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  •   #16  
    purplepansy912's Avatarpurplepansy912 , 05-31-2006 10:35 PM
    My friend's husband is tall, very thin, is not attractive and is balding!! HUH
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    Kate109's AvatarKate109 , 06-01-2006 05:07 AM
    Thanks for your support and encouragement!
    Yeah, I really had to stand up...and do something..But now itīs too late. And I am always paralyzed when it comes to weight discussions.

    But I was *impressed* about the amount of self esteem the boys in our class showed. Ok, most girls in law school here look like as the just jumped out of an Ralph Lauren commercial. Tall, blond, thin, expensive clothes. Most boys wear expensive clothes as well, but they donīt have the pressure with being thin and looking beautiful. The cover that with snobism and arrogance. Anyway...The boys in the class, some of them a bit overweight, a bit bald etc., all judged overweight WOMEN.

    purplepansy912: That story sounds so familiar to me! I had some expiriences with such men. And I had a fat- hating woman as a boss for a few months as I was part time working in an office. She tried hard to make life more difficult for me- and to tell me really often that I maybe should diet.
    I am not sure if that is just here in Europe, but I met a lot of people who really hate overweight people.
    I somehow always manage to get that people as my doctors....Me: "Oh, can you help me, I am coughing?" Answer doc: "Itīs because you are overweight. Loose 50 pounds and come back"



    Kate
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    LindaB763's AvatarLindaB763 , 06-01-2006 01:25 PM
    Omg
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    Originally Posted by purplepansy912
    My friend's husband is tall, very thin, is not attractive and is balding!! HUH
    Oh he sounds like a real winner! Jerk.

    Why do people act like being overweight is some dreaded disease that you can catch?! Afraid that we might rub off on them? That just goes to show how shallow minded they are. Why can't they accept a person based on their personality?! My best friend in junior high/high school was extremely discriminated against. Not because she was overweight, but simply due to the fact that she was handicapped. She MIGHT have weighed 75 pounds, was 4'6", had scoliosis (curveage of the spine) and was missing about 3 ribs so she walked very crooked. All I can say is ... they missed out on having a fantastic friend!
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    famograham's Avatarfamograham , 06-01-2006 02:47 PM
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    Originally Posted by angel-eyes
    I later wrote to the manager after I got home and received a "how can you expect us to provide larger robes when you didn't inform us when you made your reservation" from the Manager. WHAT??? Needless to say I wasn't impressed!!!
    WOW!

    I don't know if I've BEEN more furious reading any thread as I am with this one!

    I'm so sorry for ANYONE who is treated this way!!

    The spa thing REALLY got me.

    I am a trained and licensed esthetician...but I do not work in the field. I discovered after my training and a few months of working that I do no fit in to that culture, AT ALL.

    I worked in a shop for a while, and I was the new girl. I was sent every day to pick up everyone else's lunches and do deposits...etc. I'm not sure if that's normal...but I didn't like it very much.

    I LOVED some of the clients, the talking and confiding that goes on. The magic of making someone feel so special, the tears that roll down someones face at being touched because they are so alone in their own life. Those things I adore and miss deeply.
    BUT There are also the condescending, high and mighty people who look at you as a servant...which is just horrible.

    One day I was giving a woman a pedicure and we were chatting away....everything seemed fine. I was telling her how much I wanted to have a second child (hadn't had my daughter yet). She scowled down at me and said: "Well, you BETTER get that weight off first....aren't you worried about your HEART?????"
    Well, I was STUNNED...I looked down at her feet..my face turned RED and it took all the strength in my soul not to burst out in tears.

    Where the heck do people get off thinking they have the right to speak to someone like that??? I just don't understand

    My heart is truly with anyone who experiences discrimination of any kind


    Linda
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    angel-eyes's Avatarangel-eyes , 06-01-2006 04:48 PM
    Thankyou Linda for your kind words. You know the girls weekend away was over 7 years ago, and at times it feels like it was yesterday when I think of it. I can't say that I tell everyone about it, but here....I find it a very safe and nonjudgemental place. I'm sorry you had a bad experience also, you are so right.....who are they to say those things!!! I guess rude people are just plain RUDE!!! no excuse. BTW.....I just love Vancouver Island. Dh took me there for a bday surprize a few years ago and I just fell in love with it. The drive through the surrounding mountains was fantastic!!!
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    famograham's Avatarfamograham , 06-01-2006 05:17 PM
    Thank you!

    I just don't get it, the way people treat others.

    The only way I would do esthetic's again, is if I were working for myself..running my own business, and could gear my business toward the type of people that I want to help.

    And about the Island....thanks so much. I've never lived anywhere else except for a few months in the interior of BC. While I was there I physically CRAVED the ocean. I think there's something about being surrounded by it. The ocean is in my blood and apparently I can't live without it..

    I'd never want to live anywhere but here...I love it.


    Linda
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