and we have THE POWER! hehe
We really do. its time to shock our bodies and watch thoe scales go down.

i know that so many of us have had some crazy stuff going pn in our lives and the Last thing we want to do is workout and stay on plan with food.. but we know deep down that even 20 mins of excersive will clear our head sand help give is the positivty to push through the tough stuff... our health is something we can control.. and our health and energy will def help us get through it!

well i am up a pound from last week. but it is only one pound and i know that i was not the best this week on everything. well i am making up for my ice cream indulgeance from yesterday. i am making homemade chicken noodle soup and also bought the stuff to make a ceaser salad. the only thing i did not get to go with the salad was some mushrooms.. they are so good sauteed and added to the ceaser salad. well i will be back later.

Sparkle - Thanks for understanding.......I'm glad your finding the positive side to a bad situation (job loss)...it can definately be a good thing if you let it. I lost my job a year ago and it has been the best thing to happen to me in a long time. I have gotten to stay home with my baby girl and my hubby and I'm going to school full time. It truely was a blessing!


Fauxtini - We missed you so much! I'm glad your back on track.....your right it is time for us to pull each other up!!! Glad your back :hug:


BTW.....I did get my nails done today! I may post pics later...LOL